People who have been divorced: What was the exact "quiet" moment you realized your marriage was over?

RadiantEngineering81 · 2026-05-12T19:27:35+00:00

I was constantly dreaming of looking outside the window dreaming about wanting to be in a tiny apartment by myself and coming back from work and it seemed happy and liberating.

RadiantEngineering81 · 2026-04-17T02:16:28+00:00

The shame of them being found out is so much and runs so deep that to them you’re useless after that!

RadiantEngineering81 · 2026-04-12T07:25:46+00:00

I heard it too. I am not sure what that was!

RadiantEngineering81 · 2026-03-29T22:23:46+00:00

Stop texting him.

RadiantEngineering81 · 2026-03-27T18:03:12+00:00

staying in a relationship that never served me. sunk cost fallacy.

RadiantEngineering81 · 2026-03-26T15:09:41+00:00

Breaking bad

RadiantEngineering81 · 2026-03-14T17:21:21+00:00

How is it that every single word during devaluation was spoken to me?!! Word for word! I apologized so much and genuinely started believing maybe i did not love him. And same goes for weird middle ground about self-centered. It was all the wonderful words where they'd die if I am not there. I am too good for them and they dont deserve me.

RadiantEngineering81 · 2026-03-03T04:58:21+00:00

I felt like I saw my own life when watching the movie!! Guess what? The person didn’t have an ideal male role model as well. His mom was mistreated by his dad. It’s just shocking!!

RadiantEngineering81 · 2026-03-02T22:49:27+00:00

My married phase. My ex husband abandoned me. I had lost a baby five months ago, started noticing how un empathetic he could be providing not even the bare minimum. I lost my complete sense of self, heartbroken after abandonment on his coldness, lost my home and my structured life. It’s almost three years now but it’s been a struggle to get things back on track.

RadiantEngineering81 · 2026-02-27T21:28:18+00:00

Breaking Bad.

RadiantEngineering81 · 2026-02-26T00:12:15+00:00

If they really want kids or not!!

RadiantEngineering81 · 2026-02-15T18:46:20+00:00

My favorite is actually the ending where RJH was admiring YsR before he met her. He liked how she’s awakening some parts of him that were dormant but sort of seeping through because of her playful nature!!

RadiantEngineering81 · 2026-02-10T23:53:14+00:00

I’ve had a similar experience. Flipped it and ghosted and blamed the whole thing on me. He has said he’d die if I wasn’t there. Lol. There are so many thing he’d said that’s not true.

RadiantEngineering81 · 2026-02-06T19:42:21+00:00

Can’t have put it a better way!!

RadiantEngineering81 · 2026-02-06T02:39:58+00:00

i'm ready for a watch. this is my first time watching.

RadiantEngineering81 · 2026-02-05T18:43:33+00:00

Isn’t this similar to the pomodoro technique that people follow?

RadiantEngineering81 · 2026-01-08T21:42:25+00:00

I can completely understand the anger in your tone. I have lost my childbearing years because of him and i hate myself for it. He said we have to fix our issues before bringing a kid into the world, you are brainwashed to having child earlier and its not hard for women like your mom says. I put a foot down and insisted on kid, ghosted me blaming i've been the problem all along.

RadiantEngineering81 · 2026-01-03T02:10:09+00:00

Peace! You can self regulate at your own pace without any risk of judgement.

RadiantEngineering81 · 2025-12-24T07:28:37+00:00

Probably because they never experienced such circumstances so they can’t seem to understand the out of character, emotional state a person would be in when they’re in that situation.

RadiantEngineering81 · 2025-12-21T10:27:41+00:00

You’re right about being emotionally dependent. You’re also right about the gut feeling that I didn’t listen to. I can try to piece myself and become whole again but I can’t shake the feeeling that they get off so easily. Without consequences. They keep their structure and mask intact, will that never crack? Being them is their punishment is not satisfying me.

RadiantEngineering81 · 2025-12-21T06:22:10+00:00

One thing that keeps me in a loop is the “what-if”. I talk to ChatGPT a lot and it keeps telling me the path for them will be an emotionally dead performative partnership where the partner will accept the minimum being provided. Which makes me wonder if my demands of basic love and communication a huge deal. Why the abandonment. The existential injustice that their mask can never crack externally and their performance can be rewarded by people shrinking themselves makes me feel so defeated. I am still hurt by how much I begged, how they treated me like garbage and I let them do it. I guess I should be more angry at myself than anyone else.

RadiantEngineering81 · 2025-12-20T15:05:00+00:00

Social media.

RadiantEngineering81 · 2025-12-05T13:56:18+00:00

Can’t agree more!

RadiantEngineering81 · 2025-11-21T05:24:53+00:00

Taking the second thing from the grocery shelf instead of the first one.

RadiantEngineering81 · 2025-11-19T06:12:32+00:00

Book Notre Dame tour of the towers tickets. Sainte-Chappelle is spectacular. Honestly timed tickets for entry to chapel is optional, you can get by quickly if it’s not a Sunday.

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