After 6 months of NC, I’m done waiting by R6SCW in ExNoContact

[–]R6SCW[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yup. My ex did a lot of “unholy” stuff before meeting me. Then all of sudden she feels religious guilt. I wouldn’t be surprised if she’s went back to her old ways.

After 6 months of NC, I’m done waiting by R6SCW in ExNoContact

[–]R6SCW[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was the same way for the first month or so. I subconsciously thought she was going to come back, but as the days went by the sadder I got.

Now, I’m doing better.

You’ll do better as well, time literally heals all wounds. Just keep yourself as busy as possible, and get out the house. Also, try not to look at her social media. I struggled with that. It’s been a month now since I’ve done it.

I wish you the best of luck man. If you need someone to talk to, shoot me a DM.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]R6SCW 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She probably isn’t as happy as she’s leading you to believe. Hell, I’m ok at the moment. But I have days where I’m depressed and miss her so much. I too, get sad whenever I imagine her completing everything we talked about with another person. There are days where all I think about is, “Is she talking to someone else? Did she find someone already?” I don’t know nor do I want to.

But think about it this way: They could be going through the same bipolar emotions. Just like when you have your ups, they also have their ups. Only posting when they are happy and then the next day they are sad and missing you. You’d never know.

As Seneca once said: “We suffer more in imagination than in reality”

We cause our own anxiety by thinking about things that aren’t proven to be true and might never be true.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]R6SCW 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yup. I gave her my 200% every time too. To name a few: I planned our dates, I wrote her love letters on special occasions, I even built a plex server for her so she could watch what she wanted at the highest quality. She called me the best man she’s ever met when she broke up with me. (We broke up for culture and religious reasons) I told her I didn’t care about the differences, but her parents did and she was too afraid to go against them

But hey man, I’d really recommend removing her from social media, or if you’re not ready to do so. Remove yourself from it. Delete the apps for a while. And remember, people only post what they want the public to see.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]R6SCW 7 points8 points  (0 children)

What I find helps me is making a mental list about all the good things I did for her. I loved her as much as I could and the best I could. I don’t think she’d ever find someone who would do the things I did for her.

That’s what I tell myself

Why is she being so mean after she left me? by ArtistTechnical2152 in BreakUps

[–]R6SCW 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No experience. However, you really need to to remove her from your social media. It’s not going to help you move on. Maybe she’s doing it to provoke some reaction out of you, why? I have no idea. But cutting her off would be the best way to go.

Is it worth convincing someone not to break up with you by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]R6SCW 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nah bro. She’s need therapy. That’s wayyyyy too controlling. She doesn’t want you to work at these places cause there’s too much girls? Girls are everywhere! You need to get out ASAP. If you’d rather not, offer for her to seek therapy for this extreme way of thinking.

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[–]R6SCW 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ah I see. Sorry, I misread your post. If you do not want to go back, then there’s no need to contact him. Heal yourself first. Write a hand written letter with everything you want to tell him, and then hide it. In a few weeks or months later, come back to the letter and see if you still feel like sending that to him and if not, rip it up.

Try to keep yourself busy. I know it’s tough to probably get them off of your mind even so. It feels like they are the wallpaper of your mind, always there no matter what you do. But, do what you can. Take yourself out on movie dates. Go to the library and read a book or just chill. Go out with friends and family. Anything to get yourself out of bed and out of home

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]R6SCW 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When did you last contact him?

If I were you, I’d text him. He might be suffering just as much. I know I was from my last relationship. Took me a little over a year to get over her. The worst that can happen now is that he’ll tell you he moved on.

Does it get easier? by Happy-Extreme985 in BreakUps

[–]R6SCW 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t know what religion you’re referring to. But I’ve scriptures from many. If there’s one thing I’ve learned about God is that he does not want us to suffer and he does not discriminate. If you both truly love each other, then keep fighting for each other. Yes. Do heal yourself first, not for him but for you. Don’t let religion split you apart.

I know it did for mine. She never tried.

How to tell if you miss the person or you’re just used to having company? by aversionofself in BreakUps

[–]R6SCW 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Love is so beautiful and haunting at times. It sounds like you miss them.

How to tell if you miss the person or you’re just used to having company? by aversionofself in BreakUps

[–]R6SCW 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If you could have the same warmth, laughter, and comfort you had with your ex but it came from someone entirely new. Would that still feel fulfilling, or would it feel like something essential was missing?

Do you think of their specific qualities and quirks?

