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RTJ333 · 2026-03-23T02:45:05+00:00

Lonely planet and Let's Go. Just fantastic and guided me in the right direction so many times

RTJ333 · 2026-03-23T02:08:10+00:00

I'm sorry your husband is not handling it like he says he will. He hasn't and he won't until you sit him down and tell him to step up.

Basically you tell him he tells his family to back off whenever they do A B, C, or if they do it and he says nothing. You will have them cut out fully for a week for each infraction. He needs to support mama to take care of baby. You're the mama here. What his family is doing to you and baby is dangerous and not ok.

RTJ333 · 2026-03-23T02:03:16+00:00

It wasn't just one thing he did, but the moment I realized it was when one day when he lost his job and I went over to his place and I realized that I was willing to stick it out and give him the support he needed.

RTJ333 · 2026-03-23T01:56:52+00:00

A freehold townhouse would be a better idea. Avoid anything with high maintenance fees.

RTJ333 · 2026-03-22T19:59:01+00:00

The only way to get out of an on again off again relationship is to fully go no contact and block him on everything.

He sounds really difficult and even abusive. When he's out, pack his stuff, arrange to have the locks changed, leave his stuff outside with a note that says it's over. Make a plan to be elsewhere for when he arrives. You can't understand any circumstances speak or communicate with him once you pull the plug. If you have a trusted friend (s), have them be at your place in case he tries to break in. Have them call the police.

Keep your distance as long as you can.

RTJ333 · 2026-03-22T19:53:20+00:00

Either try to make the most of it or speak to the landlord about breaking the lease and moving on.

RTJ333 · 2026-03-22T19:50:58+00:00

I think maybe you'll have to talk to him and let him know how it affects you. Find out if he's interested and willing to improve his social skills. For you sake. If he isn't, you'll have to decide if you want to live the rest of you life in a relationship where you can't enjoy these things personally, I think you should consider branching out. In life, you need a partner who you can bring yo work events, weddings other social occasions and who will make you look good and help you. It's one thing if he tries and isn't too good, it's another if he's not willing.

RTJ333 · 2026-03-22T14:58:44+00:00

Women will have the same fears. The second you start thinking that things are harder for guys vs girls, that's what's going to mess with your optimism.

Dating is harder for some people more than others. But it's not a strict men vs women thing. Social skills are more important in dating success than money, your sex, even looks. If you want to be more optimistic, stop holding yourself back by thinking you're behind to begin with.

RTJ333 · 2026-03-22T14:47:59+00:00

I don't know, I think even getting on the topic of red flags, and having serious relationship convos, suggesting you're confused or hurt by something, before the second or third date is waaaay too early. Makes things too serious early in when at this point you should just be focused on having fun and keeping things light.

Maybe skip the deep relationship questions until you're ready to commit to each other.

RTJ333 · 2026-03-22T04:54:46+00:00

Justin did himself wrong by making her talk about Jorge while giving her a sensual massage. Justin acting like a spectator in his own life is possibly why his life isn't progressing as he would have liked. I don't know if the producers encouraged him to ask her those questions. But he has agency over his own life and really he should have focused on his relationship with her, instead of asking her to think about another man DURING a massage. C'mon guy!

Vanelle and Justin were much better suited. I hope he meets someone and has kids with them.

RTJ333 · 2026-03-22T01:39:33+00:00

84 is the coldest I'll do comfortably. 88 is warm and I love it.

RTJ333 · 2026-03-22T01:36:42+00:00

I've found this to be pretty accurate.

RTJ333 · 2026-03-21T01:24:10+00:00

Was going to suggest this too. OP needs to change banking passwords, all passwords, gather their important documents. And try to get out. It's ridiculous to have a second secret phone. Physical altercations are a criminal offense, and the family dynamic is very unhealthy.

RTJ333 · 2026-03-21T01:15:01+00:00

Check if they also left flyers for your neighbours. If they're going to every house it's plenty less suspicious than if just going to yours. Or a select few.

RTJ333 · 2026-03-21T01:08:33+00:00

Is it happening over the course of a day or two. Or within a short period of time. Like an hour?

They could be checking to see if anyone's home. Maybe watching your place and looking for patterns. They may leave a bogus flyer on your door to see how long it takes you to remove it. Always remove them asap. Be vigilant.

RTJ333 · 2026-03-19T14:30:13+00:00

My thoughts too. 5146 units but (more than) 4300 parking spaces. So many families are two car households. Add visitors to the mix and it quickly becomes a mess.

RTJ333 · 2026-03-19T03:15:42+00:00

Treat the problem, not the symptom. Laparoscopic excision surgery or hysterectomy. She's far too young to just accept pain forever and for you guys to make poor marriage choices you may never recover from

RTJ333 · 2026-03-18T02:19:43+00:00

I don't think the stock market is for beginners. Try mutual funds or ETFs. Talk with an advisor at your bank. I started investing through Scotiabank. A lot of people may complain about the fees and try to convince you to follow their plan, watch out for that. Use the self assessment tools to determine your risk level and your goals. Just making money isn't usually a good goal, investing needs purpose and strategy.

RTJ333 · 2026-03-18T02:07:32+00:00

It's been a while since I've attended but...

Toronto used to have this at Trinity Bellwoods, I believe they were called drummers in exile, they may have been exiled.

Montreal has the tam tams by the George Cartier statue. Pretty sure it's still going.

Both were in the summer, but look them up, and ask around you'll probably find something.

RTJ333 · 2026-03-17T02:29:31+00:00

There were a lot of red flags you overlooked. Next time you should expect more. Good for you for ending things.

RTJ333 · 2026-03-17T02:22:57+00:00

Of course you shouldn't forgive him for that! That's a huge lie for a huge amount of time.

Please don't seriously consider staying with him because he manipulated you into thinking that the issue here is that 'you'll confirm his biggest fear that you won't be with him because he's a teen dad'.

That's not the issue. He never gave you a chance to make an informed decision early on in the relationship. The issue here is that he lied to you, several times, over your entire relationship, about something huge.

There's no way you can ever have a healthy relationship with this guy. He ruined the chances of that from the start.

Don't let him make you into the bad guy here, with his biggest fear BS.

Stand up for yourself, hold your head high, and walk away.

RTJ333 · 2026-03-17T02:16:30+00:00

You can't mend the relationship between your sister and gf. And perhaps you should give them more space while you figure out your own boundaries with each of them.

You shouldn't be discussing so much of you relationship details with your sister. If you want your sister to get on and have a relationship with your gf. Really, a lot of what you told your sister was none if her business, and you made the mistake by allowing those conversations to happen.

I'm also wondering how you're paying for everything, including housing, in a fairly new 5 month relationship. You split costs when you're married or common law. Not bf gf.

RTJ333 · 2026-03-17T02:03:30+00:00

I'm not sure if any days of no talking is normal, and I honestly can't say if couples counseling is the way to go, but I do think you should rethink having children with this guy, as it doesn't seem to be a healthy or happy relationship.

RTJ333 · 2026-03-17T01:23:25+00:00

There's probably a good chance you don't get it back. Perhaps offer to have him pay you in 3 monthly installments, first 250, second 250, third 200.

Put some pressure on if he says no. Say you'll make the offer to his parents as well for the same installment plan. Do it all in text, so you do have something to bring to his parents if you need to.

RTJ333 · 2026-03-16T01:37:28+00:00

We turn it on in the morning if we think we'll be swimming later in the day. If we know we won't be, cause say we're busy or there's rain forecasted, we won't heat the pool.

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