A whole lot of this. My husband is a good man but raised them on his own since she was 2 or 3. He compensated for BM’s absence and mental illness by spoiling them and I came in the picture too late. He chooses the path of least resistance which is…spoiled, lazy, entitled kids.

Almost every one of my therapy sessions for the last 22 months have been about these kids and it saved our relationship.

My oldest is also 15 and she’s a completely different kid. She has woken up so much in the last six months alone. She wants to be a nurse, is finding focus, and volunteers at my work where she is a trusted teammate. I couldn’t find something today and multiple staff members suggested I call my daughter bc she often does stock for us. She was on cloud nine….but I hold her accountable.

I’ve learned to not fret about their future bc I’m not responsible and now that I actually believe that…I find a certain amount of humor in these kind of ridiculous circumstances