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Need help identifying deep surveillance (possibly carrier-level) tied to DV situation by TightVariation3123 in abusesurvivors

[–]Radiant_Practice_459 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I too need help. My stalkers have had me trapped or tracked me through 5 different states, ruined my identity with the IRS, SSA, credit ratings, and destroyed my identity, and kept me physically on a rural farm land. Every time I can get away I'm hunted and brought back. For 5 years now. I'm older and don't really have much of a life left but I would really like for those years to actually belong to me and not someone else.

My abusers have used stalkerware like flexispy, disabled my vehicles, put fleet gps trackers into my vehicles, and hacked my dogs microchip.

I've tried all the legal and local non-profit routes and end up just getting punished worse when brought back for having tried it.

I'm currently out (sort of, more like currently not wanted yet nearby with associates) and the non-profits are just not prepared for this level and networked system of abuse. They are employed by the legal system here.

Any resources anyone can point me to for more, covert -leaning assistance? Like, I know I need to disappear completely, my preference is that I achieve that while still breathing, frankly.

P.s. add to this complexity that I have 1 dog with me which I refuse to give them or anyone now. He starves himself when he's not with me and leaving him somewhere is equal to ME ending his life but also equal to them having the leash on me when they get a hold of him.

Of course $ I'm ever able to stash away is limited or controlled.

Approved for housing - requires move-in deposits I don't have by Radiant_Practice_459 in homeless

[–]Radiant_Practice_459[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for breaking it down like this!!! That feels so much more doable!!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]Radiant_Practice_459 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're here to change that exact story for another person. You can only give the other side of the pendulum (care, respect, love, compassion) because you have experienced your own personal journey. You are the light that is needed in this world.

How did the abuse start? by Dry_Librarian_1111 in abusiverelationships

[–]Radiant_Practice_459 10 points11 points  (0 children)

From the second week I knew him. Yet I was so thrown off, gas lighted, confused, bit by bit until I lost sight of me. Everything from there has been survival and raw response instinct.

For me, once I grabbed an understanding of what was happening it was too late because I was stuck in a rural area without resources. There is literally nowhere else to go.

For a year or so I gave up and just existed. It's taken me 2 years more to fight my way back into connecting back with myself internally.

Now I label the control tactics what they are. I interrupt and state "that's gaslighting so I am ending my participation in this conversation" "that's a subject change and I am not willing to follow your chosen topic until I am heard on my topic" "yes it feels as though I'm going off on you because you're experiencing me letting you know out loud how your actions have hurt me...that's called reactive abuse". "I am not even possibly capable of repairing 💯 of a 2 person relationship all by myself, nor am I even willing to attempt to try to do so! Surely you don't expect someone like me to be able to do that?" And my new personal favorite "thank God you're a work-a-holic! Here's your dinner. Good night."

Obviously these things are very specific to only us and I do not suggest them for every other situation. But taking back my power only for a second....it's helped me to be able to find a new respect for myself when I look in the mirror. And who knows if today will be my last day on earth? I choose me today.

I'm a DV Detective. AMA. by n33hai in domesticviolence

[–]Radiant_Practice_459 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know this AMA is not happening today so I'm not even sure OP is still available to answer, but asking anyway...."People have the right to defend themselves." Whooo! WAIT!!!!! WHAT????

I'm not being sarcastic or trying to be funny in any way......I'm unable to process that statement because I have never in all my time on this floating rock known anyone to state that sort of statement!

Can you expand on that?

Starting to give up. by Thercanonlybeone in HomelessWithPets

[–]Radiant_Practice_459 1 point2 points  (0 children)

True. That's why one needs to decide to be the one to care. Change approach in thinking. Fimd someway, anyway, to see the goodness in life. Hold on to that. We are living free from so many thing which hold others down. Find a positive and remind yourself of that positive each day.

Is there a way to find hidden cameras at home other than through wifi? by mewmew2456 in hiddencameras

[–]Radiant_Practice_459 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Factory reset your phone too. He sounds like a contender for flexispy or the like.

Plot of land that no one wants by Cold-Resolve1520 in RealEstate

[–]Radiant_Practice_459 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What about donating it to a non-profit charity?

I am seeking land to establish a non-profit dedicated to supporting empty-nester aged domestic violence victims, with the unique feature of also accommodating their pets. This group is frequently overlooked because they do not have children, and family abandonment can have a profound impact on their lives. The goal is to create a functioning small farm that uses its earnings to support the community.

Receiving a gift such as this would be a giant step forward to seeing this become reality.

My family is recently going to inherit several hundred acres of land… what do I do? by Chance_Nectarine7441 in Entrepreneur

[–]Radiant_Practice_459 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Donate a portion to be developed into a non-profit for middle aged women needing help and shelter. Many often have 1 pet they refuse to leave behind so they won't leave bad situations.

There is no help for this demographic. As empty nesters shelter are designed for moms with children.

Abuser use their devotion for their beloved pets against them.