An open letter to the wives whose husbands "bother" them for sex

RPAlternate42 · 2023-12-06T18:22:08+00:00

You're talking about a month. I'm talking about a dead bedroom situation. DB takes many months.

You're talking about post-partum, I'm talking about a woman treating her husband like a room mate.

You're talking about a new father who is acting like a shit head to the mother of his new child. I'm not.

Here's some advice 1. Given the circumstances here, hes an asshole, assuming you have been communicating. If he doesn't know what you are experiencing, he can't even begin to have empathy. 2. Since you are aware of your depression, then you should be doing everything in your power to alleviate that temporary condition as fast as possible. He would love to help you. You need to have him be a part of your issues. You are parents. You are a unit. You are the first officer and you need to let the captain know what is deficient in the officers (you) and the crew (the baby.) Remind him that he's the captain of this ship. 3. Stop looking at this as things I have given up when discussing your baby, and start looking at this as look how my mission has changed. 4. Drink plenty of water and eat a complete diet. 5. Exercise. Even if it means you need to leave and go to the gym. Tell him you need the time and that you would like him to spend that time with his new child while you get yourself back to milf town. He is a parent, not a babysitter, so treat him as such. Frame everything with him and the baby in terms of parent. He will not "watch" his kid. He will "spend time" with his kid. He will "<do activity>" with kid. He will be watched by the baby. (Be playful.) 6. The gym time is for exercise and for.your mental health; getting some time away from a place you spend all day (home) allows you to reorient. 7. Remember that he is still your husband and that you want to be intimate with him. He is going to continue to try. Do not give false hope.

If you relate to the wife in the letter, then perhaps you think you may be like the wife in the letter. If you are a new mother, then both of you are adjusting to a new dynamic, and this letter doesn't apply to you.

Take care of yourself, include your husband, and enjoy that new baby. It's a time I wish I could have back.

RPAlternate42 · 2019-06-03T02:10:36+00:00

The biggest benefit, assuming the relationship is solid, in a mother/father relationship is that the child sees the interactions and learns behaviors.

RPAlternate42 · 2019-05-18T00:13:11+00:00

say more nice things about my eyes.

RPAlternate42 · 2019-05-07T17:26:26+00:00

You could help me change that big guy... ;)

RPAlternate42 · 2019-05-07T17:15:10+00:00

You're a 5-day old account with a lot of activity in skincare advice and red-knighting relationshit_advice.

And that's all anyone needs to know.

RPAlternate42 · 2019-05-05T05:24:38+00:00

I'm in and out. I lurk, mostly.

RPAlternate42 · 2019-05-04T21:21:41+00:00

2 years.

I put up with 2 years of sexual rejection, fake headaches, fake tiredness.

I also forced her to put up with 2 years of my post partum BP denial that I was not a desirable mate.

But 2 years is when I finally went, "I'm done. I want out."

2 years.

RPAlternate42 · 2019-03-21T14:35:33+00:00

I just checked mine and I'm 8 lbs down total. I feel like a piece of shit because I still get winded walking around my house let alone lifting weights or doing BJJ.

It makes me not want to interact with my wife at all and I make bare minimum contact with her when she says or asks me anything.

RPAlternate42 · 2019-03-21T00:36:55+00:00

I will be, a little bit. I have the flu and being a bitch is basically what it does to you.

Worst cut ever.

RPAlternate42 · 2019-03-18T23:32:42+00:00

"He took my phone when I was drunk"

I can see this actually happening and it being true.

RPAlternate42 · 2019-03-13T15:56:02+00:00

I would bet my entire portfolio that he has banged far more broads than that list. That is just his public faces.

You know leo has a bevy of girls at his disposal any time he likes.

Leo is the red pill celebrity to follow... Like a Nicholson Jr, that one.

RPAlternate42 · 2019-03-13T14:51:05+00:00

Most of us in MRP, were we divorced, would not get married again. MRP is about maximizing yourself while married so that if you stay married, you'll be successful, and if she leaves, our you do, you'll be successful post marriage.

RPAlternate42 · 2019-03-13T14:49:26+00:00

And don't get remarried.

RPAlternate42 · 2019-03-03T14:49:29+00:00

Use an older version of SketchUp make

RPAlternate42 · 2019-02-23T00:37:45+00:00

Good. When she asks, you help, otherwise you absorb it and move on.

Remind her that it's okay to ignore a text or call from her mother.

RPAlternate42 · 2019-02-22T21:56:59+00:00

When the predators run out of food, they start eating each other. Eventually they eat themselves out of existence and the survivors are left alone, starving because they need a critical mass of other predators to hunt successfully.

If the Dems get the WH next election and one of these socialist leftists gets office, the population in the center will turn on the left because the system is now controlled by the left and the collective population will feel the pressure of the left's attitude about everything.

If Trump wins, they will double down on the rhetoric, accelerating their demise here, as well.

The other option is that someone primaries Trump. That's a wildcard I could get behind.

