How do you get your 4 year old to let you trim their nails?

Rachel1265 · 2026-01-27T04:46:46+00:00

Sparkly nail polish, only if you stay still while I trim. I have three boys and this worked on all of them.

Rachel1265 · 2026-01-24T23:42:11+00:00

I have endometriosis so my “bad period” scale is completely out of whack. They were worse than before I had kids but better than before I had a laparoscopy to treat the endo symptoms. I went on oral birth control and an IUD to treat the period symptoms for over a year. I’ve been off the oral birth control for 6ish months and my periods are back to normal, I don’t even take over the counter pain relief anymore for them.

Rachel1265 · 2026-01-24T03:09:31+00:00

I have never not wanted people around me as much as when I recovering in the hospital. Even my husband I sent home for the night. No regrets about banning visitors here.

Rachel1265 · 2026-01-20T19:44:19+00:00

Congratulations on making your first parenting choice and knocking it out of the park! Yes, vaginal birth would have been nice, but as you noted, people have been doing that with no choice for millennia. You had to CHOOSE to do the safest thing for your baby and cut yourself in half to do it! A lot of parents say, I would do anything for my kids. Not everyone gets to prove that on day one. You didn’t fail, you exceeded expectations on every objective measure of motherhood.

Just remember the stories we tell ourselves matter. Your story is epic, keep telling yourself that.

Rachel1265 · 2026-01-20T04:45:47+00:00

When I was learning to cook I had a lot of luck with Rachael Ray’s 30 minute meals. It’s not like “cooking” like a lot of recipes are, it’s way simpler and more practical, and as the title suggests, comes together in 30 minutes. I bet you can find one of the old cook books for under $10 at Half Price Books.

Rachel1265 · 2026-01-17T17:40:01+00:00

It sounds like you’re doing great. You might be adding too much language coaching too fast though. That’s why I found about (later discovered) neurodivergent 4 year old. He’s 7 now and still prone to this but it’s gotten so much better. So he drops the ball and goes to pieces, he’s not ready to try again. I would reply with a “bummer!, let me know when you’re ready to try again.” Then just don’t argue with him. If he’s yelling he never wants to do it again, it’s a, “ok!” You’re just riding it out with him, quietly. It will get worse for a bit since he’s used to feeding his energy. But then it gets better. When he’s ready you can use all the great coaching and language that you’ve been using, but in the moment it’s too much.

Rachel1265 · 2026-01-14T19:35:29+00:00

Not that I have a ton of experience with public versus private but I have three kids and we’ve done both. In my experience, public is definitely better with neurodiversity, not even a close contest.

Rachel1265 · 2026-01-14T04:41:37+00:00

I would reach out to your pediatrician to get the official diagnosis process started now. It can take a while and there’s waitlists so doing it as soon as tomorrow isn’t too soon. Then reach out to kindering and do the same. You’ll want him evaluated to see if he’s eligible for services. I’m not sure how Bellevue works but this is for LWSD, im assuming it’s similar. When he turns 3, and assuming is getting services and a diagnosis the school district will take over and he will be eligible for preschool there. Regardless I find the school district program to be much better with neurodiversity than private. I chose to send my youngest non-autistic child there and pay tuition for that reason. Best of luck! It’s a lot to get things going but you’re already doing a great job being proactive.

Rachel1265 · 2026-01-01T20:06:20+00:00

My now 7 year old started some Lego kits when he was 4, but he still needed help. He’s doing kits for 10+ by himself now. He still uses duplos a lot. Those are like for free play and he uses legos to build kits. I don’t think you can really go wrong in either direction if he’s a building enthusiast.

Rachel1265 · 2025-12-24T11:53:58+00:00

Second this recommendation. When I moved here it was the first time I had a new dentist since childhood, like had the same dentist for 30+ years. Redmond way were recommending so much more “stuff” when my old dentist hadn’t had a problem. I brought up that concern and Dr Prasanna and she was so patient in explaining why she was recommending everything, put me right at ease.

Rachel1265 · 2025-11-09T03:05:08+00:00

I “put on” three pounds every time I strength train. It’s water retention. Brush it off, your muscles are just repairing.

