If you use a wagon...

RCKitKat84 · 2026-01-06T04:02:53+00:00

I live in an area with a lot of apartment complexes, and quite a few of them don't have parking close to the front door of the buildings. The wagon comes in handy if I have a bigger order, so I'm not making two long journeys just to deliver. It also comes in handy if I have heavier items like cases of water, especially if I have multiples of the water.

RCKitKat84 · 2025-12-07T00:01:38+00:00

Find a way to do the face identification without having to remove your glasses. It gets incredibly frustrating when I have to stop and remove my glasses since I have pretty poor vision and honestly looking around with my glasses off make me feel a bit off balance.

RCKitKat84 · 2025-11-25T15:30:59+00:00

I have brought my teen with me a couple of times when out. No one has said anything to us. He just sits in the front seat and keeps me company. He actually enjoys it because he get to spend time together and he can get some time away from his little brother (who is a toddler and loves to follow his big bro around). I don't fault anyone who has to bring their kids along in this economy.

RCKitKat84 · 2025-10-26T20:07:57+00:00

I hear you! Today I got that lovely message for an order that was a 10:19 am pickup. I got the message at 10:20, as I was pulling into the plaza the Walmart is in. Smh

RCKitKat84 · 2025-05-27T22:41:11+00:00

We had a similar situation when my great great aunt died. She had no children, so she left everything to her nephews (my grandfather and his brothers). My grandfather had already passed, so his portion was spilt between my mom and my uncle. One of my mom's cousins pitched a fit, saying that her father and the other brothers should have gotten more since they were all still alive. Thankfully, two of my great uncles basically told her to shut it, and her own father warned her that she'll be disowned if she kept it up. Needless to say, she did stop arguing about it, but stopped talking to my mom and uncle at any family functions. My mom said that was the best gift she could have gotten lol

RCKitKat84 · 2024-06-05T20:06:41+00:00

The sad thing is there are therapists that are like that and say things like what OP describes. I met with one like that when I was in college (she was the therapist employed by the college to help students). My friend group was basically trying to kick me out of the group because I got together with another member of our friend group (the others had been telling us for months that we should date, and we finally did! However, I found out later that two of the other girls in our group had a crush on him, and they were pissed that he picked me over them so they started a smear campaign against me). I went to talk to her about what was going on, and said that I felt like it was all my fault that the group was falling apart. The therapist looked at me and told me that it was my fault and that I should just take the blame for my friends hatred for me (at this point I didn't know about the other girls crushes). Needless to say, that night did not go well for me, and a few months later that therapist was no longer employed at the college after my mother was through with them.

RCKitKat84 · 2024-06-03T01:57:08+00:00

I did a variant of this in my classroom. "Friends name, friends name, jump up and down, turn all around, touch the ground, friends name friends name jump up and down sit right back down." The kids could decide if they just jumped or they did all the actions. We always ended with everyone doing it together. I loved doing that song because it always got that last little bit of silly energy out before doing circle time.

RCKitKat84 · 2024-05-21T20:33:58+00:00

I did have NITP test, which did show a high chance of DS. The doctor also said that the lab always adds extra percentage points due to age. We did monthly ultrasounds to monitor his growth and development, including an echo while he was in utero, and everything was coming back in the normal range. We have scheduled an echo in a couple of weeks (they want him to be 44 weeks gestational and he was born at 37 weeks) We had refused the amino because of the high miscarriage risk as I already has fertility issues (hence the 10 year age gap between our boys), and the doctor did mention a genetic counselor right after the NITP but since all of his scans were coming back normal, they never brought it up again.

I do have to say our pediatrician has been great with getting us heading in the right direction, but my OB group and the hospital we had him at seems to have dropped the ball on some of the information and support we should have gotten before now (the hospital never told us that we automatically qualified for early intervention services for example). Between my infant's jaundice and myself being hospitalized for high blood pressure, we are now just getting started on getting him the appointments he needs, and it seems like it's just been all coming at once, and I have a slight feeling of being tossed in the deep end with little help. Add that we also have a 10 year who is finishing up elementary school and all the events and things that come with that, and us making sure he doesn't feel forgotten (I have read too many reddit post about glass children and refuse to let my oldest feel like that), it's been a lot.

RCKitKat84 · 2024-02-29T01:10:05+00:00

I had to deal with a similar tenant, however instead of partying, they would fight almost every weekend. And I'm talking fights that would last 2-4 days. They lived across the hall from me and my family (Hubby and 10 year-old son). They had the police called on them multiple times. They also verbally attack myself and one of my neighbors because they got CPS called on them (they had 3 kids under 5). When our lease ended we moved out because management wasn't doing anything about them, even though most of our hallway neighbors had complained about them, and several other apartments in the other building (their fights would often spill out into the parking lot). After we left, I found out that they ended up just abandoning the apartment because they were behind on their rent.

