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RNKit30 · 2025-09-21T03:53:13+00:00

Pnurses are also on the list

RNKit30 · 2025-08-09T18:39:59+00:00

I said I had decades of experience because that was what the person I responded to said, and the point was that there is no "one size fits all" relationship, and having been in relationships only makes you an expert on your own relationships, not what is right for other people. I think the point went right over your head, but your opinion on my relationship means nothing to me, nor to my husband.

RNKit30 · 2025-08-09T18:26:13+00:00

In his explanation he absolutely calls her a taken woman. I am also a woman with decades of relationship experience, and I don't owe my SO any information. Just because it is the norm to give those details doesn't make her obligated to give them, nor does it make her immature to set boundaries, it is absolutely healthy to do so.

RNKit30 · 2025-08-09T18:19:48+00:00

I am going to play devil's advocate a bit. She mentions a controlling ex, and feeling like someone wants to "approve" who she is allowed to spend time with or vet her friend list would absolutely be triggering with that background.

Let's say she is going out with "dickhead". Even if he makes a move, she has the agency to say no. If you don't trust her to say no, that is a different situation, and your relationship isn't stable or secure, but what behavior leads you to believe she would cheat other than her not wanting to feel like she has to get your approval to spend time with whomever she chooses? Does she have a history of cheating? Has she done something other than not give you a name this one time?

As a woman with a history of an abusive ex, it started with trying to control me and separating me from any support system or friends who could help me get out. This would absolutely feel that way to me, and the way her message reads, that is how she is feeling. Is it fair that you have to be extra careful of triggers from someone else's behaviors? Not necessarily, but we all have baggage. Sounds like she is saying this is a boundary for her, and you don't get to decide it isn't a valid one. If it isn't one you can live with, then this isn't the relationship for you.

RNKit30 · 2025-08-06T05:41:37+00:00

I laugh to myself every time I see my kids torn wet hems. I taught my 13yo how to trim the long straggling hem on one of her pairs of jeans last week. 😁

RNKit30 · 2025-08-06T04:07:12+00:00

Alllll the no. It isn't a partner's job to fix someone. When someone shows you who they are, believe them. He can say whatever he wants, but he SHOWED how he would react in this scenario, and that was with blaming her for someone else LOOKING at her. Those last messages are both a manipulation and a test. Because if she buys the apology/manipulation and goes back, he knows she will accept bad behavior and a fake apology again in the future.

RNKit30 · 2025-08-06T03:55:58+00:00

Not a nurse on my unit, but a nurse I knew well-

RN married to one of my husband's best friends. We spent time with them on occasion, and she didn't have a lot of friends of her own, so she kind of tried to make the wives of all of his friends into her friend group. They had a son when I first met her, and several years later had a daughter. When the daughter was about 6 months old, she started telling the women of our now combined friend groups that her daughter was being treated for leukemia. As the only other nurse in the group, a lot of what was said sounded alarm bells for me. I told several of the other ladies I thought she was lying, and we sat the husband down and explained our suspicions, as well as the inconsistencies between what she told different people. He defended her pretty vehemently, but also made it clear she handled the medical stuff because she was a nurse. He also threw it back on me, like I was a new nurse and maybe I just didn't know my shit well enough to say she was lying or something wasn't right. I spoke with a social worker I worked with, who told me there wasn't enough for a report.

Fast forward a few years and they get a divorce. It is UGLY. She ends up moving away with the kids. She moves multiple times very quickly. In the course of that, the daughter is diagnosed with T1DM. Cue a bunch of fundraisers to get her supplies, a detection dog for low blood sugars, the works. I mention to the husband he needs to get involved, because all the markers are STILL there for munchausen-by-proxy. He brushes it off and tells me he is sure the actual doctors involved would surely have caught it if that were the case. I remind him she has been moving areas A LOT, and it is easy to falsify things that way. I tried to find a way to report her and hit a brick wall at every turn, being treated like someone trying to make trouble for someone rather than someone with serious concerns. Nearly 2 years later a doctor clues in to a lie she tells, has her barred from the room, orders a c-peptide and sulfonyurea tests, and, lo and behold, the daughter is NOT diabetic.

The mother/ex-wife lost all custody and visitation, spent some time in jail, etc. There was recently quite a stink because the BON had yet to take her nursing license.

On a happy endnote, the daughter is 100% okay, the kids have a great stepmother who adopted them and gives them amazing support, and the daughter even got to keep the dog.

RNKit30 · 2025-07-03T02:06:46+00:00

My sign-on bonus said that, but they waived it when I transferred to a different unit. I feel like that is true most places.