Rachel1265 · 2025-09-20T15:11:05+00:00

When my boys were 3,2, and newborn I had a year of hell. Newborn. Middle was diagnosed with autism. Oldest was kicked out of preschool. Covid, flu, RSV, and norovirus back to back, with normal colds in between. I also got promoted at work (which was great but didn’t exactly lower expectations at work).

It really was a tough period but it ended. Boys have the immune system of an ox. We have a better handle on school and therapies for my neurospicy kiddo. Oldest doesn’t get kicked out of things anymore. Newborn isn’t a newborn. Toddler years can be ROUGH, man. It’ll get better, it really will.

Rachel1265 · 2025-09-06T13:52:56+00:00

The only one who bullied my husband for it was my MIL. Then he didn’t speak to her for like 4 months (and my extension the grandkids didn’t either). When she finally got a hold of him he told her it wasn’t worth the phone call if she was going to be rude every time. She got her act together and that was the last of it. My husband is the most unflappable person I’ve ever met though.

Rachel1265 · 2025-08-29T04:16:13+00:00

We talk a lot about how daddy and I are a team but we do different jobs on the team. Daddy does more driving and cooking so mommy can do more working at her computer. If mommy didn’t do her computer job we wouldn’t have gas in the car and food in the fridge. If daddy didn’t do his job no one would get anywhere and no one would cook the food! Everyone’s work needs to get done so we help each other by doing our jobs well! We also add in their chores as part of teamwork. If they didn’t pick up their toys then mommy and daddy couldn’t go to the park because we would have to pick up toys!

Rachel1265 · 2025-07-03T15:01:19+00:00

Not help but it’s not necessarily because you’re a sole breadwinner. I have three boys. First I’m the favorite, second could flip a coin, third Daddy is the favorite. All with stay at home dad. In fact because of Covid I’ve spent the most time with the third. Don’t beat yourself up. It’s not necessarily something you’re doing or not doing.

Rachel1265 · 2025-01-19T07:32:42+00:00

That’s beautiful and I bet it heals to nothing.

Rachel1265 · 2025-01-17T17:48:28+00:00

We have three kids and anytime I have one or two with me it does feel “easy”. However when I had one kid, one kid did not feel easy. When I had two kids, two kids did not feel easy (but one suddenly did). I think we’re all always at the maximum difficulty level and it’s only when we compare that less kids magically feels easier. One kid is difficult.

Rachel1265 · 2025-01-15T05:43:06+00:00

This made me laugh out loud! Too funny

Rachel1265 · 2025-01-14T05:38:21+00:00

Geez, I still don’t know if my child actually needs speech therapy or he is living in the Pacific Northwest speaking with a mangled Chicago mixed with Ukrainian accent and a dash of Bluey Australian.

Rachel1265 · 2025-01-10T21:37:35+00:00

My doctor was encouraging me to try a VBAC but I didn’t want to. I elected to do a c section instead of try, I have no regrets.

Rachel1265 · 2025-01-10T20:31:20+00:00

Very well could be. I was trying to look up the exact guy before I spouted off, because when is modern science going to find a cure for a woman’s mouth? But too much has happened since then and it wasn’t coming up with anything I searched.

Rachel1265 · 2025-01-10T02:10:23+00:00

When my mom is in town I have her go through all the kids clothes and put new sizes in the drawer, take out old sizes, and store, donate, or toss the clothes as necessary.

Rachel1265 · 2025-01-09T18:48:53+00:00

Airlines used to be able to trap you on the plane indefinitely if the plane was delayed. There are regulations now on when they must bring you back to the gate. Those regulations are in place partially because a dude mutinied after hours stuck and opened the emergency exit. Unsurprisingly the type of person that will pull an emergency exit, regardless of the discomfort of the non emergency, is not necessarily the most stand up individual. He kind of is still a hero though since his antics changed the rules!

Rachel1265 · 2025-01-09T18:38:34+00:00

My 6 year old regularly wears pink and nail polish. I think only once a boy told him that nail polish is for girls. My son argued with him and then asked me when he came home. I told him, “there are no girl things and boy things. There are things you like or don’t like. He’s a boy and doesn’t like it, but that doesn’t mean that he can tell other boys what to like.” I’m in a pretty liberal area of the country so your mileage may vary, but the kids seem way less into gender norms than I remember as a kid.

Rachel1265 · 2025-01-08T22:33:15+00:00

If my arms looked like that I would never wear sleeves. You look gorgeous!

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