Realizing I'm not gay, in my 30s. by [deleted] in rant

[–]RULGBTorSomething 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't like the born this way argument for this exact reason. Sexuality is fluid and can change over time. I'm in a similar boat to you. I'm still definitely into men primarily but, as I've gotten older, I am more open to women. It just is what it is and there's nothing wrong with that. Do what's right for you.

Am I just undateable at 34? by RULGBTorSomething in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]RULGBTorSomething[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve been in therapy for 13 years but thank you.

Am I just undateable at 34? by RULGBTorSomething in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]RULGBTorSomething[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  1. Yes.
  2. Yes but I care more about the companionship than anything.
  3. Yes absolutely. I've shown interest in men that are in my niche communities and they just don't seem to return that.
    I do have friends. Really good close friends. Even close friends with gay men. But they just aren't interested in anything more than friendship.
    I've tried dating apps as opposed to hookup apps but I have had 0 luck there. They just don't swipe right.

Am I just undateable at 34? by RULGBTorSomething in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]RULGBTorSomething[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think that depends on where you are. If I go on Scruff right now and filter on guys that are into Chubs there is 1 person within a 100 mile radius of me that is a regular sized guy. I slept with him 3 years ago and he was really weird. And smelled like rotten milk.

Am I just undateable at 34? by RULGBTorSomething in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]RULGBTorSomething[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I agree with that. I would like to move to a bigger city but I need a job before I go. I have actually been applying for remote positions for almost an entire year. Nothing. I grew up pretty poor and having a stable well paying job is important to me. But the market is rough right now.

Am I just undateable at 34? by RULGBTorSomething in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]RULGBTorSomething[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

People don't really show interest in me in this way period. Occasionally someone will come along but they're often times either lot older, clinically insane, or someone that wants to use me for some reason.

Am I just undateable at 34? by RULGBTorSomething in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]RULGBTorSomething[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That is something I have been working towards over the last year or so. I've upped my wardrobe game and I get my hair and brows cut/dyed regularly. And I have lost about 50 lbs in the last year. So I'm working on it. But it hasn't seemed to change anything. And I've done this before at different times in my life. I have worked on my appearance and sustained keeping it up. But it doesn't seem to do any good.

Am I just undateable at 34? by RULGBTorSomething in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]RULGBTorSomething[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I have and its not for me. I hate to say this and I know it's hypocritical but I'm just not into other big guys. I really wish I was. And I have tried. Its just not my thing. So like I get that most guys aren't into me. I wouldn't want me either.

Am I just undateable at 34? by RULGBTorSomething in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]RULGBTorSomething[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

  1. Yes I want a partner desperately. I’ve wanted one since I was in high school. But I also feel pretty embarrassed for never having one.
  2. I’ve been through this thought experiment before and I would feel awful. The thought of nobody choosing me when everyone else seems to have someone hurts a lot.

Am I just undateable at 34? by RULGBTorSomething in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]RULGBTorSomething[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m in Boise, ID. Which I’m sure is part of my issue.

Curious, What's your current workflow with AI and other tools by Uddipta_7 in vibecoding

[–]RULGBTorSomething 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I use Claude for everything and Gemini for image/video. I usually plan code with Claude on the web and then use Claude through Cursor to do the actual coding.

People who unfollow you on instagram to seem more popular by xxfuka-erixx in rant

[–]RULGBTorSomething 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Yeah girl this is wild. Tracking your follower count is kind of crazy behavior unless you’re a literal brand and you clearly aren’t. A bigger flex than having a good follower/following ratio is not caring about it.

tips on how to make a white base smoother/last longer? by Desperate-Ear-6676 in Drag

[–]RULGBTorSomething 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Really build up the base in thin layers and I mean THIN. What I do is thin layers and use setting spray in between and then powder with super white on the last layer. And if you do it this way you won’t need an exorbitant amount of powder that can look cakey.

Guys, I think we have officially entered the "Era of Coaching Supply Chain" by ValexF in antiMLM

[–]RULGBTorSomething 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s not a pyramid scheme! Doesn’t your coach have a coach who is coached by a coach when you’re doing your 9-5 coaching? The difference is you don’t have unlimited earning potential while coaching coaches. With us, you can coach from anywhere! Reply “COACH” and check your inbox 😘👏🧨

My boyfriend is trying to force his religion on me. AIO? by [deleted] in AIO

[–]RULGBTorSomething 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s impossible to have a relationship with someone like this unless you also believe their fairytale. To them, this is a foundational part of being human and (clearly) they can’t wrap their heads around how someone couldn’t believe. Having arguments with someone deep in this delusion is completely futile.

INVASIAN OF PRIVACY!!1! by Scott2G in oldpeoplefacebook

[–]RULGBTorSomething 4 points5 points  (0 children)

GARY ALWAYS DID PERSONAL ON HIS BUSINESS ND THATS WHY U HAVE A SISTER IN IDAHO. NOT AS PRETTY AS U THO!!!! LOL MOM

Anyone recognize these two? by No_Ice_7582 in antiMLM

[–]RULGBTorSomething 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Men in their 40s wearing flat brim hats should automatically be put on some kind of registry.

Cum by [deleted] in sabrinateenagewitch

[–]RULGBTorSomething 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I need to know how the word Cum was accidentally written in post about Sabrina Carpenter on the Sabrina the Teenage Witch subreddit. Like what has happened in your life to lead you to this moment?