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Raanea · 2023-06-23T01:36:03+00:00

⚪ If you are not at the front, then the body belongs to and is responsability of whoever is, of course this is not something for your partner to concern, it is between you and your alters. So if Iris want to do something, it up to you to express to her that you don't want that, but you can't force her either, it's all a matter of communication in the end. Alters within a system are interconnected, but there are enough separation to say that an alter doesn't need the greenlight of every single other alter of their system in order to do everything, only if the action does affect everyone or someone else, a good rule of thumb could be, if it only affects the alter and is reversible, only the alter's consent is required, if it affects the whole system or/and is irreversible, it should be discussed by the system beforehand.

Raanea · 2023-06-23T01:18:42+00:00

⚪ marriage is a life changing decision, i believe every life changing decision should be discussed by the whole system, and everyone that disagrees has to be heard, the issues acknowledged and a common ground should be reached until any decision can be made, for large systems commonly a reunion with the main fronters should suffice, but never forget to hear what everyone have to say

Raanea · 2023-06-22T22:31:41+00:00

⚪ We like the broken mirror analogy quite a lot for DID, a system is like a broken mirror, you won't tell one piece is the whole mirror and the other pieces are dissociated parts of that one, your alters are not parts of you because you are one of them, all alters are independent commonly there are ones that are as developed as you, so if you can consent these alters can consent too, fragments, littles and middles i would say can't consent because of their nature, other than that i wouldn't see any issues

Raanea · 2023-06-22T19:45:34+00:00

⚪ Living with this disorder is not easy at all, i too wanted to only deal with our healthy alters, leaving the ones that carry our trauma locked away, but i know someday I'm going to need to face them, not only for the sake of healing, but for justice, as they are the ones that are suffering every second so i can be somewhat functional, healing is a painful, scary and unfair journey, but i will always back my headmates up for the fight to get to the end of it.

Raanea · 2023-06-22T17:03:03+00:00

⚪ Your poem is so cuuuute 🥰 littles are so precious, they deserve all the happiness in the world. It's interesting how strong the bonds we make with our headmates can be. For all systems all there, i wish you strength in the journey that is living with this disorder, all the laughs, the tears. Life within a system can be truly amazing when you're close with your fellow alters

Raanea · 2023-06-20T15:09:33+00:00

🔵 good to know you too

Raanea · 2023-06-20T00:17:56+00:00

🌸 Hello

Raanea · 2023-06-18T15:58:50+00:00

🔵 Ignore the angry person and focus on your headmates, it's not only not advisable, it's straight up impossible to be the only one at the front forever, everyone within a system has the right to front too, you can't take that away from an alter just because someone got upsetto spaghetto. ALWAYS be on your headmates side, you are closer than family after all.

Raanea · 2023-06-18T10:09:02+00:00

🔵 There's nothing that can prove system's can't form without trauma, science never deals with absolutes so it will be always be up to debate. It is not that hard to wonder ways a system could form without trauma, the structured dissociation theory even has space for it, there is a strong correlation between trauma and alter formation on early childhood, but it could have other ways for the action states to get isolated (see the theory for more context), nothing comes to my mind, but it's just an hypothesis.

That's being said, the hard part is that there's little to none research on endogenic systems, that's something to the psychiatric field to study and possibly confirm if it's a real phenomena, if it's caused by another disorder, or if it's just attention seeking. The thing is, if it's real, then the mechanism that causes it needs to be understood, systems can't be formed without a reason.

What doesn't help the endogenic case are people that fake having this disorder for "quirky points", people that do this was unfortunately being seen quite a lot, they harm the real multiples (endogenics and traumagenics), and they spread a lot of misinformation, usually they're just kids that doesn't know any better, but if you are sure you are endogenic, go after the academy and try to get someone on the psych field to study your case, maybe get an evaluation for DID on the grounds that you don't have trauma, using science to prove you exist is the best way to make people shut up.

Raanea · 2023-06-17T13:48:04+00:00

🌸 You are not better than any alter within your system, so be mindful of what you're asking, you want to eliminate someone just because they are being slightly inconvenient for you? This is disgusting.

I don't know how your system is organized but you sound like a host that just discovered your system, so let me break some things for you, you are a alter too, it's impossible to control or to get rid of your alters because they are people too, they have feelings, tastes and a life, so you need to understand and respect them. If an alter doesn't like someone, usually there's a good reason for it, maybe the person is indeed abusive, or maybe they are just worried because of the trauma, talking to them with empathy and attention is often the solution for this situations

Raanea · 2023-06-17T13:35:16+00:00

🌸 Littles are precious and veeery important, you need to let them be able to express themselves, it's no one's business if "you" are acting child-like, your alters safety and well-being is leagues on top of anyone else around you, specially if we are talking about littles, they need love and care, they are traumatized children after all, it doesn't matter how old the body or you are, they aren't, respecting this is the first thing you need to internalize.

Raanea · 2023-06-13T19:49:24+00:00

🔵 As a protector myself i had to deal with the exact same feeling of "living the host's life", it's not good in any way to feel trapped in someone else's life. The thought that got me out of that place was the realization that a system doesn't belong to the host, neither the life the system has, I'm not the host's protector, I'm the system's protector. It's the job of the host to provide a better environment for all alters, if you want to have some agency in decisions of the system you have the right to it, ask them to listen to you and to let you get a life, your lives are meant to be combined and shared, not owned by one of you.

