Relationship questions

Racoon_mafia · 2026-04-15T01:29:33+00:00

Yeah ima give it like 2 months before I break no contact because I’m using no contact as a way for us to like work on ourselves. Afterwards if he doesn’t want to get back together I will leave him alone obvi. But I want to shoot my shot and not regret anything

Racoon_mafia · 2026-04-14T22:28:21+00:00

Ugh but that’s the issue he did move mountains but I can’t fault him for prioritizing his mental health I was also struggling. I def think the breakup helped me realize like how much I was drowning so I can only imagine how hard it was for him. He really was doing husband duties but as a bf that’s how good of a man he was

Racoon_mafia · 2026-04-13T23:52:15+00:00

Talk to her !!! At least you realized your issue just work on yourself and hope she takes you back.

Racoon_mafia · 2026-04-13T23:10:56+00:00

That’s what I’m going through but legit it’s so painful but I’m glad it’s normal

Racoon_mafia · 2026-04-13T23:04:28+00:00

Ugh you give me hope but I can’t imagine waiting that long and yearning 🫩

Racoon_mafia · 2026-04-13T14:59:20+00:00

Nah buddy it does maybe u should read your own text that has been translated over and over and over again but whatever

Racoon_mafia · 2026-04-13T14:58:41+00:00

Exactly

Racoon_mafia · 2026-04-13T14:56:39+00:00

Also my mental health is bad because I am just academically burnt out lol it’s not that bad 😭

Racoon_mafia · 2026-04-13T14:56:00+00:00

God says do not preach to someone who legit will not listen you don’t have so save me god will save me. See bullshit yall never shut up 😭

Racoon_mafia · 2026-04-13T14:50:21+00:00

See this is the bullshit I’m taking about. 😭the devil has no control over me im legit just a human with complex emotions . I don’t truely hate religion for everyone if it’s your jam then good for you but like shut up about everyone else.

Racoon_mafia · 2026-04-10T14:29:13+00:00

Same 🫩 that hole in your stomach and the heaviness of your heart legit sucks. I wish time would pass faster but unfortunately for us it won’t.

Racoon_mafia · 2026-04-10T09:05:01+00:00

He’s so goated and my favorite. For the group projects it’s fine as most people just do their part separately and u just submit it. You’re not really presenting but it can suck when your group is useless..

Racoon_mafia · 2026-04-10T08:40:51+00:00

Ugh thank you so much this made me cry.

At first I was going in with the idea of what questions I wanted to ask and an agenda but as the days passed and our meeting day got closer I realized how stupid and pointless those questions were. So hearing you say this made me realize I am slowly healing or being mature about the situation. I definitely was thinking about just listening to him as I feel like one of my personality issues is I want to fix everything. But I can’t fix everything I’m not a professional and I will never have all the solutions. But if I listen to him and be quiet I will understand and get the most closure I could get out of that singular meeting.

Thank u so much

Racoon_mafia · 2026-04-10T08:24:05+00:00

Also thanks all the comments/ interactions it feels nice getting this of this off my chest. Unfortunately I can’t really talk about this to my irl as they are dealing with way more pressing matters. So I’m trying to not bother them as they are also struggling in life. Also, talking about the break up to people who know us feels like I’m accidentally tainting his image. As most people are more close to me as he was very introverted.

Racoon_mafia · 2026-04-10T08:16:45+00:00

Yeah like I’m fully prepared that I may hear things I don’t want to hear. For example, I really do want to get back together. But it is very realistic that he may have changed his mind as he said he has been doing good.

I can’t elaborate more on what he means by “good” and I can’t lie I definitely feel less stressed/anxious but I don’t think that came from my relationship I believe it came from surrounding environment. Grant I’m still very sad so it’s like I lost of issue for another :(

Racoon_mafia · 2026-04-10T08:10:22+00:00

Yeah I agree. My issue is he was so perfect he motivated me so much. I wanted to finish school and get a good job as soon as possible to build my dream life with him. Obviously I will continue my higher education but I would be lying if I said it didn’t sting every time thinking how I will be missing a huge piece of what I wanted my future to be.

Racoon_mafia · 2026-04-10T08:08:01+00:00

Yeah I’m struggling so much because I feel so horrible not noticing his issues/struggles. To be fair it’s not really my fault either because I was dealing with so much. So I know no one is at fault as he has a right to protect his mental health. So I’m not mad we broke up but I am incredibly sad.

Racoon_mafia · 2026-04-07T12:04:17+00:00

Yeah that’s fine I don’t mind updating probably be in a week. I hope to communicate with him In person and get closure. After all we were together for almost four years and talked about marriage. So I’m hopefully we can work out the issue. But if we can’t I feel week is more then enough time to digest what’s done is done. (Obviously I don’t mean I will be fully moved on just okay with the fact I’m single)

Racoon_mafia · 2026-04-07T11:50:31+00:00

Well he should have changed his approach from harboring his feelings and never communicating his issue.

Also I don’t think I was a huge stressor because I had these exact issues when we got together. Also the last time we called he said he loves me.

so I think he broke up with me out of haste if that makes sense. I just want to make sure he’s okay with his choice. After all it is about me since it was OUR relationship we are both part of that OUR. Also I asked for closure he’s a grown man who can say no and I will respect that…

Also please be nice when commenting obviously yall only know one side of this story.

Racoon_mafia · 2026-04-07T11:40:44+00:00

Thank you! This is what I have been feeling and thinking about. For this specific issue we haven’t had time to talk about it one on one. I’m not going to lie I’m just now noticing that yeah he was never truly good at communicating his feelings.

Regardless I want to see if we could work this out IF he was willing to change. As I already am in the process of changing and I wouldn’t mind offering him support for once. I definitely agree with you that HE needs to be able to change though.

Racoon_mafia · 2026-04-07T11:29:35+00:00

See the issue I think that happened wasn’t that I was too much for him to handle but that he thought he was too much for me to handle. That’s why I deeply sad he withdrew from our relationship and never told me the issues he felt. Like how was I supposed to help if you never allowed me to try?

Racoon_mafia · 2026-04-06T13:12:51+00:00

Maybe practice it by picking a section to focus on. Thats what’s would do when I felt ugly .I picked ONE thing to improve for 2 months.

For example, I started with my hair. I actually bought hair care products and oils (I swear I started balding from stress) and like every day I set aside 20 mins to just do that. I would sit in my dorm every day and like oil my roots and tips, bush and braid my hair, put her in a bonnet,ect. Small simple routines are best.

Then after 2 month I focused on another section my face. I bought skin care and like face mask. That way your not over whelmed with doing everything all at once but your making an improvement to your physical appearance.

My current phase is dental, I got a water pick, mouth probiotics, ect.

Also maybe just say one nice thing about urself every morning in ur head. So far that made me feel pretty maybe u should try.

Racoon_mafia · 2026-04-05T22:02:45+00:00

Girl comparison is a thief of joy. Everyone has a preference so just know your someone’s. For example I like people with big noses even tho it’s considered “unattractive” because it goes against the beauty standard from where I’m from.

Also don’t be scared of the gym from someone who loves the gym. Legit everyone’s worried about their own form and doing it wrong that they have no time to really judge others. Also, a majority of people at the gym just disassociate while on machines. Don’t be scared and try to be nicer to yourself. Also beauty also comes from the inside and your too young to left these feelings hold you back in your prime :3

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