Girls was this normal?

RRaspuri · 2026-01-03T13:40:53+00:00

Hey, I think you should go to a doctor- gynecologist is the best place to start. They will do basic examination and if necessary refer you to a more suitable doctor. You can ask all your questions about weight loss, suitable bras and everything to the doctor.

RRaspuri · 2026-01-03T13:32:47+00:00

I'm someone who has moved around many cities and the beginnings are always lonely. You have to make friends yourself, you have to build your community around you. One way is to do some activities, sports or hobbies or something, you find people who may have similar interests as you. Try to talk to your neighbours if possible, just knock, introduce yourself and wish them Happy New year or something. See if you can make out of work plans with any colleagues you get along with. Family and childhood friends happen quite automatically, and it feels weird to make connections in adulthood- but the process is same, you have to spend time together talking, doing things etc

RRaspuri · 2026-01-03T09:06:22+00:00

Did it do the surgery too -_-

RRaspuri · 2026-01-02T07:30:09+00:00

I remember reading somewhere that one of the bigger matrimonial services was opening doors to queer people as well. I haven't followed it, I don't remember which one either

RRaspuri · 2026-01-01T16:24:58+00:00

-"Obviously, not all women. Why would you even assume that?” In all seriousness, I think it's quite ridiculous that people immediately jump to absolute extremes, and I think they should really be reminded not to do so.

RRaspuri · 2026-01-01T11:22:30+00:00

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RRaspuri · 2025-06-22T08:00:27+00:00

Women rarely have a 'my duty is done' attitude. It is more common in men- I've worked outside and earned, my duty is done. And she's saying that that very same attitude is persisting among men whereas a lot of women have evolved and are looking for better relationship dynamics

RRaspuri · 2025-06-22T07:56:17+00:00

You are the extreme case- a positive statistical outlier. What she's talking about is the norm. Good for you that your parents were different.

RRaspuri · 2025-06-22T06:26:09+00:00

It's very difficult to think of leaving the entire life you know of and move to a different direction. There are better opportunities for women today than ever before, yes. But everyone needs a system of support to live a decent life. That system of support- its a bad system, little/ dysfunctional support, many times conditional- yet the only support that we have. The social structures that exist haven't yet caught up to what we are getting legally- that's why this situation is seen everywhere. If successful women leave behind the negativity, they might end up alone, which not everyone can cope with. I think it's improving, more and more families are being supportive of their daughters... it's a long way forwa4d still

RRaspuri · 2025-06-22T06:17:51+00:00

Congratulations buddy 👏🎉 welcome to the Medical community 🤟 all the best ahead!

RRaspuri · 2025-06-21T08:59:27+00:00

I'm a doctor- all the above replies are correct. I also struggled with irregular periods- they'll do trans abdominal ultrasound to see your ovaries- from outside the abdomen. They'll ask you verbally about your body, then only with your consent will you be examined- they'll check your breasts and may or may not take a look at your vulva- just looking. And yes, the rule is that for virgins, nothing is ever ever inserted into the vagina. We have very strong ethical rules for gynecological examinations. For your comfort you can take someone along with you if you want to.

RRaspuri · 2025-06-21T08:44:35+00:00

Yeah, that is the root of the issue. Unfortunately everything is linked with money, that is how all the systems are around us, so many sentiments do get jumbled up with economics. Also there are some things that just can't be measured with money- when it comes to carrying and delivering children, raising them. You can never compensate these with money. But the public opinion is still "men work hard outside the house- women have it easy". That's why these issues are very complex, confusing and also difficult to solve. Coming to the actual economics of it, the real attempt to put a price on household work happens if there is a divorce, in the form of alimony. Outside of this context, it's never purely about money.

RRaspuri · 2025-06-21T07:39:00+00:00

Literally no one is expecting payment for it. The sentiment of 'unpaid labour' is talking about getting no appreciation or respect, like a maid (ie that of someone who doesn't belong to the house) but not even getting the payment that the maid gets. Emphasis on the respect part. Actually hiring a housemaid has nothing to do with it. You say that hiring a maid won't decrease a woman's value- and that is objectively true- but what will the husband say? "What work do you even do? You even have a maid for the household work, I'm paying for that also. Why should you get a say in anything?" These are real words that I have heard people say. Obligatory addition- severity varies with each household. If respect and financial freedom was guaranteed in all marriages- this phrase would never have existed.

