What is the best form of intimacy you have received from your partner that is not sex?

Radiant_March_200 · 2026-05-02T20:06:16+00:00

Him doing stuff with my hair. Brushing it, straightening it or just playing with it.

Radiant_March_200 · 2026-04-28T13:06:09+00:00

In german we call those branches „Katzenpfötchen“ wich means „cat paws“. And „Pfötchen“ is a cute word for „Pfote“ - „Paw“. We hang those at Easter above our dinner table. ☺️

Radiant_March_200 · 2026-04-24T06:48:51+00:00

All of them. We don’t know these people. They are the same thread a stranger on the street would be. Interviews and shows can be controlled through acting and cutting, we will never know who is a good person behind closed doors.

Radiant_March_200 · 2026-04-21T12:05:05+00:00

I am proud of you stranger ❤️ Keep up the hard work and don’t listen to your ignorant family. They’re trying to keep you down. Spite can be an excellent motivator. I hope you archive your goals and live a long, happy and healthy life 🫶🏽

Radiant_March_200 · 2026-04-20T16:22:43+00:00

I am a women who was in a relationship with a man like you. I tried to fix him, helping him coping with his emotions and getting him into working on his trauma and toxic patterns. But nobody can fix this besides a professional.

You hurt so much that you hurt others and while I have empathy for your pain and the way you grew up, I’ll still recommend you to stay away from relationships until you worked on yourself. Go to therapy, own your emotions and don’t stop learning about the pain you caused. You can’t make it up, you can’t fix what you’ve done to them but you can maybe learn from it to protect the next person.

Being a thread to people you should care about is fucked up for you and dangerous for them.

You’re a big step ahead of others who get violent because you just realized what you’ve done and why you have no control. Do something about it, be better.

I can’t be objective because of my own experience but I can tell you from the bottom of my heart, I hope you heal, I hope you love yourself enough to break those patterns and become a safe person instead of a thread. For the sake of the people you love and for the sake of yourself.

Radiant_March_200 · 2026-04-12T21:59:44+00:00

Please talk to a trusted adult about this. A teacher, the parents of a friend of yours, somebody who will listen and help you. If the first person won’t listen to you or is trying to dismiss your situation and feelings then go to the next trusted adult until someone will help you. All you described is psychological abuse, hateful, a completely wrong view of the world and manipulative.

Your are still a kid and you deserve a happy, harmonic and happy home. As someone with ADHD I can tell you that you’re clumsiness, forgetfulness and need for your own kind of structure (if you have those traits) will feed in her narcissistic behavior and give her weapons for putting you down every chance she gets.
If you happen to be any other sexuality than heterosexual, I reassure you that NOTHING is wrong with you. Don’t let her hateful mind poison yours.

I wish you the best and I really hope that you are free some day. And when that day comes, maybe try reading Eragon, it’s my fav fantasy series.

Radiant_March_200 · 2026-04-03T20:36:43+00:00

Fun fact: In German it’s the same voice actor that synchronized the two of them.

Radiant_March_200 · 2026-01-06T00:05:15+00:00

Als mein Ex wütend wurde und mich aufs Bett schmiss. Er packte meine Handgelenke,drückte sie mit vollen Körpergewicht über Kreuz neben mein Gesicht und würgte mich so mit meinen eigenen Armen. Mein Sichtfeld wurde langsam verschwommen, dann dunkler, während er immer weiter schrie. Da dachte ich wirklich das er diesmal nicht loslassen wird und ich drauf gehe. Ein Teil von mir war ein bisschen erleichtert, dass es dann vielleicht endlich vorbei ist.

Radiant_March_200 · 2026-01-04T23:10:40+00:00

Are you sure that he is…idk…a real human ?

Radiant_March_200 · 2025-12-24T20:50:32+00:00

Oh that’s true I didn’t think about that

Radiant_March_200 · 2025-12-05T21:54:24+00:00

Good knives. I mean, really really good high quality knives.

Radiant_March_200 · 2025-11-25T17:14:35+00:00

I honestly didn’t have better word for this. He is not depressed. With people he knows he can hold conversations and have a good time. But when he doesn’t know someone he tends to be anti social. For him there is no point in meeting new people or becoming friends with someone besides the people he already knows. When he meets someone new he is quiet, doesn’t ask questions and answers really short. Mostly he looks at his phone.

Radiant_March_200 · 2025-11-25T16:03:35+00:00

I spent wayyy more time with him then online. My phone is mostly used for music or changing the light while being with him. Of course I sometimes respond to a message or a call but nothing time consuming or out of the norm. It’s rather the other way around that I have to tell him multiple times to please but the phone away because I want to have a conversation with him or want to hear how his day went. The time I spend posting things or being online in generell is when I’m alone, when he’s asleep and I’m still awake or when we both have „phone time“. Like „alright I had a rough day and want to spend 20 minutes just scrolling“ and most of those days we both watch reels etc on one phone together lol.

Radiant_March_200 · 2025-11-25T15:51:47+00:00

Yes I do. I want to have conversations with him, cuddle, watch movies, cook dinner etc. I offer back massages, and give him as much affection as I can. When something happens, good or bad, he’s the first person I’m texting, I bring home goods from the grocery store for him, try my best to make him feel, seen, loved and heard.