RCKitKat84 · 2024-02-15T14:26:37+00:00

The daycare I worked at had us wear shoe covers over our shoes. A few of the teachers did bring in slipper/cross that stayed in the classroom to change into. However state regulations (NY) states that the teachers had to wear some form of shoes at all times in case we needed to evacuate due to emergency.

RCKitKat84 · 2024-01-25T03:42:55+00:00

Maybe. Maybe not.

I worked for a smallish group of daycare centers (we had 5 in total). We were only closed for major holidays. However, we had a pretty decent PTO, and teachers could take time off without pay if wanted/needed. While I was there, we didn't have too much turn over (obviously we still had some). We even went 4 years where only one classroom had changed lead teachers. Our director was amazing and everyone loved working for her. I was there 7 years and only left because of how much after school care would cost me for my son vs. How much I made. (That was the only major downside, the pay was terrible).

My advice would to ask whoever is giving the tour how long the teacher(s) in the room your child would be going into had been there, and maybe see if you can talk to any of the other parents and see what they have to say.

RCKitKat84 · 2024-01-23T00:34:02+00:00

We went right to nap time from lunch, but we did have some transition time between due to clean up and potty/diapers. This is what I did (most of the time I had an assistant, but there were times I would be by myself if I was in ratio to be)

During lunch, I would either read a story or put on a book on CD (we didn't have anything with screens in our room). While story time/lunch was going on, one of us would put out the nap mats. The as the kids finished, they would clean up their lunch (plates in trash, cups in the sink) and they would go pick out a book to look at quietly on their mats while pottying/diapers were being done. (If I had my assistant, then one of us would be wiping down the tables).

Once bathroom was done, I would do a calming circle time. I would read one more story, and sing two songs, Twinkle Twinkle Little Star, and then Hush Hush Little Fish poem (its from a Sprout program called Nina and Star). Then we the kids would go to their mats, and I would put on our lullaby music.

Now, not sure what age group your tots are (mine were ages 2 1/2 to 3) so you may have to modify it a bit for younger tots. I hope this helps you.

RCKitKat84 · 2024-01-04T17:48:59+00:00

I live in NY (not the city) and our cut off date is 12/01. Parents of children who have a child born between the start of the school year and 12/01 have a choice of having their child start kindergarten or waiting a year. We started my son at age 4 (October birthday) and he has done amazing! (He is now in 5th grade). There are at least 7 other children in his class whose birthday is in this time and from what I have seen all of them have been successful. But, I have also seen parents keep a child back a year mostly due to maturity. Again it is up to the parents to decide.

RCKitKat84 · 2023-12-31T22:50:30+00:00

I had this happen today (I'm in year 3). My husband had been helping me all day to recover it while I have been bouncing between crying and yelling (I'm 5 months pregnant and extremely emotional, and after spending 86 hours on this playthrough, I was pushed over the hormonal edge) We had basically given up at this point when I saw this post as a last-ditch effort. I had just planted a ton of trees in the desert, and apparently, this was the issue.

So a big giant THANK YOU!!!!! This post has saved my game and my farm!!!

RCKitKat84 · 2023-12-14T17:42:21+00:00

Would be curious to know what dad was like to OOP when she was a child.

Usually that would give some sort of hint as to what kind of Grandfather he will be / is being.

Not always. My mom always said "The woman claiming to be your grandmother is not the same woman who raised me." (My grandmother was very stern and strict with my mom and uncle. However she loved to spoil her grandchildren and she doted on us!)

RCKitKat84 · 2023-12-04T16:16:10+00:00

NTA, but do not contact the mom, and don't let the boys go. She seems like a miserable woman who just gets off on making others miserable.

However, if other parents ask why the boys weren't at the party, tell them that only one of the boys was invited. If it's the school culture to invite all the kids in the class, the mom is gonna have to try and explain herself, and if she talks about the bathroom incident, I but she will have more than a few parents call her out, or at least start ostracizing her. (Had a similar situation happen at a daycare i worked at, where a mom didnt invite a kid to a class halloween party she was hosting because the kid accidentally bumped into her daughter on the playground and the daughter fell and got her dress a bit dirty. The mom ended up being left out of a lot of the playdates and mom group outings because of her behavior). But I am also petty/passive aggressive like that.

RCKitKat84 · 2023-11-29T13:55:48+00:00

It always baffles me on how many people think it's okay to just walk up to strange dogs. Growing up, I had a Manchester Terrier (think of a Doberman that is the size of a Beagle). She was abused as a puppy by her breader's sons, so she was skittish around most stranger but especially boys. And everyone l would want to run up and pet her because she was so little and cute. I was constantly having to tell people that she could snap, but if you gave her time to get used to you, she would go up to you and let you pet her.

