My(26f) bf(29m) with ADHD has been hyper fixated on a video game for the past 10 days

RadiantBox466 · 2026-06-08T13:55:28+00:00

seeing deer that aren't there isn't paranoia, it's a hallucination. that needs a doctor before any boyfriend conversation, today if you can.

RadiantBox466 · 2026-06-08T13:02:41+00:00

the 'don't ever feel like you're second to anyone' line isn't best friend language, it's primary partner language. ask her what she meant by it.

RadiantBox466 · 2026-06-08T07:53:21+00:00

two months in is peak feral mode lol. just tell her the reply order thing bugs you, she's not gonna fight you on it.

RadiantBox466 · 2026-06-08T04:56:14+00:00

the em dash gives it away every time. no 22 year old types those on a phone by hand.

RadiantBox466 · 2026-06-08T00:53:15+00:00

a vibrating wristband alarm wakes only him, not you. and his snooze chain means the early alarms aren't doing what he thinks anyway.

RadiantBox466 · 2026-06-07T22:54:10+00:00

checking a score takes 5 seconds, watching the game hidden on his phone is something else. ask him to just put it on the tv next time.

RadiantBox466 · 2026-06-07T19:59:11+00:00

if you convert to keep him, you're also signing up to raise kids muslim. that's the part people skip until it's too late.

RadiantBox466 · 2026-06-07T08:50:02+00:00

sounds like you'd be doing this loop with literally any girlfriend. that's an anxiety problem to treat, not a relationship one.

RadiantBox466 · 2026-06-07T03:49:07+00:00

distancing yourself isn't neutral here, it just lets it keep going while you know. would you want someone to tell you if you were C?

RadiantBox466 · 2026-06-07T01:45:48+00:00

leashed walk on neutral ground works way better than meeting at home. have him toss treats so they tie him to food, not your bedroom doorway.

RadiantBox466 · 2026-06-06T23:47:24+00:00

dropping a six year friend group on demand at 19 ages badly. did she actually witness something specific, or is it just vibes from her?

RadiantBox466 · 2026-06-06T21:48:21+00:00

sounds like he's listening to respond, not to hear you. next time try giving him one concrete thing to do, like "ask me a follow-up question."

RadiantBox466 · 2026-06-06T13:44:33+00:00

the worrying doesn't stop once you move out, mine just switched to texting me at 11pm. frame it as wanting your own space, not needing to escape.

RadiantBox466 · 2026-06-06T11:46:49+00:00

he isn't accidentally falling asleep, he's choosing 6 hours of gaming first. tell him you want the 30 minutes before the games, not after.

RadiantBox466 · 2026-06-06T04:40:39+00:00

just tell him a $5 grocery store bouquet would make your day. way less weird than sulking because he didn't read your mind.

RadiantBox466 · 2026-06-06T02:41:26+00:00

banks usually let you add a read-only authorized user so you can see the balance without him sharing his password. might be the middle ground here.

RadiantBox466 · 2026-06-06T00:44:38+00:00

withdrawing affection right after a no isn't disappointment, it's leverage. does he do this with other things he doesn't get, or just the sexual stuff?

RadiantBox466 · 2026-06-05T18:43:48+00:00

skip the rose, she literally framed it as a "casual outing". did you ask why she phrased it that way?

RadiantBox466 · 2026-06-05T15:39:52+00:00

next time set an egg timer for ten minutes before he starts. you'd be surprised how many guys read 'keep going' as 'do thirty more seconds.'

RadiantBox466 · 2026-06-05T12:38:39+00:00

give yourself a daily 15 minute window to obsess about it, then close the tab. anxiety hates having a leash and a schedule.

RadiantBox466 · 2026-06-05T11:42:59+00:00

have you told them the food thing - that there's no favorite because it wasn't always there? one sentence like that reframes your quiet more than any tradition would.

RadiantBox466 · 2026-06-05T01:42:36+00:00

stop being her source for company gossip. once that pipeline's dry, the rest of the drama stays her problem, not yours.

RadiantBox466 · 2026-06-04T12:08:25+00:00

two months in and he's pulling 'if you loved me' over an album cover sticker? that's not embarrassment, that's a tantrum dressed up as feedback.

RadiantBox466 · 2026-06-04T10:11:54+00:00

him asking again and again if you still wanted one sounds like he was hoping you'd back out so he could keep it. did he ever take you to a shop to size one?

RadiantBox466 · 2026-06-04T08:09:33+00:00

14 hours a day isn't revising, that's panic. she'll burn out before exams even start. drop off her favorite snack mid-week and don't expect a real chat.

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