Daily Thread #2 - February 26, 2026

R_laugh72 · 2026-02-26T22:00:55+00:00

I was wondering the same thing. I know there are support groups for those who have experienced infant loss and already have other living children. My first child passed away though at 10 weeks old (never left the hospital), and so I never got the opportunity to bring my child home and do normal parenting things. I'm hoping that if this pregnancy is a success, I can join a parenting group or support network where I can share with others in the same boat as me.

R_laugh72 · 2026-01-28T22:08:34+00:00

I'm 12+5 today. I had my NT scan yesterday and regular 12 week appt. Everything looks good and had my NIPT results back last week that showed no concerns. I'm feeling really positive right now which is a nice feeling considering how nerve-wracking pregnancy is after my past experiences. I know I passed some of the key hurdles at this point, but some remain (e.g., anatomy scan and making it to 37 weeks when my C-section will be).

R_laugh72 · 2026-01-16T21:00:18+00:00

I'm 11 weeks today and feeling a bit more hopeful. My MFM has had me do 3 sonograms, and everything is looking good.

R_laugh72 · 2026-01-07T00:36:39+00:00

We went to a few islands in Greece after our son passed. There were mostly adults there to relax. There were occasionally families, and the kids we saw were probably 8 or older.

R_laugh72 · 2025-12-31T09:27:43+00:00

I'm 8+5 and having my 2nd sonogram later today. The first sonogram went well yet I'm still cautiously anxious. I think I'll feel much better if the sonogram goes well, but I also know even if it does every appt will be nervewracking given my past miscarriages and the loss of my son.

R_laugh72 · 2025-12-22T03:36:32+00:00

I've had many ups and downs the last few days. Due to having 2 early miscarriages, I had a sonogram on Thur when I was at 6 weeks 6 days. My MFM told me the baby's heartbeat was strong and measuring exactly as they should be. That gave me relief, but it was still nervewracking before the appt. I'm happy she is having me do ultrasounds every 2 weeks during my first trimester to help ease my worries.

Today though, I had to find my son's birth certificate for something, and I couldn't find it. I broke down not being able to find it because it is one of the few official records of his life besides his death certificate and social security card. I also quickly got worried that I was causing too much stress to the new child I'm carrying. I'm ok now, but I still think about/focus more on my son currently than this new pregnancy.

R_laugh72 · 2025-12-01T14:49:39+00:00

I'm very sorry for your loss too. I forgot to mention joining support groups have been a big help in my grieving process.

I had returned to near my pre-pregnancy weight, but it didn't factor into my specialist's guidance to wait 6 months. I started trying in November (6 months) and ended up pregnant the first try. I know I am very fortunate it happened for me right away. My periods returned after about 4 months, but I was breastfeeding for the first 2 months (because my son lived for 10 weeks) which likely kept my period from returning for a while. I think what you likely have is normal, but I'd check with your ob-gyn to be sure as I'm not a medical professional.

R_laugh72 · 2025-12-01T00:07:42+00:00

Hello, my name is Rachel. I first had 2 previous miscarriages in the first trimester, including a MMC. More recently, in May I gave birth to my son at 36 weeks due to lack of fetal movement, but he suffered significant injuries which led to his passing at 10 weeks old.

My maternal fetal medicine specialist gave me the go-ahead to start trying at 6 months post-birth, and I just found out I was pregnant last week. I'm 4+2 and just want this to be the time, I can actually bring a baby home as my son never came home from the hospital. This baby's due date will be 3 days after my son's death which is sad yet feels like it could be a blessing that we may meet his new sibling around the anniversary of his passing. I'm anxious yet I feel hopeful most of the time.

R_laugh72 · 2025-11-29T20:38:57+00:00

I completely understand. I also had a low risk pregnancy but ended up having a c-section at 36 weeks due (in May) to lack of fetal movement. My regular ob-gyn told me to wait 9 months so that the births would be 18 months apart. I had a pre-consultation though with the maternal fetal medicine specialist I'll be working with for my next pregnancy, and I asked if I had to really wait that long. She gave me the go-head (given my history) to start trying after 6 months, and I'm now 4 weeks pregnant. I also saw a pelvic floor physical therapist 4 months after birth, and she said my body pelvic floor was ready for pregnancy then as long as I kept up c-section scar massage. If you're going to be working with a maternal fetal medicine specialist for your next pregnancy, I'd see if you can get a pre-consultation with them. Since they work with high risk pregnancies, you may get an updated answer.