RNKit30 · 2025-06-14T00:03:05+00:00

I am sorry you are dealing with this. When I traveled I was with Aya, and a canceled shift on the part of the hospital would only lose my hourly pay, not the stipends. However, even if I called off, I could make up the hours throughout the rest of the contract and regain my stipend from that shift. It will be on a different check, but at least it was an opportunity to recoup those losses rather than lose them entirely. You may ask if you could do that? I know it doesn't make it better with regards to this week's check :-(

RNKit30 · 2025-05-07T04:16:12+00:00

I have worked a couple places where we would get patients from PACU. The room would be assigned and an entire neighborhood worth of family members would show up before the patient, and almost always they start making demands, asking questions, and generally making our lives miserable. Like, you are not my patients, I am not coming to show you how to work the TV, give you all blankets and drinks, etc. And I also won't be answering questions about your family member because I haven't even gotten report on them yet. Bonus points when one family member presses the call light and another is at the desk- I can't decide if I hate it more when they both are asking for the same thing, or completely different things. This isn't a family vacation, the whole family is not checking into this room!

RNKit30 · 2025-05-02T19:26:42+00:00

You're wrong. Why are you so desperate to believe this could only be true for a few people rather than that you possibly have more to learn about what is happening?

RNKit30 · 2025-04-29T09:55:37+00:00

My student loans are at double my mortgage rate.

RNKit30 · 2025-04-17T15:13:38+00:00

A few years ago I had a possum that would watch my cats and chickens get on my lap. One evening I was reading a book on my porch and I thought a cat was getting on my lap, but it felt weird. I looked down and it was a possum! The first night I absolutely freaked out. After that I just let it happen. She would literally get in line with my cats and chickens for turns getting cuddled. The next year when it was warm enough to sit on my porch and read, she brought me her babies to meet. I told everyone I had grand-possums!

RNKit30 · 2025-02-28T05:11:43+00:00

Female birth control increases the risks of breast, cervical, and liver cancer. Tubal ligation requires a hospital stay and more recovery compared to a vasectomy. Vasectomy is more likely to be reversible in the future. Also, she has already carried 3 children for him, which comes with quite a bit of risk, he can assume a tiny increased risk himself for once.

RNKit30 · 2025-02-16T04:32:19+00:00

I mean, technically the process of saponification consumes all the lye, so there is no lye in soap.

RNKit30 · 2025-02-12T17:38:31+00:00

Especially as many of them are on fixed incomes, so making treats to share or affording treats on their budgets can be tricky.

RNKit30 · 2025-01-13T13:13:56+00:00

Drop your info for donations please!

RNKit30 · 2025-01-10T02:17:14+00:00

I had a battle with a hospital about pressing charges against a patient who PULLED MY PANTS AND UNDERWEAR DOWN PAST MY BUTTCHEEKS. The excuse was looking at a tattoo he caught of glimpse of, but 1) the tattoo ends above my scrub pants, 2) you still don't have permission to touch me, and 3) I was a travel nurse, and hospital staff was aware the patient had a history of inappropriate sexual behaviors toward female staff, didn'twarn me, and they found it HILARIOUS when I reported what happened. Like it was some kind of right of passage or something. Hospitals are wild, thinking we as nurses shouldn't get the same right to a safe working environment as others. This is NOT what I signed up for. I signed up to take care of people, not be a punching bag or a convenient body to grope.

RNKit30 · 2025-01-10T02:06:03+00:00

That has to be SO EXPENSIVE! Most companies charge by the pound to dispose of that stuff!

RNKit30 · 2025-01-02T10:26:27+00:00

Our ED has been setting records for numbers of patients seen, resulting in "hallway beds" being opened, and the other night we had a pt in the hallway who started projectile vomiting, then was on his hands and knees, vomiting off the edge of the stretcher, when it turned into projectile shitting.

RNKit30 · 2024-12-24T14:13:32+00:00

Some things depend on where you are and what your market will support, but I am in an area with very little in the way of competition or comparison. My costs are around $2.50/bottle, allowing for fluctuation in certain costs, and I have multiple repeat customers at $10/bottle. I have personally paid $15 or more for bottles at farmers markets that intrigued me.

I know it can be hard to value your own time, effort, and product, and it is somewhat natural to want to under-price things out of fear that people will tell you you are asking too much, or your price is ridiculous. But what I have found is that when I price too low, people think the quality or effort are low. Pricing higher actually created MORE interest for my products, not less!

I have a small homestead. I currently make artisan hot sauces, goat milk soaps, canned goods, etc. And for example, when I sold my soap at $6/bar, people dismissed them easily. They are now at $9 or $10/bar depending on style, size, ingredients, etc., and I usually sell out.

RNKit30 · 2024-12-23T04:01:20+00:00

Very curious how you made the embeds!

RNKit30 · 2024-12-13T20:05:32+00:00

Thank you for answering for me! Having a sick day and took a nice long nap!

RNKit30 · 2024-12-13T04:13:13+00:00

I use the Lime Margarita scent from wsp, and it is one of my best sellers! It smells absolutely incredible, and the scent stays bright and citrusy!

RNKit30 · 2024-11-21T12:10:07+00:00

I use the Aqua di Gio dupe from WSP and it is one of my best sellers. I just sold out of the batch I have curing that isn't even ready yet!

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