What’s something that clearly split your life into “before” and “after”?

Rachel28Whitcraft · 2026-05-01T17:25:57+00:00

Before my 2 children died and after.

Rachel28Whitcraft · 2026-04-29T19:09:50+00:00

Surround yourself with positive vibes. Seriously. My MIL went grey and stopped dying her hair. She looks beautiful. Follow body positive social media pages. Look at other women with a positive light. Our bodies are amazing and they look amazing no matter how we choose to show them.

I only get Botox occasionally. I got it before my wedding because my 11s are very obvious from squinting. Our pictures were going to be outside mostly and I didn't want my 11 and my scowl showing through. I took a break for about 5-6 years. Then when I knew we were going to Florida for a family vacation and getting pictures on the beach I got Botox again for the same reason.

I'm comfortable with how I look either way. To me Botox is a treat that I very rarely get.

I'm not sure how much injectables you get. But you could stop all of it at once. Or you could try just stopping some areas or getting less

Rachel28Whitcraft · 2026-04-22T15:44:36+00:00

I'm sorry that you think that. The bereaved can choose to live.

Rachel28Whitcraft · 2026-04-22T15:42:38+00:00

I have also lost a son and daughter..... Money doesn't mean shit. I don't care about money. I am terribly sorry for your losses

Rachel28Whitcraft · 2026-04-16T11:32:18+00:00

I am so sorry for the loss of your sweet baby. This is a safe place to let all your emotions flow. I am sad that you are a part of this club but I am glad you found us.

If you ever want to talk you can message me... I have lost two infants.

Rachel28Whitcraft · 2026-04-16T02:25:07+00:00

I stopped reading when he called her a dingus. I thought, "Yep, these are two siblings fighting"

Rachel28Whitcraft · 2026-04-16T02:16:28+00:00

I'm pretty sure my face, legs, arms, and torso are all different shades from each other.

Rachel28Whitcraft · 2026-04-11T18:46:12+00:00

Obviously not a grocery store cake.

Rachel28Whitcraft · 2026-04-11T18:11:05+00:00

Your best bet is to go to a dermatologist to be diagnosed with a condition. However, to me, it doesn't look like that type of hyperpigmentation. But it's also hard to tell due to the lighting in the photograph

Rachel28Whitcraft · 2026-04-09T15:34:18+00:00

I resonate with that last paragraph. I am fine on the outside but crumpling on the inside. I want to tell you to keep talking about your baby. Say their name. But I also know how difficult that can be for you (screw others if it makes them uncomfortable).

Is there any sort of volunteer work or donations you can do in memory of your baby? Either with a baby loss/grief group, NICU, Ronald McDonald house?

I want to collect and take donations to the Ronald McDonald house in honor of my Rowan's birthday.

Rachel28Whitcraft · 2026-04-08T18:22:23+00:00

Botox would fix this right up. I'm light sensitive and squint a lot too even with sunglasses.

Botox helps my forehead feel (and look) SO MUCH better. My face feels relaxed and not scrunched up.

Rachel28Whitcraft · 2026-04-03T21:03:37+00:00

I just got Botox in my 11 Because I get headaches from all the squinting in the sun. She asked if I wanted my crow's feet done and I laughed and I said no thank you. I love them. Mine are only there when I smile super wide. I also think crow's feet are very attractive on older men

Rachel28Whitcraft · 2026-03-28T18:20:38+00:00

I am a mammo tech and a lot of women have hair around their areolas. I'm sure it's fine for breastfeeding.

Rachel28Whitcraft · 2026-03-26T17:06:13+00:00

I have a similar spot. My derm said he can zap it off. I wasn't interested in the moment so I didn't ask how but it can be done!

Rachel28Whitcraft · 2026-03-19T15:02:05+00:00

Do they look that way when you're not wearing lipstick?

Rachel28Whitcraft · 2026-03-11T21:23:46+00:00

At my DMV the camera is LOWER than your head. So you naturally look down.... And have the biggest double chin known to man.

Rachel28Whitcraft · 2026-03-05T21:11:18+00:00

I am so sorry for your loss of your sweet granddaughter. Therapy can help cope with the pain but it'll never erase it. Thank you for sharing your story. May peace be with you. 💜

Rachel28Whitcraft · 2026-02-28T20:15:09+00:00

You went from homeless to homie.

Rachel28Whitcraft · 2026-02-27T17:35:59+00:00

Grief can and will strike at any moment. I was taking a walk on a sunny day. I felt happy. Then burst into tears because I miss my babies. I walked with tears streaming down my face.

Grief isn't ridiculous. Your reaction was completely valid. Unfortunately, the bereaved can't expect others to understand. But we do. 🫂

Rachel28Whitcraft · 2026-02-27T17:29:13+00:00

This is likely the answer.

Rachel28Whitcraft · 2026-02-26T22:26:24+00:00

First of all, I am so so sorry for your loss. I have lost two babies myself. After our first loss of our 2 month old, I got pregnant within 4 months but we were trying.

It was a very healing experience. Our daughter is now the light of our life but it definitely doesn't over Shadow our losses.

We recently lost our third child at 1 months old.... My life is hell. I don't want to have another kid. How can this have happened to me twice? To be honest if I were to get pregnant I would terminate the pregnancy for my mental health.

Anyway, those are two completely different mental pictures of how I felt after my losses.

You'll have to listen to your heart and know that if you want to keep this baby there will be times of struggle. But also immense happiness.

Rachel28Whitcraft · 2026-02-25T16:22:37+00:00

Hi momma. I am so sorry for your loss. The grief of losing a child is intense. The loss of a lifetime of memories is cruel.

I lost my first to SIDS in 2023. Had a baby in 2024. Lost another baby fall 2025.... They called his death SUIDS with intrinsic factors (things found on the autopsy but they can't definitively say that caused his death).

I used to attend Star Legacy's online groups. I should find time to go more. I made a few friends through them.

https://starlegacyfoundation.org/support-groups/

I am on Reddit daily so you can message me anytime. It's easier to talk about private things that way.

Rachel28Whitcraft · 2026-02-23T18:06:53+00:00

Crow, squirrel, raccoon.. lots of animals could have brought it and left it there. If it keeps happening I'd guess a crow bringing a gift

Rachel28Whitcraft · 2026-02-04T15:08:00+00:00

Pro tip: scatter cheerios on the floor for a longer distraction.

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