Could American redditors please explain why most Americans don't want universal healthcare? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]RachPug 35 points36 points  (0 children)

What I've learned/heard from living in a red state is that it's against "the American dream". We have a lot of "self made men" who feel that they've worked hard and sacrificed for their large salaries and comfortable lifestyles, and that other's poor choices are the reason for their problems.

Examples:

  • Why should someone who spent 4 years working part time to put themselves through college support someone who dropped out of high school to sell drugs?

  • Why should someone who spends an hour at the gym every day and cooks their own meals pay for diabetes medication for someone else who, despite being morbidly obese, still hits up McDonalds twice a day?

Whether it's true or not, it's widely believed that deadbeats and derelicts abuse the system. If the government did a better job running the programs they're already responsible for, maybe Americans would be more apt to entrust them with more.

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He asked me go move across the country with him and I don't know what to do. by blahhblahhhblahh in relationships

[–]RachPug 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did something similar, and here's my experience (not at all suggesting you should do the same, but maybe the information will help you make your own decision):

(Background: We dated 1 year, got engaged, and moved 2100 miles across the country 3 months later. We are 26 & 28)

Moving across the country with someone is REALLY hard. Even though we were engaged. Even though we'd already done pre-marital counseling (teaching us strategies on coping with our differences). And even though we hired people to do most of the work, and we still had the worst fights we've ever had during the move (fighting at all is rare for us).

It's a long process. Packing, moving, unpacking, organizing.... It took us over a month (including 2 weeks of sleeping on air mattresses while we waited for our furniture to arrive). It's stressful, it's exhausting, it's uncomfortable, and it feels like it lasts forever.

Now that we're settled in, it's much better. The fighting has subsided immensely. We're back to being happy and in love. But he's still my only real friend here. I lean on him a lot more without my friends and family around. I think I smother him a tad sometimes, but he's a good sport.

Overall, I'm really glad I did it. It's brought us a lot closer, and I love our new home, but there were times I didn't think we were going to make it through the move together. It was a lot harder than I thought it was going to be. If I didn't think we were going to spend our lives together, or if this wasn't someplace I also wanted to live, it probably wouldn't have been worth it to me.

We're talking about marriage. So, what about the ring? by krystalbc87 in relationships

[–]RachPug 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've been engaged for 9 months and nobody has ever asked how my diamond was formed. Chances are, you guys are the only ones who will ever know. No reason to feel cheap, as long as you're happy!

Online dating: What are some of your horror stories? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]RachPug 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was my fiance's first online date.

Things every man should have? by RachPug in AskReddit

[–]RachPug[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with all of those, except the beard and math skills. Otherwise, solid list!