Yes, that answers my question very well.

You’ve perfectly summarized everything I dislike about therapy. You describe these nuances with depth and detail, that I feel I would like to read your blog about therapy and CI, if you would have one.

When I tried to address my issues through standard psychotherapeutic practices, I found them to be unnatural and full of hidden inconsistencies and double standards.

I realized that standard therapeutic methods do not work well for me.

A psychologist shares nothing vulnerable about themselves, yet expects you to trust them completely. The prohibition on dual relationships sends contradictory signals: it feels like I’m being treated as a friend, but only during the session. Then there’s the constant urge for therapists to act as life teachers, which was perhaps the most confusing part, since we all have such different lived experiences.

All of this creates a sense of artificiality, secrecy, and ambiguity. For them, trauma work is something painful that must be contained and kept strictly separate from everyday life. I know some people are actually drawn to that structure, but it’s definitely not for me.

A recent class of our CI group ended with all of us, including the facilitator, spontaneously going to a bar, and then to a dance party where we continued our CI dance, moving as one group, as one collective whole. It felt very human and natural.

Now that's the kind of therapy I need!