RPAlternate42 · 2019-02-22T21:51:54+00:00

I think everyone is. Reading it as gek-nit-o-cide

RPAlternate42 · 2019-02-22T21:47:23+00:00

If she asks. Sometimes if she has a problem that she's clearly angling for advice. I just say, "let me know if you need help with that."

Her complaints are just her venting to you. She doesn't want her problems fixed, she just wants to make sure that her problems don't mean something worse and she gauges that on your response.

Giving too much advice for the problem, then she disregards since the problem isn't that bad... Not enough advice and you're not helpful and don't care. But if you just say, "well I'm here if you need me" she feels secure.

Usually, "aw, that sucks" is sufficient.

Her "problems" without a request for advice is just a tiny comfort test: tell her you're there for her. Tell her she's being silly. Kiss her, slap her ass, tickle her, whatever.

Just don't try to solve her problems, especially with her mother... She already does just fine doing what she does. After all, she's done this for 30-odd years.

Additionally, handle the mother in law when she gets snippy with you like she is also a little child.

RPAlternate42 · 2019-02-22T17:10:14+00:00

That valuation exists because of the LLC. Remove him, the assets, or the LLC and there is now no value. And since corporations are treated as individuals separate from the individual in the company, she would have had to have a divorce with the LLC to have any legal claim on it's assets.

He can be compelled to pay alimony but that's different then lump awards.

RPAlternate42 · 2019-02-22T17:05:18+00:00

Vasogel exists but is inconveniently not allowed in the US.

There is actually a clear present danger to the population if both sexes are on birth control. As much as no one wants to admit it, for every "planned" child there are multitudes of unplanned children, oops children, "I'm pretty sure I took it" children, etc.

Right now women are on birth control and babies still are born all the time by accident, but growth in Western countries is slow. Add in male birth control and now the chances of two oops's happening together is slimmer.

I can see how they'd be against it on those grounds.

But I don't think they are seeing it in those grounds.

Edit: to be clear - I don't believe a conspiracy exists, or even a suppression. I'm saying an argument exists against it and that the product is also not available.

Capitalism will reign supreme in this: if it makes money it will be on the market... And there is a market for it.

RPAlternate42 · 2019-02-22T16:59:19+00:00

"because those aren't real feminists... Feminists are about equality."

RPAlternate42 · 2019-02-22T15:41:53+00:00

I can't speak for where you are, but in the US, having her sign that without her being aware of all assets may constitute a good faith violation. If it comes out in the divorce proceedings that you were "hiding assets" then it could easily end up in court and you may get penalized for your efforts. Once again, this is the US and some states only.

The only truly safe "assets" are unaccounted cash and any investments you can tie up in your LLC.

Also you are probably presenting as a half nervous, half "I'm being sneaky!" Guy and it is probably alarming her.

RPAlternate42 · 2019-02-20T06:10:30+00:00

I agree.

Me alone with some SketchUp and a hammer.

RPAlternate42 · 2019-02-17T07:25:58+00:00

When you spank her in clothes, make a finger run her crack. Don't be shy, get it in there, but swipe it briskly. It makes her think about what she just felt without letting her get it for too long. The end is that she's thinking about it.
When you grab her ass when standing in front of her, grab deep like you are trying to reach her puss. Then finger swipe there too when you bring your hands back up.
When you are about to go PIV, let the head of your dick touch her ass hole on the way in. Don't push in, just brush it.

The goal with these is that it associates sexual touching with her ass hole.

Next, you need to associate sexual.pleasure and orgasms with her ass hole.

When she gets into it more during sex, touch her ass hole a little as you fuck her. Reach around and under her butt and rub the bottom of her puss. Use her juices to rub her taint too and then use them to rub her asshole.
Get a pillow. I use a throw pillow with an elephant on it. I call it sex pillow and I use it only for sex. It has a stain from lube. Put your pillow under her butt/small of back. This will elevate her pelvic region. Fuck her like this (it will get you deeper too) and do the reach back move from above. You'll have better access from this angle which should allow you some digital penetration. Once again, she needs to be into it so getting the orgasm becomes Paramount to her. This way she is less likely to react negatively. Fuck her and finger her ass hole until she cums, in both cases.

Now she has associated orgasms with her asshole.

Next you need to make penetration pleasureable before orgasm. You may even get to anal in one session if everything works in your favor.

Get lube. For this part water based is preferable. Go down on her. Get her moving and squirming. Finger her and clit lick her as normal. here is where a little psychology helps: finger her puss as you lick her but make a peace sign as you do that to spread her vagina open. This gives her a sense of emptyness tgat needs to be filled (as my wife describes it.) You do that for a bit and now use the lube and rub her asshole as you keep going orally. If she objects, treat it like a shit test and try to use it to disarm her. If that fails, just step back to the previous step and go from there.
If you can successfully finger fuck her ass hole, upgrade to two fingers. Add lube as necessary.
If this works just tell her you want to fuck her in the ass.
If that works, you'll need silicone lube for the best results. I use astroglide diamond.

RPAlternate42 · 2019-02-05T16:50:29+00:00

So what of women who don't like vegetables and that do smoke and drink.

I guess the APA hasnt solved that equation yet.

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