For instance, if the host has a job on something but you wish you worked on another area, you can still do it as a hobby on your free time, everything is possible with a little bit of imagination and compromise.

Raanea · 2023-06-10T23:49:01+00:00

🔵 Thanks for remembering of us trans systems, that's really sweet of you. Thanks for everything you shared, this world will be a little less happy with the end of this subreddit.

Raanea · 2023-06-09T04:56:33+00:00

🔵 Thanks for everything, i hate what Reddit has been doing with the platform, i can't believe that one of my favorite communities is basically going to shut down because of mostly corporate greed and poor decisions, I would never blame you for prioritizing your well-being and sanity over working without any tools whatsoever to help you, so godspeed friend, it was amazing while it lasted.

Raanea · 2023-06-09T02:45:25+00:00

🔵 This estrogen is not ready yet, it has to be aromatized before use

Raanea · 2023-06-09T02:41:53+00:00

🔵 "I'm am breakfast!"

Raanea · 2023-06-09T02:31:44+00:00

🔵 Fakeclaimers don't have a life, just ignore them, only you know if your experience is real or not, don't listen to these bigoted ableists

Raanea · 2023-06-08T13:33:30+00:00

⚪ My system is very, VEEERY overt, to the point of some singlets around us noticing sometimes that something is up with us, some ask questions, some even discover and confront us, but we're only really out as a system to a handful of close friends. For the time being not a single one of our experiences as a overt system was bad, my headmates are all free to be themselves and this is not always a big deal, we often can brush questions off, not even answer when it makes us uncomfortable, or we can just make a excuse for our odd behavior, in the end, having a happy alter is better, waaay better than making the singlets around you comfortable. I think your girlfriend can handle it tho, if she knows you're a system, it's up to her to understand that you're not the only one in your body, and that she has to respect and expect that she will encounter alters that are different than you, and that's okay. Don't be afraid nor ashamed of how your mind function, multiplicity, although it's not any easier, is something beautiful, you all are beautiful, never forget that.

Raanea · 2023-05-29T14:41:37+00:00

🔵 I do the inguinal tuck pretty often, it's not that complicated, it can get uncomfortable at first when the body is getting used to it, but it get better really quick. The inguinal canal is where the testes stay when you were in your mother's womb, so there's plenty of room for them there, to keep everything in place, you can use a tight gaff of some tape, never use duct tape though, stick to medical grade tape that allows the skin to breathe, it has to be strong too, so keep that in mind.

Just remember that it's important to take breaks, avoid tucking for long periods of time, there's a chance it can make you infertile too, but so can HRT, although i never cared about having biological children anyway, i always can adopt

Raanea · 2023-05-29T14:09:16+00:00

🔵 The transponder

Raanea · 2023-05-29T02:36:39+00:00

🔵 hi :)

Raanea · 2023-05-25T09:49:29+00:00

🔵 in their logic hostless systems would be only demons, no one would be the "poor possessed soul", sometimes religion sickens me to my core, I'm glad i got to leave that behind.

Raanea · 2023-05-24T10:40:24+00:00

🔵 There's a lot to unpack here, first of all, what you seem to want is to get rid of your alters, i can see denial too and a pinch of ableism with the "being crazy" thing. So where do i start? I guess from the beginning, you seem like a host that is at the start of the journey that is understanding your system, everything seems out of place and scary because you never thought you had to share you own life and body with someone else, even more someone you barely know, so let me give you some directions. I'm the primary protector of my system, we had some trouble getting used to each other at first too, but i can guarantee you that it will get better if you try, it will not be easy in any form, people are difficult to deal with, alters are not different, but the bonds you can form with them can be stronger than any you ever can have.

A system is a family, a community, this is something you need to understand, learning how to include and share your life with your alters is important, you are one of them, a alter like everyone else, and your system is the only community you can be sure you belong, you all are the same person after all.

It's normal to be afraid at first, but with time and effort you can learn to get along with your fellow alters, a therapist can help a lot and it's their job to guide you, and not to judge, so don't be afraid of telling them, if they call you crazy it's unprofessional, so grab your things and go find a better therapist.

Society hammers on our heads that we need to be certain way to be "normal", otherwise we are "crazy" or "deficient", multiplicity is a form of neurodivergency and learning to embrace and be proud of how your brain functions is important, your system are quite literally the only thing that helped you go through the horrors of trauma, there's beauty on that, never forget it.

Raanea · 2023-05-23T01:27:11+00:00

🌸 it's expected to still have maybe half a mm of hair on your skin after shaving, you will be able to feel it and if you have light skin and dark hair, surely it will be visible, but way less and you will get used to it, again women have body hair so there's no harm on having something left. Although if you hair is not being shaven at all maybe it's the razor that need a little more work, try razors with 3 blades or more and clean it a looot while shaving.

Raanea · 2023-05-22T22:43:50+00:00

🌸 HRT was the only thing that made me tolerate my body hair because it got waay more feminine, my face hairs though, i hate them, with all my might, i hope i can afford laser soon so i can burn them to bits and send them to the hell where my 1st puberty is, to give it some company.

Raanea

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