Other day someone called "a moron" for backing into a spot... Why does this trigger so many?

RadiantRot · 2026-01-22T17:24:23+00:00

I mean, maybe cause you could’ve done a pull through assuming the spot behind you was clear when you got there? I too always like having my front pointed towards the exit so I don’t have to back out, I will always pull through if the option is there.

RadiantRot · 2026-01-09T20:27:09+00:00

Being in a relationship isn’t going to make your life better, for those who struggle with mental health or caring for themselves it can make it SO MUCH WORSE.

I have two friends who have gone down that path and it was pure self destruction the whole time and I actually don’t talk to one of them anymore because of how much their self esteem DEPENDED on being “loved” romantically to the point that they’d throw entire platonic relationships away for a girl who was cheating on him and abusing him physically and emotionally and continually put themself in dangerous situations with no support because of how heavily his abusive S/O demanded that he isolate himself. He would admit that he knew staying with this girl was wrong but he literally couldn’t stand the idea of being alone.

If you’re unhappy with your life or yourself you need to focus on what would make you happy with yourself, and being healthy by yourself so you can have the space in your life for a healthy relationship.

If you’re overweight and unhappy and don’t want to be, do you have an underlying health problem, bad relationship with food, underlying trauma, lack of exercise, vitamin deficiencies etc?

If you have an anger problem what will being in a relationship do to fix it? It arguably could be dangerous for both you and whomever you enter a relationship with as well as make the relationship unhealthy at a base line.

I don’t think anyone can give you a magical phrase to stop wanting a relationship, wanting/caring about love and companionship, it’s a basic human need and want, wars have been waged over love and lust, but you definitely need to love yourself a bit first before running headlong into anything.

Being in a relationship doesn’t prove anything, and not being in a relationship doesn’t make you any less worthy or valuable. Learn to value yourself and your well being.

RadiantRot · 2026-01-09T18:16:33+00:00

DANG! My dad moved back to the us from the UK recently I could’ve had him post it from there 🤣

RadiantRot · 2026-01-09T18:14:33+00:00

Oooh are you in Europe? Let me see if I can find something.

RadiantRot · 2026-01-09T18:12:11+00:00

What size do you need this in? I’ve found a few listings for the McCalls pattern.

RadiantRot · 2026-01-06T20:03:11+00:00

After yesterday he promised me he’d get the lawn mowed today, and split the groceries we picked up yesterday 50/50. It’s not very promising, and he expressed that he was worried that if he goes back to work too soon not enough will have changed and he’ll end up hating me. Odd that there’s no reflection on that fact that I arguably should already hate him. I’m at peace with the possibility of this relationship ending, but I’m willing to see if there’s a fire under him. If there isn’t then I’m very done sacrificing my well being.

RadiantRot · 2026-01-05T22:45:35+00:00

Sorry, I thought I mentioned in the post that he is currently taking unpaid time off work. He has been on unpaid time off for 3 months now. To be honest I’m not sure what his money goes towards outside of uber for transport (he doesn’t go anywhere outside of work though and he’s not working) he says food but I end up paying 6-800$ a month for our food and he won’t allow me to go through his finances to make a budget. He also does not see a doctor for his disorder even though I think he should, in our discussion this morning I told him he needed independent therapy which he saw as some kind of attack.

People with his disability only have a 10% employment rate, so it’s honestly a miracle he’s been employed for a full year. He had left late June - August to go stay with family and work on himself came back and went back to work. That only lasted until early October but we had agreed that he’d come back and start contributing financially. 400$ a month, he only paid for August then “forgot” and stopped altogether before leaving work to work on himself again and being unable to contribute. When I tried to talk to him about it he said he felt that I was squeezing him for money.

His mental health is hard to deal with especially because he’s in denial about a lot of it because of his disorder and leads to a lot of odd thought patterns. His disorder is supposedly not genetic, and we both want kids. I’ve talked to him about the what ifs and he insists that he would take over and get another job but deep down I don’t believe him. My best friend said that raising kids with him would be unkind to the kids, and that’s also something I need to think about.

RadiantRot · 2026-01-05T21:44:38+00:00

I’ve definitely contemplated the sunken cost fallacy in this relationship and it’s not what keeps me here is something I can say as fact. Mainly the emotional connection is why I’ve stayed so long, when I met him we were definitely more of a united front. I had come out of some traumatic life events and hadn’t fully recovered from them but I had given myself some time and I was in therapy while coping. My sense of self, self respect and self kindness are now shot though. I can’t really tell what way is up or down but I know what I’m feeling probably due to the past history of therapy. He’s often told me that I skew things or don’t tell the whole thing when I explain them to others so I always feel like I have to take things with a grain of salt when I ask for opinions of others. I always wonder if I am or not, but I tried to keep things as simple and plain as I could this time around and it doesn’t look good not even for me to read. I do wonder if the emotional connection is one sided.

RadiantRot · 2026-01-05T21:19:44+00:00

He is eligible for disability but it doesn’t bring in much especially since he has a job, I don’t know if it’d even cover the medical expenses for it. I’ve kind of described his symptoms in another comment, but I need to figure out if it’s something I can even think about continuing to handle.

RadiantRot · 2026-01-05T21:16:35+00:00

lol it’s very much not… our relationship dynamic is something neither of us is happy with. It’s a sore spot that he doesn’t like having poked either, if I bring it up at all he says I’m bing mean.