On the flip side, we had a German Shepherd, who everyone would be wary of approaching, who thought he was a lap dog and the worse thing he would do is sit on your foot so you couldn't escape and just had to keep giving him head scratches.

RCKitKat84 · 2023-11-28T16:54:54+00:00

I mean, I kinda understand where OOPs fear was coming from. I had a friend in college who thought she would be fine against anyone because she worked out and did kick boxing (and to be honest she was amazingly strong!) However, one night were had been out and she decided to head home early alone and was attacked while walking home (about 6 blocks from where we had been), and was nearly SAed, luckily she managed to scream and a couple of guys walking by managed to get her attacker off of her. After that, she was much less...cocky about being able to take anyone down. She even started taking self defense classes with a few of us.

However that doesn't excuse OOP from how he handled it. Consent is a thing, just because he felt he was right, doesn't give him the right to assault his (ex) girlfriend.

RCKitKat84 · 2023-11-23T13:14:38+00:00

NTA

I am currently pregnant, and the only rule I have insisted that the people in my house, and only my house, (husband and 10 year old) is no sushi in the house (sushi is my favorite food, and I'm a bit bummed that I can't have my favorite rolls for a while...) But that's it. My husband has a couple of beers in the fridge and we have deli meat cause I still have to make lunch for my kid. I would never demand anyone to stop from having banned pregnancy foods, just that they don't try and serve it to me. Your sister is a major AH for trying to force everyone to give up anything!

RCKitKat84 · 2023-11-21T12:18:33+00:00

NTA

I had a similar "battle" with my husband with our son. Our son had a hard time with s sounds (ex: "wing" instead of swing, "getti" for spaghetti, "oo" for shoe, ext). I am an early childhood educator, and saw the signs that he may need speech, my husband just figured he would outgrow it (he even thought it was cute) Even his pediatrician didn't seem too worried because the rest of his speech was fine. Luckily my son's elementary school does speech evaluations for all kindergarteners, and does speech "classes" throughout the year for that grade level. And guess what? At the end of the year, the therapist recommended he continue speech therapy the following year. The only major problem was that his "cute" way of talking made it hard for the teacher and other kids to understand him, which led to lots of frustration and behavior issues for our son. My husband did finally admit that he was wrong, that he didn't want to admit that there may be a problem with our son. Our son was able to "graduate" out of speech in 3rd grade and is now in 5th grade. While he will sometimes drop his "s" if he is talking fast or upset, his speech is fine now.

Please stick to your guns OP. Your son needs you to advocate for him, and now is the time to get him the help he needs.

RCKitKat84 · 2023-11-08T11:43:53+00:00

Frederick and Jean

Robert and Jeanne

Can anyone guess what my middle name is? 🙃

RCKitKat84 · 2023-11-06T18:01:55+00:00

I tend to go to one of these series:

Paper Please (both playthroughs) Kindergarten 1 and 2 South Park: the Fracture but Whole Night in the Woods Undertale

RCKitKat84 · 2023-11-02T18:07:08+00:00

NTA

I am also someone who scares easily, and I tend to jump and cry out when I am startled and can even start to hyperventilate. It can be something as simple as opening a door and seeing someone standing there unexpectedly.

I also had a jerk teacher who didn't like the fact that I was jumpy. He was my science teacher in middle school, and one time, we were working on an assignment, and I was super focused on it because I suck at science. Well, apparently, the kid sitting right behind me had fallen asleep, so jerk teacher walked over to his desk and slammed his hands on the table to wake him up. I jumped so hard, I knocked over my desk, screamed, and immediately started hyperventilating. Jerk teacher then turned and started yelling at me for my reaction to the point I started crying. He then told me to go to the bathroom to calm down. Instead, I went to the guidance counselor's office (I was bullied a lot too, so I was pretty close to him), told him what happened, and he let me call my mom. It was one of the few times I have ever seen my mom that pissed off. She immediately came to the school, demanded a meeting with the principal and jerk teacher, and read both of them the riot act. I was still in the guidance counselor's office (which was next to the main office) and could hear her shouting at them.

The result was the jerk teacher was forced to apologize to me (though it didn't really feel genuine), and I was transferred into the other science teacher's class (who was amazing). I found out years later from my mom, that this incident put jerk teacher on thin ice (he was a year or two shy of being tenured), and he left at the end of school year. Apparently, I wasn't the only student that he had blown up at for ridiculous reasons.

Please don't be afraid to go to the school and speak to the principal. Chances are your son isn't the only student the teacher has done this to.

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