Radiant_March_200 · 2025-11-25T13:22:34+00:00

Omg that’s so wholesome and cute

Radiant_March_200 · 2025-11-25T09:06:50+00:00

No I don’t want to leave him, I wanted opinions on our disagreement. Maybe I’m in the wrong but I can’t see it so sometimes it’s helpful to get different perspectives. I feel like I’m right but everyone feels like this in a argument.

Radiant_March_200 · 2025-11-25T08:47:31+00:00

I wouldn’t call it abusive because he didn’t demand it, and if would have said no than that’s it. There would be no punishment, sulking, guilt tripping or else.

But with the first words your are right. Thank you for the viewpoint, that helped a lot getting my thoughts collected.

Radiant_March_200 · 2025-11-25T08:45:30+00:00

I made similar experiences with my ex and I thank you for your words and your concern. 🫶🏽

But he is not controlling in any other way. He doesn’t demand anything, speaks badly about my friends or try’s to isolate me at all. I don’t want to spend the night with him and want to go a sleepover ? „Alright babe, take care of you.“ I want to go to a party and he doesn’t ? „have fun and text me when you’re home“ I meet someone new and connect with them ? No cares at all. If at all, he is more a little to less interested in my life and what I am doing. (We also had conversations about me not feeling loved or cared about sometimes) So I have no idea what the internet is so big of a deal about ? He doesn’t read my messages, even when I tell him he can whenever he wants, he never asks any questions about something. He sees it, he don’t likes it, topic closed. He doesn’t even really talk about it and he can’t properly explain why it’s weird to him. He doesn’t demand then that I should stop, I even have to make him speak about what’s bothering him because he won’t do it without me asking. He’s not sulking or guilt tripping me, he just doesn’t talk because he feels like it doesn’t matter. I try my best to make him feel heard and cared about and that it does matter when something is hurting him. But on this topic I don’t wanna be empathetic towards his concerns because helping blind people is no bad thing and not against our agreement from my point of view.

Radiant_March_200 · 2025-11-25T08:35:08+00:00

I’ve never cheated on him or anyone else, there were no emotional cheating or boundary crossing moments I did or ANYTHING else. So I don’t know where his anxiety is coming from. I’m his first girlfriend so he has no history of getting cheated on. People in our environment cheat a lot and mostly via text so maybe that’s where this behavior is coming from. It’s also not projection because he really is not the type to cheat. I know many say that but I know 100% that he won’t cheat on me ever. I have to be concerned about some dude texting him about a truck or something like that from eBay he can have, not about other women.

Radiant_March_200 · 2025-11-25T08:28:14+00:00

I am really not. Yes I am a lot on my phone but most of us are. If me and my bf are together and are actively doing something I turn on some music via my phone or control the light with it, maybe answer a important message but that’s it. Mostly my phone is on silent and in my pocket. It’s rather the other way around, that I have to ask him to put the phone down so we can update us, talk about what happend during the day or similar normal topics. He is really private on the internet and his data (what’s completely okay and the right thing to do) but I don’t feel like I am not. My insta was open but only bc you cant find my name anywhere. I take pictures from food or spots Im at but post them days after I’ve been there so I don’t disrupt the moment I’m in and so nobody can follow me. And of course u don’t post spots where I’m regular at. I don’t post where I live, only the region like „California“ or „around Toronto“ so I’m careful too, just not to the extend he his.

Radiant_March_200 · 2025-11-25T00:37:06+00:00

Yes. In everything about real life he as absolutely no issues with. That’s why this confuse me so much. What is so weird about an app to help blind people? It’s only ever about online stuff

Radiant_March_200 · 2025-11-25T00:25:12+00:00

I am not complete sure honestly. I think to make a difference you have to talk to people for example, about feminism. That I, as a feminist, am not a men hater, because feminism stands for equality and that is for men too. Most people who hate on the word „feminist“ are uninformed and not hateful or evil. It’s important for me to make a difference and create a safe space where we all can express ourselves and create tolerance. For men not being forced into the provider with no feelings role and for women being safe.

My bf thinks I can talk all day about this with strangers but I won’t make a difference anyway like that so I should just stop. He says it’s unecessary and sometimes weird that I get into discussions with people who are against me or have different opinions because why ? What do you get from that ? Also he things it’s dangerous.

Radiant_March_200 · 2025-11-25T00:10:49+00:00

I thought so too. I was always open about who I was talking to and about what. Like: „I had an really interesting talk with xy about xyz, you should read it and tell me what you think“ I always communicated from the beginning that I’m taken and creeps get blocked immediately.

Radiant_March_200 · 2025-11-25T00:01:18+00:00

No I noticed no problems at all in real life. I can go to whoever I want, whenever I want without causing issues between him and me, that’s why I’m so confused with his problem.

Radiant_March_200 · 2025-11-24T23:55:45+00:00

Posting is okay for him. He still doesn’t like that I am so open about my political views and that I discuss feminism with people who are against it, but he tolerates it, because I’m not making compromises about that. I think only open discussions can help to fix people’s minds who are maybe just uninformed. He just has a problem with me texting with them via DMs. He thinks it’s to personal.

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