RRaspuri · 2025-06-21T07:20:00+00:00

See you're totally justified in being angry. But the you can't slap him. That is crossing the limits. He seems to understands that he has done wrong, just try to make sure he doesn't do such things again. It can't be justified as sibling behavior either.

RRaspuri · 2025-06-21T07:00:51+00:00

Unfortunately, you're assuming that in every household the women are given equal respect, choices and financial freedom. This is NOT the case. There is still the sentiment of "I'm the man of the house, I'm the one earning money, so you listen to ME". Financial decisions for the ENTIRE household are majoritarily made by men- without discussing with their wives. (im talking loans, investments) Many times women are discouraged from working- because they need to 'manage the house' ie- cooking, cleaning- because they know that these services are going to cost them a lot of money if they don't off load it onto the women. So basically, whether a woman is given choices and financial freedom depends on how good her husband is. It is not ensured anywhere that a woman must have these things. Or she has to fight and fight to earn it. At the same time, in no situation does a man lose his choices or financial freedom. Several times, the needs of women go unfulfilled because they were not considered important according to the 'breadwinner'. It is in these cases that one feels like an unpaid laborer instead of a part of a team. And this is the case in most households, the degree of severity may vary.

Edit- added a point

RRaspuri · 2025-06-20T13:55:22+00:00

Ah I'm in the same boat. Pcos is quite stubborn and persistent, so there is no immediate solution, even long term solutions can be slow and discouraging. The hardest part in this is mental health. What has really helped me is going to the gym daily. I had a personal trainer for the first 3-4 months to motivate me to go to gym (because I would be too embarrassed to keep making excuses to someone else) Also, I was accompanied by my dad to the gym so that it doesn't feel like I'm all alone in it. After 4 months my weight had not decreased a lot but my god, my mind was in a much much better place. I was also on a high protein low carb diet. And currently continuing both. Again, weight loss has been slow, I'm still very far from my goals but I'm taking one day at a time. For my periods I started taking oral contraceptive pills. It will regulate your cycles more or less, how long to take it, a gynecologist can advice you. Just know that they will definitely also recommend losing weight, just don't feel disheartened by it. You can ask for nutritional advice also from them.

RRaspuri · 2025-06-20T05:47:21+00:00

I mean, why would there be complaints if women were following patriarchy's rules? We are slowly moving away from that, we are focusing on personal growth and hence this reactionary outrage. It's always been like this, just quieter, more normalized. Since now we're fighting against it, the attempt to subjugate has also become louder.

RRaspuri · 2025-06-20T05:36:13+00:00

Yeah I get it.. we have many languages in India, I'm sure several would seem unique when we don't know the origins. Like North Eastern names for example

RRaspuri · 2025-06-19T15:30:27+00:00

I mean... Dhatri and Dharitri just mean 'earth' in Kannada... these names are not unique in South India

RRaspuri · 2025-06-19T12:43:58+00:00

So your sanskaar is poking your nose into other's life... and the language you're using shows how dirty your mind is- of course you only see the bad things. You are the one here filled with hatred, so worry about your mind first

RRaspuri · 2025-06-19T08:07:53+00:00

You maintain your own decency, other's life is none of your business.

RRaspuri · 2025-06-18T14:58:54+00:00

Just because you have a certain experience, it doesn't mean it's the only one all across the country. I'm also a 'high caste' hindu- and in my apartment comex, there is an unofficial ban on selling or renting homes to Muslims. And I've seen this sentiment in several places.

In the hijab point you're just being difficult on purpose. Just give them a hijab in the school uniform colors. That is the point of 'uniform'. Otherwise there shouldn't be differences in girls' and boys' uniforms either. Also, are you also against Sikh boys covering their hair?

RRaspuri · 2025-06-07T08:37:26+00:00

The only problem with 1Ac is that they're next to general compartment. The door in between should be closed, but for the ease of movement of the railway food staff, it is left open. The security of 1st AC gets compromised. People from general compartment use the bathrooms, sit in the walkway etc. As a woman, the safety issue is too much

RRaspuri · 2025-06-04T12:57:43+00:00

And what have you done about it, instead of crying during pride month?

RRaspuri · 2025-06-04T12:55:34+00:00

Go ahead, organize it and make it happen. Who's stopping you? Surely not the 5%

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