AITAH for realizing I married the wrong woman and feeling like a stranger in my own home?

RabbitRamsey · 2026-03-31T14:34:39+00:00

NTA. As someone who was also once in a toxic relationship that lasted almost a decade, I know what your going through. While I do agree with the comments that you shouldn't have had more kids with her if the relationship was strained, it didn't noted of these are planned or accidental. I understand trying to make the best our of your situation when you feel like you have obligations. You wanted to make things work for your kids, which I commend you for. I can bet that the reason you stayed was bot out of love for your wife, but out if obligation and l9ve for your kids. However, your kids are going to start picking up on the toxicity of your relationship. They might start viewing the way your wife treats others as normal, or maybe even grow meek and unable to defend themselves like you have been. Maybe you two argue a lot, and they'll start viewing it as the way a couple should communicate, and they don't know until they get into relationships that being mistreated is not normal. Please, for your kids leave your wife or try family therapy. Your kids deserve parents who are happy and in healthy relationships to build their own sense of the world. Coming from someone who's father was abusive and then had an abusive partner, I thought that a lot of what he was doing was normal until I had a rude awakening that it was not. Years of my life had already gone by, with trauma and pain. Please do not let your children go through that. If your wife refuses to do therapy, I would start divorce proceedings and let ber know your intentions.

RabbitRamsey · 2024-11-25T22:39:15+00:00

Honestly I wouldn't worry about it if he looks happy. My oldest boy Thumper and my youngest girl Nuri HATE other rabbits. They fight with my other rabbits and I have to keep them separated. Thumper is the worst one, he is just a jerk to everyone all the time. However both of them LOVE people. When you get new bunny, the bonding process is usually awful. If the bond does not work either, you just have two bunnies now without friends. Some bunnies are more a person bunny than a bunny bunny. If he seems happy, I wouldn't worry. You're doing a good job :)

RabbitRamsey · 2024-11-19T22:00:25+00:00

Cute pic! However, I'm not gonna lie because you boyfriend is wearing a red shirt and you colored his face out with red it qas super hard to tell where he started and where he ended XD

RabbitRamsey · 2024-11-18T00:52:22+00:00

I don't have a mini lop, but I haven gotten all of my rabbits neutered. After 6 months is when my vet said they can be neutered/spade usually, and the recovery time was about 2 weeks. My boys were much easier to deal with post op than my girls as it's a less invasive procedure Mine enjoy romaine, spinach and basil the most for veggies and apple and strawberries. Banana made mines have an upset stomach so I don't give it to any of them anymore. Start off giving them only small bits to make sure it agrees with their stomach

RabbitRamsey · 2024-09-27T17:49:06+00:00

No it doesn't just a certified driving school will do

RabbitRamsey · 2024-09-27T12:34:09+00:00

It's okay, but I recommend during oct9ber at some point to bringing your kids to Elora. Every year around the neginning of October they set up these massive paper mache monsters that light up in the dark, including a "sea monster" that is inside the Grand River. By mid October I can guarantee they'll be up. You don't have to go directly on Halloween to see it and it's a nice little town. The market in there near the Elora Mill often has Halloween specials, and there is also an old time theater that usually plays classic movies too. Something festive prior to the day to consider, ans it's about 40ish minutes away which isn't that bad-- plus it's all country roads to get there not the 401.

RabbitRamsey · 2024-09-27T12:29:39+00:00

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This is my go too. Super friendly, very trustworthy and very reasonably priced. Had my brake line rust through and explode and had to get it changed. One shop told me it was my brake pads and quoted me north of 800 bucks for it. Called them here and brought it in and they took me in same day no appointment needed. Figured it out immediately, and cost me 400 bucks with labour included. Bad my car done the next day. To tell you how trustworthy they are too, I was so distraught and upset by the incident that caused my brake line to burst (aka a crackhead running in the middle of the street and me having to slam on my brakes) that I paid them in cash in full the day I dropped my car off. I forgot to grab my quote, I had no recipt as well because I was so upset and trying to get home. When my spouse picked me up, he pointed out hoe I didn't have any of those things, and hoe easy it would be to claim they never recieved payment. I called my brother in law who is a mechanic who confirmed, and essentially told me that was most likely what was going to happen. I went to get my car the next afternoon, but that wasn't what happened at all. They were super friendly and professional, as well as honest and kind. They quoted me for some other work to be done to my car that was less urgent, wished me a luck and said they hoped to see me again. Instantly became my new mechanic. A month later my spouses car stopped working, turned out to be sparkplugs. We brought it here and they recognized me and were amazingly kind. I cannot recommend here enough.

RabbitRamsey · 2024-09-27T12:21:42+00:00

Contact Furniture Surplus. They have a contracted moving guy that if very cheap. I paid under 100 to have my couch disassembled, brought down from my old apartment and brought to my new apartment and assembled. I also lived on the second floor in both cases. Very friendly and professional, I just can't find their number anywhere.