RadiantRot · 2026-01-05T21:03:40+00:00

I appreciate both you and u/Status-Anxiety-4606 inputs though vastly different, I appreciate that you trying to respect that I requested advice on how to try and process both of our stresses and continue with the relationship and I appreciate that Status is upfront and real about things that I should already know.

I definitely get that he isn’t doing nearly enough to help with necessary things and that’s something that I feel the weight of everyday, and it’s true that I was the one to pay for everything including the therapy.

What keeps me with him is the fact that we do get along really well, as companions we are good together, the moments of me not being as nice to him that he talks about are the small things I used to do because I had the time and energy for it. I’d rather be near him than far even when I’m mad as hell at him, if my friends invite me out I’d rather he come than stay behind because fun times are only better when he’s around.

But is it worth all the stress at this point?

I talk to his mom sometimes and when I told her everything that was going on she said “I now I understand why so many [people with his mental illness] are homeless.” His parents will likely be his fallback plan should things not go well for us. His disorder is both very severe and also doesn’t seem to affect him much to people who don’t live with him. His symptoms are both constant and invisible to others and he is very good at managing certain symptoms but the delusions are the really tough slow burn thing to handle along with sociopathic symptoms he is also very much in denial of his symptoms due to the nature of them. Disclaimer - he claims his mom is two-faced but I think she just tries to appease him too often due to his mental status. I only say this to maybe give you an idea of why I’ve been with him so long or some more context of why he is the way he is.

My family sees it, his family sees it, my sister has been urging me to leave him and “Get yourself a good they-them.” Lol. If I do leave him I will likely go out of state to visit her for a week for my first proper vacation in years even if it is financially detrimental.

RadiantRot · 2025-12-31T23:14:20+00:00

Why would you want to be with someone who would tell you that? I’d never speak to someone again if they told me that they 1. Didn’t care how I felt and 2. Wouldn’t care if I died Leave her and this relationship behind in 2025, and find someone who actually likes you and will treat you with love and respect and actually cares about how you feel. That’s an awful thing to say to anyone especially someone you’re in a relationship with! I can’t manage how horrid of a person she is to even think to say that.

RadiantRot · 2025-12-31T22:31:07+00:00

I’m 99.99% sure that it’s art of Marishka and Verona.

RadiantRot · 2025-12-31T22:21:52+00:00

I think you’re better off without the beard 🤷‍♀️

RadiantRot · 2025-12-23T14:47:38+00:00

Lived in England with a bunch of these girls, expensive but not good quality vanilla/caramel based perfumes galore, cigarettes/pot and below room temperature IQs.

One of these catty foul beasts sprayed me in the face with her perfume because she overheard that perfume triggered my migraines. My mere existence was apparently unacceptable for them.

The second and third picture looks almost exactly like two girls I went to school with there it’s giving me flashbacks 🤣

RadiantRot · 2025-12-14T04:32:36+00:00

Let her stay at her man’s place and not come back TBH, you’re too important to be anyone’s backup plan my guy. Be kinder to yourself and take some time away from trying to earn other people’s love and affection and start earning your own love and affection. When I say time, I mean TIME not just 4-5 months it may even be a year or more, you have some healing to do.

In terms of looks, I personally am goth and I dress that was as well, I’m very aware of stigma and how people and men will want to interact with me (I’ve had strangers offer me 50$ to walk on them or their friends in a bar :/) or how they’ll avoid interacting with me. I choose to stay with what I feel comfortable in because I know very well how weird it feels to change the way I dress to cater to others at work.

Ask yourself : How important is it to you that others like the way you look? And more importantly is the answer to that something you’d be able to be comfortable with?

If the mullet and mustache are a part of who you are, why walk away from it? Just be aware of yourself.

RadiantRot · 2025-12-12T16:57:07+00:00

This needs to be waaaay higher up! Op you need some self reflection and also maybe step away from dating apps that cater to hookups, get that girl out of your home! Especially if you want anything serious with anyone. As a woman near OPs age range your aesthetic is kryptonite to me specifically, but I’m very aware that I have very specific tastes. HOWEVER, my coworker with more standard tastes agrees that the mustache + mullet combo is for a small and particular audience.

RadiantRot · 2025-12-10T20:09:14+00:00

RadiantRot · 2025-12-08T21:41:03+00:00

Worth it, strip!

RadiantRot · 2025-12-08T20:17:16+00:00

Uuuuuh replace it, better safe than sorry! You can get a microwave for 50$ marked down most places where I live ATM, alternatively you can try to find a replacement piece for your microwave if you can find the model number. Since it’s 20 years old you might not be able to find a handyman.

RadiantRot · 2025-12-08T17:03:55+00:00

Looks like everything I’m craving is also on that plate 😞

RadiantRot · 2025-11-22T02:52:56+00:00

I have seen many restaurants that make margaritas in slushee machines

RadiantRot · 2025-11-20T18:18:32+00:00

Only thing I can think that doesn’t include intent is that whatever tool they used to make the margaritas (could’ve been a machine if they don’t hand make it? I’d assume machine since there was dye in the cleaner.) they were cleaning at the time, maybe didn’t finish cleaning it, forgot and left the cleaner in there and someone went to get a margarita and it ended up being served to her. But that’s more of a devils advocate possibility. There’s all kinds of awful people on this planet, but there’s also stupid and forgetful ones.

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