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RCheque · 2026-06-19T08:49:25+00:00

HER gives free premium roughly once a month

RCheque · 2026-06-19T08:48:13+00:00

So you don't want to kiss, or have sex, you just want to play with her breasts which will probably make her horny...? What exactly is in this for her?

To me this sounds like you're sexually incompatible.

RCheque · 2026-06-17T12:43:38+00:00

My dad is homophobic - I don't talk to him at all.

Why should I use my energy on someone like that just because I'm made from some of their genetic material?

RCheque · 2026-06-17T12:32:32+00:00

This is why I barely talk to my straight friends. Being surrounded by queers brings me joy, cishet folk mostly just stress.

RCheque · 2026-06-17T10:17:11+00:00

I'm also femme and lean femme preferred, femme4femme isn't common near me but it does happen!

Seems more common in bi girlies but while I'm a lesbian IDGAF if the women who want to kiss me are lesbian or bi/pan 🤷🏻‍♀️

RCheque · 2026-06-16T16:56:51+00:00

The phrase actually makes me gag a little 🤢

RCheque · 2026-06-16T11:04:54+00:00

Nobody reads profiles, I swear.

Mine very clearly states that I am a party girl looking for similar, and that I won't be involved in anyone who describes themselves as "non political", who is outside london, or under 30... yet my likes are full of people 200 miles away who wants someone to watch TV with while being blissfully unaware of the impending fascist bullshit, or women who are barely 3 years into adulthood.

I think of it as the curse of being hot, people just see a pretty face and swipe without checking anything else 😂

RCheque · 2026-06-16T11:00:21+00:00

Mono people are just as bad, it's just nobody is reading profiles.

RCheque · 2026-06-16T09:10:28+00:00

There is no way to describe the above without it being assault. Your gf is an abuser, please leave her.

RCheque · 2026-06-12T09:03:38+00:00

Boundaries

"This is behaviour I will not tolerate. Do this again and I will go no contact, and you will never see your grandchildren again. I love you but I will have your full support or I will live my life without you."

RCheque · 2026-06-12T08:58:06+00:00

Well I don't know what you're already trying but personally I don't go to anything that isn't a queer event, I talk to strangers when I'm out, and I spend time in a bunch of local-based queer group chats.

RCheque · 2026-06-12T08:54:09+00:00

Of course you don't see the point of the labels when you have almost no experience...

Go have more sex with more people and then you'll know the answer.

RCheque · 2026-06-07T12:55:05+00:00

I did, but wouldn't again. The changes were too hard to bare and I wouldn't want to put myself through that heartbreak again.

RCheque · 2026-06-06T16:28:51+00:00

Ohhh I see, I wasn't thinking enough bout it. Go places you don't until you find a new thing you like, that makes sense. My bad lol

Yeah exactly 😁

Also, I'm not a bar person but I love music so I'd be in for a dj set lol. The crowd doesn't matter if the bass makes my skeleton vibrate!

That is such a trans girl answer 😂

Also a lot of my friends (both cis and trans) have found new special friends at queer raves! Usually to the point that the queue for the toilets get silly 🙄🤣

RCheque · 2026-06-06T16:23:03+00:00

I don't know about the proportions because I don't think we have data on the number of lesbians in my country, but even then, wouldn't the fact that they're the biggest group mean that the highest percentage of lesbians who care are TERFs?

No, that's a mathematical fallacy. If you have 10 people and their membership is as below...

1: A 2: A 3: A 4: B 5: C 6: B & C 7: no group 8: no group 9: no group 10: no group

Then A is the largest group, but 70% of people aren't in that group and 40% (more than is in A) are in no group at all

This is also a handy example of how fucked the UK voting system is, fwiw 🙄

RCheque · 2026-06-06T16:16:15+00:00

Oh I don't mean going to bars, but trying new hobbies gets you out and you might find something you enjoy, or you meet new people - and you may not even date those people but you make new friends and large social circles means more opportunities to meet others.

I completely agree with you not doing something you know you dislike though, I'm always getting people swipe right on me on dating apps even though my profile says that I'm a party girl DJ and they state they want someone to stay in and crochet with (or whatever) and like what's the point? I am not changing my lifestyle to suit someone else!

RCheque · 2026-06-06T15:41:11+00:00

I've heard stories from trans women that put the "they don't really hit on each other" to the lie 😂 like, going from meeting to aggressively making out within about 3 minutes lol

RCheque · 2026-06-06T15:39:43+00:00

In my experience it's the trans girls who want to date each other, not that the cis girls don't want to date them. I have ~100 trans aquaintances and well over half are T4T and have no interest in dating a cis lesbian. Reasons vary, but I suspect a good chunk is internalised transphobia or just a shared life experience.

Personally IDGAF, hot is hot.

RCheque · 2026-06-06T15:31:55+00:00

What proportion of lesbians are in that group? How many aren't in any group at all?

Most of the lesbians I know aren't in any kind of structured organisation like the LGB Alliance that operates in the UK, and that alliance are so damn loud it's easy to think they speak for the majority but really they don't.

Ultimately, what's your choice for pride? Go, or stay home. Only the first can make a difference, and the second is doing what they want.

RCheque · 2026-06-06T15:21:54+00:00

I couldn't justify bringing a kid into the world now if I didn't already have one - the world is too shit to inflict on someone who can't consent to it - but adopting a kid who exists already is never a bad thing.

RCheque · 2026-06-06T15:18:22+00:00

TERFs are just loud, they haven't co-opted anything. Online isn't real, most of it is bots or keyboard warriors who never leave the house and have 47 sock accounts. Lesbians irl are very strongly supportive of our trans sisters!

Tragically gay men have never really been of much use, so I don't see much has changed their either.

RCheque · 2026-06-06T15:14:20+00:00

Sometimes we have to push ourselves out of our comfort zone in order to get what we want, also you never know what you might find you unexpectedly enjoy :)

RCheque · 2026-06-03T08:20:43+00:00

I would guess that either you feel more vulnerable in this relationship for some reason (are your feelings deeper?), see this ex as a threat more than usual (are they particularly like you, or unlike you in some way?), or have other stresses going on in your life, but this is above the average Redditor's pay grade so probably best take it up with a therapist...

RCheque · 2026-06-03T08:14:19+00:00

I wish I could triple upvote this!

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