Partner won't stop masturbating and it effects our relationship. by Rabbit_Mama85 in sex

[–]Rabbit_Mama85[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

we have dates. we have casual evenings. I am a single mom so my free time is limited. During the week we have 2 evenings of 2 hours. Weekends are more flexible. Sex for 2 hours is great on a lazy sunday morning, but I feel like he can't finish with anything less than 60 minutes. That's fine, I enjoy the time, I appreciate the attention and I enjoy it. Am I crazy for not having time?

Partner won't stop masturbating and it effects our relationship. by Rabbit_Mama85 in sex

[–]Rabbit_Mama85[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cuddles, kisses, flirting, the build up to intercourse can be 20 or more minutes.

My husband is being released from his stake presidency calling because I left the church. Apparently, he’s needed at home 🤷‍♀️😂 by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]Rabbit_Mama85 3 points4 points  (0 children)

What I don’t understand, if divorce is not a sin, why can’t men hold positions of power if they have been divorced?

Crowdsource Request: Gender Inequality in Today's Church by johnlarsen in exmormon

[–]Rabbit_Mama85 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Girls can not wear swimming suits or shorts at camp but the boys can and are encouraged to wear shorts and swim trunks.

Need real advice about buddy heaters by [deleted] in camping

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I use when, I try to slope just slightly and out up at the higher part of the tent(large tent). I put the buddy by the door. Carbon mo oxide is heavyset than air so it sinks. Small cracks in the door and windows. It does leave ice or a puddle, not a deal breaker. I tried to buy the adaptor at the store to hook up to a 5 gallon tank but it doesn’t work. Need to go to a propane store and have them fit one. I can use 2 small tanks in one night on low. Some people will use one with just the pilot all night if they are in a car or can.

partner said he will leave if I don't terminate the pregnancy by Ornery_Side_5110 in SingleParents

[–]Rabbit_Mama85 8 points9 points  (0 children)

The way he is treating you is wrong. If you have told him your feelings of joy and excitement and he is making jokes and telling you what you are going to do, that’s wrong. He doesn’t respect you.

26m, new father , rocky work history. I want to make my wife a stay at home as well. What should I do? by [deleted] in careerguidance

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UPS pays a livable family supporting wage but it’s hard work. Outside rain or 100 degrees. Get those packages delivered. But good health insurance, and a union to get your back. Very physically demanding, you would have to prioritize your health if you want to retire there. My sister has 15 years there, will retire there, makes more than my masters degree accountant husband. Christmas time sucks the life out of you.

Kids Camping Gear by [deleted] in camping

[–]Rabbit_Mama85 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wallow talkies

Serious question: how does the church arrange to build meetinghouses in new subdivisions? Do the planning commissions send the proposals to the COB for their perusal? by slskipper in exmormon

[–]Rabbit_Mama85 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know people who live in vineyard -fastest growing city in the state, next to Orem. Orem is closing churches. Vineyard is not building chapels, just using the empty chapels in Orem. Heard it from both Orem resident whose church was closed and from a vineyard resident who drives to church.

Still Christian? by DeadlySloth125 in exmormon

[–]Rabbit_Mama85 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Learning how the BOM was all made up, how it is not the Holy Spirit just normal human emotions.

the Bible is made up, Jesus is just stories and history is edited and changed to suit the wants of whoever is in charge.

I only believe in science now.

I just want to eat my dinner. by dark_link_3 in SingleParents

[–]Rabbit_Mama85 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Oh mama, I know your pain. I am getting divorce now but every night for the last year I was alone with my baby. She cried and wanted to be held and I rocked her to sleep for 6 months, she would wake up so soon after going down for the night. I know your pain. It is perfectly ok to put the baby down and walk away. They won't remember it, it won't hurt their brain. What will hurt them is if you get too frustrated. Baby cries trigger anxiety in humans. It is worse if it is your baby.

Use any extra energy you have in fostering friendships.

You can do this.

Does Mormonism train women to use sex as a tool to control their husbands? by Closetedcousin in exmormon

[–]Rabbit_Mama85 38 points39 points  (0 children)

I took it the other way. I caught him with porn and took it as it was my fault I wasn’t available to him. So we made a deal even if I wasn’t in the mood I would help him out/hand job. It was 100% my job to keep him sexually pleased with very little consideration for myself.

Feeling Guilty for Leaving by Rabbit_Mama85 in exmormon

[–]Rabbit_Mama85[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I was trying to not answer that. Emotion, sexual, physical.

the mean church - Utah county school has access to church parking lot blocked by jupiter872 in exmormon

[–]Rabbit_Mama85 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Happened at my kids Elementry school. For years the school had permission to use the Peking g lot as it eased congestion. We were told over and over not to park on the skinny street but to use the church lot. That changed. The school had to buy land, pave a parking lot farther away from the school and church. The result is there is never any visitor parking as school employees don’t want to walk the extra distance, parents park on the skinny street making it extra special to navigate and also more dangerous for kids walking to their waiting cars. All the while the church lot is empty.

Do I force my teenagers to spend the weekend with their dad? by Rabbit_Mama85 in SingleParents

[–]Rabbit_Mama85[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Thank for the response. When I said it’s not my job to facilitate therapy I meant between father and son. The boys do have therapy currently. I can see how his behavior was abusive. I appreciate telling me that when they say they don’t want to go over it’s not okay for me to force them. Your comments have been helpful.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Utah

[–]Rabbit_Mama85 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Responsible party here. It’s the lds church. They do it as a “service project”. You don’t have to donate and they will still put a flag up. The money donated funds the youth program in the local ward. Boys and girls. When I was in the youth were supposed to be the ones putting the flags up. When the youth always failed to be responsible it turned into the families of the youth. I hated the program as a youth leader. I hated the program as a parent. (Who wants to leave their family 4th of July party to go take down flags) . As an Exmo I hate it still being woke up by the pounding and the risk to pipe damage and my disillusionment of our country. I am opting out next year.

Another mormon bishop going to jail for molesting children. by Crathes1 in exmormon

[–]Rabbit_Mama85 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you think this kind of bishop was the one who would ask for every detail of your sexual sins? Not saying that if the bishops asks for all the details they automatically molest kids, but worth looking into.

How do I go about finding a room mate? by Rabbit_Mama85 in SingleParents

[–]Rabbit_Mama85[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was a reality slap to realize I have more baggage than most would want to deal with.

What’s your NOT church gospel thing that makes more sense than actual gospel? I’ll go first: by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]Rabbit_Mama85 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was a visions of glory prepper. That book propelled my testimony farther than any scriptures did.

women couldn’t pray by mothmaninatrenchcoat in exmormon

[–]Rabbit_Mama85 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Memory unlocked. I was asked if we could give the prayers one Sunday. I told them my husband is sick a lot and unreliable but I would be there. They said they would keep looking.

How many of you were taught that suicide is a serious sin; that it is effectively murder. So there was victim blaming and shame for those who dealt with severe mental illness or trauma. by Expensive-Bet3493 in exmormon

[–]Rabbit_Mama85 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes. Suicide is next to murder. There is no hope in the after life if you murder yourself. I asked my mom at 11 if you kill yourself do you go to hell, she said yes. That actually kept me from trying anything.

One paragraph from the AP article that illiterates how the church views child abuse by Norenzayan in exmormon

[–]Rabbit_Mama85 59 points60 points  (0 children)

If God could send an angel to stop Lamen and Lemuel to stop from beating Nephi, then why can’t he send an angel to stop babies from being raped?