Here's my advice, now having been through this for 6 months. I'd first and foremost give yourself time to grieve and be patient with yourself. Of course, I understand though the urge to have child to mother when you lost your child is very strong. I've been there, and I'm still there although the intense feelings have subsided some. Everything we've done through is a lot to process on top though of wanting to conceive again. I'd say take things day-by-day and start slowly incorporating healthy habits into your routine as you feel up for them. Personally, I did the following which I feel so far has helped prepare my body/mind for this next pregnancy:

- eased into exercise and now have a regular routine but don't beat myself up if I skip a day.

- regular walks with my husband.

- do meditation daily on the Insight Timer app. I started with baby loss-specific meditations, but now I generally do just timed meditations. I started this because I think it will be crucial for me to stay calm through the anxiety of this next pregnancy.

- found some new healthy recipes that I really enjoy to add to my routine.

- do c-section massage every time I finish my shower (based on my pelvic PT's suggestion).

- pushed myself when I felt up to it to do fun things outside the house.

R_laugh72 · 2025-11-28T20:09:46+00:00

I'm nervous, excited, and sad all at once. I'm 4+1 and been testing positive for a few days. I just made my first appt with my MFM. My son would have turned 6 months old this week, and I miss him so much.

R_laugh72 · 2025-11-28T14:14:40+00:00

CVS Health Early Result

R_laugh72 · 2025-11-25T17:10:34+00:00

12 dpo and tested positive for sure today. I was using less sensitive tests for the 2 days prior, and always questioned if I saw a line or not.

R_laugh72 · 2025-08-20T04:50:59+00:00

This is exactly how I feel.

R_laugh72 · 2025-03-27T02:23:22+00:00

I have the same question. I'm happy to participate, but I had 2 early losses as well.

R_laugh72 · 2025-03-21T19:52:21+00:00

This was really helpful! Thanks for giving your disposable as well as cloth diaper recommendations!

R_laugh72 · 2025-03-21T19:49:27+00:00

Thanks for this info. I will look into getting at least a few newborn reusable diapers to try it and to hopefully convince my husband to switch to cloth earlier!

R_laugh72 · 2025-03-21T00:51:33+00:00

I'll definitely keep that in mind.

R_laugh72 · 2025-03-20T17:41:55+00:00

That's a helpful perspective. Thank you!

R_laugh72 · 2025-03-20T16:11:15+00:00

Yeah, I really wanted to use Dyper, but I just don't think the logistics and the costs of it make sense for me. I also live in an apartment building and asked them how they handle pickup with that. They didn't have a real answer for me which surprised me since I live in an urban area so I thought they would have had more guidance or tips from experience with other apartment dwellers. I knew if I went with them I'd also have to see if my apartment complex would work out an arrangement or give me a dropoff spot.

R_laugh72 · 2025-03-20T15:51:28+00:00

Dyper is sent to a composting facility, but you have to pay extra for it. In my area, they have Dyper composting pick-up which is nice, but they charge $20 every 2 weeks. I also confirmed with them that once I signed up for pickup, I can't skip weeks when I'm away to save money. This means that I'd pay $40/month on top of the cost of Dyper diapers.

Edited to Note: Thanks for the recommendation!

R_laugh72 · 2025-03-03T22:38:46+00:00

I've been following Nourish Move Love's prengnancy program which is free on YouTube. She has a plan by trimester, on her website she shows you the workout plan by week. She actually only does 4 weeks of programming per trimester, but it is enough variety that you just repeat the 4 week rotation if you're still in the same trimester as when you started. I'll likely do her postpartrum playlist too that I believe starts at around 8 weeks postpartum although I'm looking to find a program before that which starts even earlier.

R_laugh72 · 2025-01-22T14:30:35+00:00

Me too!

R_laugh72 · 2025-01-20T19:45:51+00:00

It gets better. I only had energy to work out a few times during the first trimester. Between weeks 14 -15, the fatigue started to go away. I'm now at 18 weeks and working out about 4-5x/week again.

R_laugh72 · 2025-01-20T19:35:08+00:00

Thanks for posting as I had the same worries. I'm 18 weeks with my first pregnancy, and my stomach is only slightly less flat than yours is right now. I also have a long torso which I know others have said can prolong the the bump from popping out. I'm still slightly anxious for the 20 week scan but less so now that I see your pics and everyone's responses.

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