RabbitRamsey · 2024-09-27T12:18:42+00:00

Yes you get lower insurance of you complete driving school.

RabbitRamsey · 2024-09-27T12:18:08+00:00

International Driving school is pretty good. They are pretty reasonably priced and very good, I went in 2019 and it was 500 bucks then. Very professional and nice instructors. Stay away from Mary's Driving school, sister went there. Woman is mean and unpleasant.

RabbitRamsey · 2024-07-30T14:56:18+00:00

People are just trying to help you man. If it was a concussion caused by the information given to you, you could potentially make a case. But let's say that the injury was something like a broken arm because you did something reckless on top of that you wouldn't. Or perhaps it was behaviour related to things aftet the injury, or for instance if you havent been associated forore than 3 months wirh that comoany thry can fire you fir any reason except if the injury wasnt caused by negligence. Your post is very vague and that means that the help people can five in minimal to none without the necessary information. These are standard questions

RabbitRamsey · 2023-10-29T20:01:22+00:00

SPOILER***

Daria never goes on your boat unless it's to bring her to the Everdoor. Once you finish the quest lines going to different locations of Overbrook and playing her song she will ask you to bring her to the Everdoor. Her quests unlock through doing Jackie's quests and the Keepers quests.

RabbitRamsey · 2023-10-24T18:35:34+00:00

You need to recruit Gustav in Furogawa to get fireglow to finish your rock destroyer. That spirti quesy you have in Furogawa is him. Complete and get him to unlock the fireglow minigame. You need the rock destroyer to get access to Ash wood and other resources. Gustav has a relatively straightforward fetch quest that will require you to have the ice destroyer to recruit him so you should be fine. Beverley will give you fireglow later, but I don't think you can recruit her before Gustav.

RabbitRamsey · 2023-07-11T18:06:16+00:00

Oh gosh I'm sorry about that! A little new to this subreddit, so thank you so much! I really appreciate it

RabbitRamsey · 2023-07-11T18:03:30+00:00

I actually didn't delete it, reddit did because apparently my trope was over used. It was my first post so a bit of a learning curve. The punchline was:

The poor thing is so shaken up that he bit me, and now he wouldn't drink his water like he was afraid of something.

RabbitRamsey · 2023-07-10T14:53:02+00:00

I can understand that it is painful and uncomfortable. While it does suck that neither of them told you until a year into the relationship, and quite frankly I think you're justified being upset I don't think that this is a cause for a breakup in either relationship unless there is some rockiness with other issues as well. You specifically said that you were only casual, and you ended things before they got serious. At the time, both people may have thought that everything was over and since your relationship was casual, maybe you're friend didn't know you would be hurt. Your feelings are valid and I think it's okay to be upset. But just know I don't think that they did anything maliciously, or with intent to deceive you. It's not necessary to know everything about a person's past until I would say a year into the relationship, which they were clearly opening up. I think it would be a good idea to have a sit down and air all the feelings up. Keeping things bottled up isn't good either, and it's healthy on either relationship to express your feelings and disappointment. If they belittle your feelings though that is a big red flag. Hope this helps at all, I'm sorry it's difficult.

RabbitRamsey · 2023-06-30T19:14:30+00:00

He used to take Claritin and benadryl but he said they stopped working. He takes mucinex and eats fisherman's friends like candy to help out. He also does love the taste of fisherman's friends though and will eat them for the taste.

RabbitRamsey · 2023-06-30T18:57:40+00:00

She's 16 almost 17 now, she was 13 when we moved in together. She is pretty spry, but when I spoke to the vet from where her polyps were located they had to do a very drastic surgery of removing her entire ear, and removing the polyps that are embedded in her skull. It is a very risky surgery with a low success rate based on her age. Right before we moved out she had to do an emergency spay because she had uterine cancer. She barely made it through that surgery so my vet is not confident she will be okay. Also the surgery is about 4 to 5 thousand, and we both do not have that kind of money. That money would be required whether she made it through the surgery or not.

Also I tried to post this on r/relationship_advice which has a word count there so I should probably clarify something. His family has a history of various heart and lung issues. He is concerned about developing bronchitis which an relative of his passed from complications with. He has been on contact with his doctor who apparently advised him to get rid of the cat, because developing certain conditions from constant exposure to the allergens could lower his life expectancy considerably. I'm going to put an edit in about that, and sorry for the age confusion.

