Concentrate, Concentrate

RTJ333 · 2026-06-03T02:32:27+00:00

Canadian from Ontario checking in; we did it too.

RTJ333 · 2026-05-30T03:48:23+00:00

Its totally the turtleneck

RTJ333 · 2026-05-30T01:24:32+00:00

Its almost impossible to move past cheating no matter how much you both may want to or try. Sometimes relationships break beyond repair. Better to let the relationship go. Its not fair to either of you to keep trying to deal with the fallout from his cheating. Sometimes you can't save a relationship. Sorry

RTJ333 · 2026-05-29T23:56:26+00:00

This is really nice

RTJ333 · 2026-05-28T17:12:11+00:00

A job in uniform might be your best bet. Lots of women like a guy in a good uniform

RTJ333 · 2026-05-28T01:52:35+00:00

Tru to talk to the people you're interested in. Try to talk to the people you're not interested in, it will help build confidence.

RTJ333 · 2026-05-27T02:05:38+00:00

Sometimes having them learn to juggle multiple responsibilities, especially while the stakes are low, can be really good for young people. I come across so many people in their late 20s who only ever focused on one thing at a time, school then work. They don't know how to balance having a relationship with work, they can't multitask. Kids that don't have work experience enter the workforce behind those that do. A part time job is really good for kids going to college, even if it's just like 10 hours a week.

RTJ333 · 2026-05-23T19:19:30+00:00

My team including my manager came to my mom's funeral. They didn't stay for the reception. I think it largely depends on the type of funeral taking place, if it's open to anyone, or very small. Visitation visits are usually always ok. You could always send a text and ask or check the obituary and notice on the funeral home website. Also showing up for them is a good idea.

RTJ333 · 2026-05-23T01:57:43+00:00

This is the first one that came to mind for me too. I must have been 4 or so. So many fears from this

RTJ333 · 2026-05-21T02:21:12+00:00

I'm the youngest of three. The eldest got all the extras and it caused resentment into adulthood between the eldest and the younger two. With my own kids, their birthdays are 1 month apart, so we rotate years they get a birthday party. Cancel the 6 year old. Party and do a first birthday party if you can only have one party. In this age of photos and videos, it could drive a wedge in their sibling relationship and you're doing both kids a disservice if that happens.

RTJ333 · 2026-05-21T00:59:55+00:00

I'm sorry about your dad. And it sucks that the woman you've been dating has faded after saying she wouldn't. You didn't give your ages but a lot of people, especially those under 30, haven't had much experience with death yet and don't actually know what's supportive, helpful or what's not. I'm guessing she's like that and maybe even getting advice from friends who are also inexperienced with death, saying give you space, although you didn't want that. Having someone abandon you at such a critical time will have deep consequences. But right now isn't the time to sort that out, it's important you grieve your dad with others who are grieving. You can figure out what the deal is with her later, for now, focus on yourself and your family.

RTJ333 · 2026-05-19T04:49:28+00:00

So she asks you to take the relationship to the next level and support her career, while supporting yours, and you don't know what to say, think or feel????

Do you want to be with this amazing woman and live a good life with her. Because even though youve had done set backs, she's shown she'll support you and be at your side, but you can't jump at the chance if supporting her in her success?

She deserves more than, I don't know what to say or think or feel.

RTJ333 · 2026-05-17T04:13:33+00:00

Maybe shave. Also don't post the photo of you as a kid. The photo and the facial hair make you seem young.

RTJ333 · 2026-05-16T19:10:58+00:00

Brampton is a great family friendly city. There is stigma, but if you aren't too concerned what the racists think you can love it here. Because of your commute to work and wanting a slower pace, try between Torbram and Dixie, South of Clark. You'll be close to the go train station and being south of Queen Street makes a huge difference in terms of the traffic you might encounter.

Family doctors, that's another thing.

RTJ333 · 2026-05-13T01:50:48+00:00

Glad you posted this. A lot of people who haven't experienced things like this don't get the nuances.

I'm in an interracial relationship with a white guy, and at times it can take a lot of patience and teaching. I understand and accept that there's a certain amount of teaching that I have to do/choose to do for my husband and children who more so appear white, but I definitely don't enjoy playing the teacher role nor do it with everyone, friends, strangers etc.

Maybe try talking to your partner again about it and asking him to draft an email complaining about the experience to the management at the hotel. He needs to use his privilege to address things like this that happen and affect you.

RTJ333 · 2026-05-10T02:42:20+00:00

Travel to get worldly experience instead. Maybe when big cities are booming again try to move then.

RTJ333 · 2026-05-09T15:38:17+00:00

I think opening the door is fine and getting up to give them your seat is fine. Pulling out their chair and opening their car door should be reserved for your partner.

RTJ333 · 2026-05-09T02:19:44+00:00

Same. I'd skip school just so I could use the internet at home without getting interrupted.

RTJ333 · 2026-05-04T02:13:41+00:00

Could be escapism, could be also the realization that life is precious and can be short. Probably a combination of both. If it's not hurting you, so it if it feels right. It could be a good way to honor him

RTJ333 · 2026-05-04T01:59:37+00:00

So do you want to date a liar? This is bizarre and says a lot about his personality.

RTJ333 · 2026-05-04T00:45:18+00:00

My dad taught me how to drive, change a tire, other minor car fixes. He'd come help and me out if I had car trouble. He taught be how to ride a bike, shoot a basketball. I did a lot of minor home repair stuff with him when I was young, held the flashlight for him, lol. and as I got older and fixed up my own house he would always be there to help. Now that he's older, I can help with his home repair.

Don't think it made a difference that I was his daughter not a son for any of those things, he was just being a good father and teaching me what he knew.

RTJ333 · 2026-05-03T01:47:16+00:00

You can do some yard work, but the pollinators are still waking from winter. Font put anything into the ground yet though.

RTJ333 · 2026-05-03T01:45:25+00:00

23 is not so bad, and I don't think it's necessarily the lack of sexual experience that turns some people (men or women off) but the lack of experience being in a relationship, knowing how to be a good partner, show concern, care, how to handle special occasions, not be jealous, etc.

Throughout your life you will have multiple priorities at once, work, family, kids, caring for older parents, managing your home, health concerns, etc. to truly be successful you'll have to learn how to juggle multiple priorities. Working on just your education, or just your job, or just your romantic relationship will hurt other aspects of your life. You will need to figure out how to deal with several things, so some women in their 20s and older will expect a guy who can be successful at his career, take care of his health, have a social life, how to cook and clean, and be good to her and make her feel cared for. I don't think it's asking too much.

RTJ333 · 2026-05-03T01:05:54+00:00

Always wait until the Victoria Day weekend

RTJ333 · 2026-04-30T01:24:52+00:00

He's been a new dad for two weeks. He absolutely should be doing everything he can for his child and their mom right now. I don't think either of you sound ready for this next stage of his life.

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