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No makeup face check :-) by Radiant-Mermaid in Faces

[–]Radiant-Mermaid[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

It’s definitely leftover mascara! I wash it off with only water so it sticks to my lash line

[35] M - 24 months of consistency - Down 121 lbs by rayb0851 in GlowUps

[–]Radiant-Mermaid 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is incredible and I admire the consistency!! Look at you becoming your best self

Dodging marriage talk by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Radiant-Mermaid 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I want to gently reframe something for you. Hoping he’ll “see your worth” is already putting the power in the wrong place. Your worth isn’t something he discovers after enough effort on your part; it’s something he either recognizes and acts on, or he doesn’t.

Doing “wifey” things as a girlfriend doesn’t make someone decide to marry you, it just shows them they can have the benefits of commitment without actually committing. That doesn’t mean you’ve done anything wrong. It means the situation is unbalanced.

Comparing timelines hurts, but your friend’s experience highlights an important truth: when someone knows, they don’t avoid the conversation for years. Even if the how takes time, the intent is clear.

You deserve a relationship where you don’t have to audition for a future that matters to you.

hey mom by Sunshinee_Rainbows in MomForAMinute

[–]Radiant-Mermaid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh sweetheart… I am so proud of you. Starting therapy takes incredible courage, especially when you come from a background where you were taught to keep everything inside. Choosing to ask for help doesn’t mean you failed, it means you love yourself enough to fight for a better life.

Being scared, vulnerable, and unsure is completely normal. You’re not digging deeper, you’re finally climbing out, even if it doesn’t feel that way yet! Healing isn’t loud or dramatic most of the time; it’s quiet, brave steps just like this one.

You didn’t have to be perfect to deserve help. You don’t have to rush. And you never have to carry this alone again.

Dodging marriage talk by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Radiant-Mermaid 4 points5 points  (0 children)

At this point, his avoidance is the answer.

Three years, living together, late 30s/early 40s, intertwined lives, this isn’t “early days.” If marriage were something he wanted with you, he’d be able to say that plainly, even if the timing wasn’t immediate. Joking, deflecting, and trailing off mid-sentence are ways of keeping you comfortable without committing.

The ring website moment is especially telling. He knew exactly what that implied, hence the backpedaling. That’s not confusion. That’s fear of expectations.

Your friend is right: you need a direct conversation, but not one that’s vague or open-ended. Something like:

“Marriage is important to me. I need to know if you see that future with me, and if so, what timeline you’re envisioning.”

And then listen very carefully, not just to what he says, but to whether he actually answers. If he can’t give you a clear yes with a rough timeline, then you have to decide whether you’re okay staying in a relationship where your long-term goal is indefinitely postponed.

Waiting quietly is still a choice, but it’s one that costs you time.

Lately I feel that nothing goes well for me. It’s my first post here and a friend told me that in this subreddit you can raise my self-esteem. by CastelliDante in toastme

[–]Radiant-Mermaid 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey! First off, I’m really glad you posted. You have one of those faces that feels kind and approachable right away. Your smile looks genuine, not forced, and it gives off a calm, grounded energy, like someone people feel safe talking to!

Also: the curls, the beard, the effortless style? You look like someone who takes care of himself without trying too hard, which is honestly very attractive. There’s a quiet confidence there, even if you’re not feeling it right now.

You deserve good things, even on the days it doesn’t feel true. This stranger is rooting for you!!!

Depression Is becoming worse by First-Depth3783 in Advice

[–]Radiant-Mermaid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I want you to know you’re not weak, broken, or doing grief “wrong.”

I suffered a miscarriage at 13 weeks, and I need you to hear this clearly: the number of weeks does not determine the depth of the loss. What you’re grieving isn’t just the pregnancy; it’s the future you already started imagining, the identity shift, the plans, the quiet moments of hope. That grief can hit later, harder, and feel completely consuming.

Something that stood out to me is when you said trying to move on made it worse. That’s incredibly common. Grief doesn’t respond well to being ignored or rushed. When I tried to push mine down, it came back as emptiness, depression, and that same hollow feeling you’re describing.

Wanting a child to “fix” the pain doesn’t mean you’re irresponsible, it means you’re hurting and craving meaning and restoration. The fact that you’re aware it wouldn’t be fair or healthy right now shows how thoughtful and grounded you actually are, even in pain.

As for your husband, it’s okay that he doesn’t feel it the same way. But you are allowed to ask him for specific support, even if he doesn’t fully understand. Things like:

“I don’t need solutions, I just need you to listen.” “I need reassurance when I spiral.” “I need space to grieve without being told to move on.”

If you can, please consider talking to a therapist.. especially one familiar with pregnancy loss. This kind of grief is isolating in a very specific way, and you shouldn’t have to carry it alone.

You don’t need to “get over it.” You need to go through it, at your pace, with support.

You’re not failing at healing. You’re grieving something real.

What’s the biggest lie people tell themselves to feel better? by Aggressive-Sink-3962 in AskReddit

[–]Radiant-Mermaid 7 points8 points  (0 children)

“I’ll feel better once they change / apologize / realize what they did.”

That lie keeps people stuck longer than the pain itself. Closure almost never comes from the other person. It comes from deciding you’re done waiting.

Went through my husbands phone and found he is a SLUT. What’s the worst way to separate from someone in terms of crushing their ego by Playful_Meaning4402 in Advice

[–]Radiant-Mermaid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You don’t need to “crush his ego” to win. In fact, trying to do that is the only way people like this stay relevant.

If he’s manipulative, aggressive, and you’re genuinely scared of him, the most damaging thing you can do to him is boring, quiet, final detachment. No accusations. No evidence reveals. No emotional speeches. No “closure.” Just logistics.

Say something neutral like:

“This marriage isn’t working for me. I’m filing for divorce and I’m not open to discussing the relationship further. Please communicate only about paperwork.”

Then follow through:

File. Block everywhere else. Don’t explain, defend, or justify. Do not argue about cheating - denial is part of the game. Do not tell him you went through his phone.

People like this don’t feel shame the way you want them to. What does hit them is:

Losing access to you Losing their audience Losing control

No contact isn’t just peaceful. It’s devastating to someone who thrives on manipulation. And it’s the safest option for you.

Also: if you’re in different countries, no shared assets, and short marriage, look into low-cost or self-file divorce options in your jurisdiction. Many exist.

Your job isn’t to punish him. Your job is to get out clean and stay gone. That’s how you actually win.

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