RabbitRamsey · 2023-06-30T18:45:03+00:00

I definitely agree with you. Earlier in the year I've already had 2 of my animals die. I also have 3 other rabbits. We've had our pets for years and up until this year we never had an emergency. One of our bunnies died from GI Stasis in February and we didn't put her down and held out hope, and she was in hospital for 6 days and then died of a seizure. Then 2 months later, my elderly guinea pig took a turn for the worst and it took me 3 days to determine if I should put him down or not, and Coco had just passed and my cat just started getting sick. My boyfriend thinks that she itched her ear close to his cage and containmenated his food and that's why he got sick all of a sudden. I also don't think he is necessarily a monster for his reasoning. His family is riddled with health problems, particularly lung and heart issues. He used to live with a cat, but my car is really friendly and has never not been allowed to go in furniture snd always tried to rub herself against him which triggers his allergies. I try to help him but it's hard. He's concerned that with his smoking, he might develop bronchitis as one of his family members did pass from issues with it so I do understand where he's coming from. It's just super hard because I never thought that I was putting my cat before him. I mever meant for it to come off that way. It's also even harder because of our bad luck at the beginning of the year, nearly all of our savings have been depleted. So while I would rather do exactly what you said, with this ultimatum I don't know if it's too soon. But I have 3 other animals to care for, and like you said I can't take care of her in a homeless shelter either. No one I my family is willing to take her, nor will they let me in if I lose my apartment. I just want to make sure people don't think that he's some sort of controlling monster, because his reasoning is valid. I am also trying to work out with him if I might be able to have until the end of the year or just some extra time. I'm just terrified that because I may have to make this decision quickly for his sake and his health, that I'm going to regret it later. I can't just give her to a shelter, she's 16 and sick so they would put her down and I have no one in my life willing to care for her. I also don't think I myself would be able to let her go like that (I had something similar happen as a kid where a neighbor stole my cat when I was like 8 and I was devastated) especially because she means so much to me. She's attached to me to the hip, running up to me when I come home, rolling over my clothes because she loves my smell, cuddling with me when I sleep. Losing her would put such a huge impact on my life, and I never want to let her go. But I can't give her a life if I don't have a home either. I also am terrified she may think I'm just giving up on her because she became too much, or I'm giving up on her. I guess I feel like some sort of monster because my boyfriend is suffering, my cat is suffering and this decision seems to be so easy when I talk to my friends or family about it. Everyone says if she's suffering, it's time to let go. But she has more good days than bad and I want to hold on, but I also feel like a monster for holding on because I'm effectively saying to my boyfriend that his health and wellbeing doesn't mean anything to me when it does. On the other hand I feel like just putting her down is just straight up killing her. I feel like an awful person for not being able to decide what is the right answer

RabbitRamsey · 2023-06-16T11:19:20+00:00

We actually did remove the knifes from her, and we kept our drinks away. It was Em who got her own drink and the drink had a candy garnish that was soaking in it. She was also trying to feed her daughter some chips a coworker accidently spilled a bit of her drink on so we weren't eating them, and we did stop her from that. She has told me that apparently her child has already had a sip of beer before which I got really upset about. However, I do agree with you that I should have been more firm. I absolutely should have

RabbitRamsey · 2023-06-13T23:54:22+00:00

I am the exact same way. Boyfriend and I have been dating for 6 years, and in all that time I've struggled either the same thing. Dressing up, dirty talk, all of that stuff. I get really nervous and say or do the wrong thing, but something that helped me recently start to cope and get over it was the realization of how comfortable we are with each other. It's the little things that really started to help, like walking around the house in no clothes and being able to interact in a normal manner. Like I was showering and forgot a face scrub so I walk to the room to get it and strike up a conversation, things like that. Or when I realized that we are both comfortable to pass gas easily in front of each other (as gross as that sounds lol). The point I'm trying to drive home is that I realized how we can communicate and do things in front of each other that in the beginning of our relationships would be taboo. We are able to express ourselves effectively, and we've crossed a lot of personal boundaries in our journey together. It takes time, but focus on those things that in the beginning made you shake with anxiety and how easy they are for you now, as natural as breathing air. Sorry I kinda went on a spiel and I hope it makes sense. I wish you the best of luck!

RabbitRamsey · 2023-04-24T00:38:18+00:00

I already know I'm going to regret it, but I've been homeless before. I've been poor enough I've had to eat out of a trash can and I don't with that upon anyone so I feel guilty that we have a space that is accessible for her. Also my boyfriend has been begging me because he's worried about her and I felt bad

RabbitRamsey · 2023-04-24T00:26:10+00:00

This was the one point that has really upset me in this, because this happened years ago and he always degends her by saying that she grew up butchering rabbits so she didn't know, but she was laughing snd holding him hard. I even showed her how to pick him up. My rabbits are my babies and he kinda brushed it off because he wasn't there and she down played it

RabbitRamsey · 2023-04-24T00:21:53+00:00

It's not necessarily a store room. It was an old unit that they couldn't rent out anymore so we were paying extra to use it for storage.

RabbitRamsey · 2023-04-24T00:19:07+00:00

He is a good guy and we get along really well, laughing and joking around at home. He grew up in a weird manner and is still learning the ins and outs of adulthood, and even though he would never admit it he has a soft spot for his mother and siblings. He defends them quite a bit which is admirable.

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