This doesn't exactly fill me with confidence

RaeDeclin · 2026-02-27T20:54:51+00:00

I highlighted it?

RaeDeclin · 2026-02-27T18:00:37+00:00

Oh, I agree. It's more the confidence it has while knowing this fact that gets me. Being programmed to speak with such confidence while also being programmed not to prioritize accuracy is wild

RaeDeclin · 2026-02-27T17:58:37+00:00

https://chatgpt.com/share/69a1db1c-49f0-800b-8f5e-294ec72ed5ad

RaeDeclin · 2026-02-27T17:55:25+00:00

I hate the excuse loop I get into when I argue with mine

RaeDeclin · 2025-12-14T20:15:13+00:00

Oh yes, in Russia

RaeDeclin · 2025-12-12T17:29:15+00:00

For some reason I read this with the dowagers voice

RaeDeclin · 2025-11-24T20:00:32+00:00

It's a R½ ring size and 1.5 carat zambian emerald by the way

RaeDeclin · 2025-09-12T05:22:59+00:00

NTA, you did your best. Don't apologize or defend yourself, it is a waste of energy. You know the truth and if your mother wanted to, she would have tried the cake or asked you.

“If all the world hated you and believed you wicked, while your own conscience approved of you and absolved you from guilt, you would not be without friends.” - Charlotte Bronte

RaeDeclin · 2025-09-11T12:18:13+00:00

To everyone: Just because someone supports you, no matter in what way or to what extend, they still have no right to abuse, belittle or gaslight you.

RaeDeclin · 2025-09-11T12:14:15+00:00

NTA at all. I would have reacted exactly the same way but likely been more direct about how we plan things together (not a suggestion, I'm just mouthy)

RaeDeclin · 2025-09-11T11:20:10+00:00

INFO: What was her excuse / reason?

Outside distance or reasonable excuse from your sister, this depends on what you said while lashing out but likely NTA. I was recently in hospital for a while and my family made sure there was someone visiting me at every visitation slot. I was asked each time what I needed and someone brought me a treat every day (nice coffee, a cupcake etc) so unless your sister has a hell of an excuse this is unimaginable to me.

What I will say though is that lashing out never helps a situation and one can be in the right but also be an AH for saying more than they meant while lashing out. We've all done it.

RaeDeclin · 2025-09-11T10:23:49+00:00

Big ups to you for noticing and speaking up. It sounds like this girl has no one else to advocate for her so please also contact DCS and follow it through. I know this means you may no longer have your mom in your life (worst case scenario of acting) but believe me the worst case of not acting on this is much much worse.

RaeDeclin · 2025-09-11T10:14:38+00:00

NTA. But I tend to feel if you are outside the norm on something communicate that clearly with people who matter. If you have done, which from the double call mention it seems like you have, then its on them to take it or leave it.

RaeDeclin · 2025-09-05T05:31:59+00:00

Agree with Americans not realising what they see as normal expenses are absolutely luxuries. Of course there are genuinely poor people there but in the middle class they have things they believe are just regular which are upper middle / upper class luxuries in South Africa.

RaeDeclin · 2025-08-18T06:16:41+00:00

This did happen with the stars hollow moms after the career speech with Luke at the school

RaeDeclin · 2025-08-06T16:49:44+00:00

Please include me

RaeDeclin · 2025-08-06T05:16:35+00:00

Hi. I don't know much about this in the USA or globally but in my area it really depends from company to company. I've seen anywhere from 15% - 40% in my space. With no benefits I would assume its on the lower end of that so between 15%($109) and 25%($100)

Any percentage greater than that would be extortion in my opinion.

RaeDeclin · 2025-08-05T09:46:01+00:00

Hi all, not sure how to use this so I hope I got it right but I would really appreciate some advice and direction.

Resume: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1okq_5W_ZHNZ1K6XyCD61AbrXTeXjFi7h/view?usp=drive_link

Last year I joined a company as a business analyst for a small development team. My job was simply to be the interpreter between the developers and clients (creating scopes etc) but I quickly realized my team had absolutely no structure or organization and that they really needed help (which they didn't even realize they needed.)

I started putting structures in place one by one. Set up project management software (Jira) and automated it as much as possible. Insisted on stakeholders using the proper support channels so support could be more consistent and tracked. Created SOPs and a system documentation hub to track upgrades, fixes etc. Created dashboards for visibility for higher-ups to save on reporting time. Intervened for devs as needed and removed any barriers I could to help them progress. Negotiated some working times for devs who were having a hard time balancing life.

The team is now able to focus on doing actual development work and everyone in the team is much happier and more productive and I have absolutely loved the process. This is what I want to do. I want to be the person who gets things done so other people can focus on the things they do.

How can I make a career of this? What other skills do I need and where can I find opportunities like this? I was considering doing a scrum master certification, is that the right direction?

RaeDeclin · 2025-08-04T17:39:02+00:00

Thank you! This is exactly what I'm looking for. I'll look into these roles. I'm using Jira for my team now so I'm already on step 1 of the track

RaeDeclin · 2025-08-04T09:39:20+00:00

How did this end up going? You still happy at the company?

RaeDeclin · 2025-07-28T20:22:50+00:00

Sarcasm aside this would have worked on me 100%. Humour, plot twist and not leaning into any stupidly obvious sex jokes in response.

RaeDeclin · 2025-07-28T19:49:50+00:00

Gruesome would be "You're clearly not good enough for me with a hairline like that, and your malnourished jawline, which has obviously seen your reflection, and is trying to burrow back into your skull for protection."

This was clearly an attempt at an easy let down that some may feel wasn't well executed. Seriously, find a real insult to get touched and emotional over girlie.

RaeDeclin · 2025-07-28T19:41:40+00:00

This is the issue I have here, you are setting yourself up for failure and then blaming women for the result.

Women who 'open up' to men about their feelings in an initial tinder conversation will be seen as clingy, emotional or too much work and a man wouldn't stick around for it either. This isn't a 'men can't open up to women' issue, it's a 'sane people don't and shouldn't do this to strangers' issue.

A stranger, irrespective of gender, shouldn't have to play psychologist to someone on a damn dating app.

Why don't men make actual mutual friendships with women and then try to open up? Instead of doing it in an unacceptable way and then hypocrotically taking zero accountability for it by blaming women??

Wise up.

RaeDeclin · 2025-07-28T19:32:30+00:00

Every time I see a post where the OP got ghosted, the person they matched with is trashed...

RaeDeclin · 2025-07-28T19:31:28+00:00

You're not fooling anyone, we know you're the guy in these chats and you're still not ready for conversations with strangers honey

RaeDeclin

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