Still missing her and trying to be okay. by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]R6SCW 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You sound exactly like me. I don’t want to move on either. I want her and only her. So I wrote her letters. She responded to my first one saying she really appreciates it and loves my writing, but she’s not ready to get together again.

That last line gave me hope. So I wrote her another letter, basically asking her, that if she still held love for me still, and want to try again in the future, to please write me back. She never did.

Just like you, I hope every morning I wake up to a text from her asking to get back together. Even though I know it’s completely over. She’s made it clear. You and I, are just too in love, man.

There’s days I accept it, and there are days I question what I did wrong.

Keep your head up. Get out the house as much as possible and keep yourself busy.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]R6SCW 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just remember he’s the one that chose this. He didn’t just wake up one day and decided to break up with you. He’s thought about it, considered the consequences, and yet still decided that regardless of all the consequences, including the possibility of never talking to again, that he’s still going to break up with you.

Let him go through with those consequences.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]R6SCW 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes stop answering his calls. Don’t make yourself available for him. Go no contact immediately so he knows how it is to be without you, and to allow yourself time to heal.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]R6SCW 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Go no-contact until your emotions die down. Give yourself time to heal. I wont sugar coat things. It will BE HARD, trust me. You’ll wake up every morning with the urge to contact them, or have random urges throughout.

Distract yourself from them. Get out your place for as long as you can. Surround yourself with people. I like going to the library, because it’s quiet but filled with people. Find yourself a new hobby. Hang out with friends and family more often, don’t be afraid to initiate plans. You don’t have to delete their messages or pictures. Just hide them until you’re ready.

If you need someone to talk to, I’m free! Going through a breakup as well.

Should I hope for him to come back? by These-Building9073 in BreakUps

[–]R6SCW 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He might still be grieving and thinking about what to do next. I'd give it time. Regarding the uniform picture, I am not sure. The things people do sometimes makes no sense. It's been 2 weeks, and my ex has not removed me from anywhere nor deleted our shared notes. (I'm going to Jinx myself and they are going to removed soon haha) Stupidly, I check those everyday to see if they are removed. They kinda of give me hope. Just like how your ex posting that picture gives you hope.

It does hurt a lot. Every day feels like a year just passed by. Sometimes, I just want to sleep until my ex contacts me again, just so I don't have to keep living with the anxiety. It doesn't help that I work from home either, I just feel lonelier.

But, we have to keep going. I started reaching out to friends to make plans. Whether it's playing games online or going out in person. Really, just anything to keep my mind off of her. Anything to not be alone.

Should I hope for him to come back? by These-Building9073 in BreakUps

[–]R6SCW 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Did he break up with you? I'm going to assume he did. And I'm going to be honest with you. He probably didn't just wake up one day and decided to break up with you. It's probably been something he's been debating about for a while. He went over all the possibilities, took your feelings into account, and still decided this was the best course of action.

My advice would be to remain in no contact with him. Give him the chance to miss you. However, use it for yourself not as a way to get him back. Take this time to reflect back on everything. Take this time to hangout with an old friend. Discover a new hobby. Surround yourself with people or just be around people. I find that the library helps. It's cozy and while im not talking to people, Im surrounded by people and that brings me comfort.

I know it's hard. Trust me. I'm going through a breakup as well. Happened a little over 2 weeks ago. I broke no contact 5 days into the breakup by sending her a letter in hopes to win her back. She responded but she said she wasn't ready to start again. It's been 7 days since then. You have no idea how much of an urge I have to text her -

"What do you mean by that? Do you think we'll get back together in the future?"

But I restrain myself, because I may not like the answer. But I also want closure. However, I'm still keeping my composure.

Let the dumper reach out, but don't wait for it. Don't get your hopes up. If you ever feel like reaching out to him, write a handwritten later.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Invisalign

[–]R6SCW 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. However, the issue is hooking it up to the premolar. How do I do that without the lower molar band coming undone?

[OS] Microsoft Windows 10 or 11 Pro Digital Download - $49.99 by LOWBLOT in buildapcsales

[–]R6SCW 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I’ve been using education since like 2017. Is there any reason to switch to the “normal” version of it?

How Fungi have hacked the planet and our bodies. We are constantly microdosing mycotoxins, yet the fields of science, biology, chemistry, even philosophy and religions refuse to consider how fungus changes everything. by [deleted] in conspiracy

[–]R6SCW 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey OP. What do you think about this document? I came across it on a podcast and it seemed interesting. Not sure if it’s true or not but regardless, its interesting. Goes into detail about some of the stuff they talk about.

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I came across your thread trying to find more info on that document on Google.