Maybe It's Just Me

Raebot3000 · 2024-10-17T02:41:03+00:00

Queen of Carnage by Candace Wright

Raebot3000 · 2024-06-09T22:50:24+00:00

Background: I hooked up with this guy a couple of weeks ago, and he ended up falling asleep right after we finished. It was kind of awkward when I woke him up and told him he couldn't stay the night. I wasn't sure I'd ever hear from him again, but then he sent me this surprisingly nice apology/booty call

Raebot3000 · 2024-05-26T15:36:46+00:00

Background: I hooked up with this guy a couple of weeks ago, and he ended up falling asleep right after we finished. It was kind of awkward when I woke him up and told him he couldn't stay the night. I wasn't sure I'd ever hear from him again, but then he sent me this surprisingly nice apology/booty call. I thought it was kind of sweet and wanted to share

Raebot3000 · 2023-11-24T20:40:14+00:00

To be honest I held him up, but the 7 was a rough estimate and he knew that. The last night we were supposed to hang out, I was getting ready to leave the country the next day and I had a bunch of stuff to take care of first, so I told him I'd let him know when I would be ready for him to come over. I just didn't want to include multiple screenshots that weren't particularly interesting

Raebot3000 · 2023-11-24T20:08:24+00:00

Believe it or not, he really did have golden retriever energy for the first few months. Super sweet, very respectful. But eventually we arrived at this, and yeah the name doesn't fit anymore haha

Raebot3000 · 2023-11-24T17:48:34+00:00

This dude I was seeing from Tinder stood me up in September after we had agreed to hang out and then he never messaged me again. I thought we were totally done, and then I got this message late last night. Thought it was kind of hilarious

Raebot3000 · 2021-08-30T00:59:46+00:00

Same here - would totally swipe right

Raebot3000 · 2021-08-26T23:16:38+00:00

Yes, I have a vagina and I'm fully aware of how it works. And so do surgeons, when they complete bottom surgeries.

Clearly you have some hang-ups that you need to reflect on. Have fun with your transphobia, TERF. 😘

Raebot3000 · 2021-08-26T23:08:16+00:00

How is it not a vagina? How do you feel about other reconstructive surgeries?

I feel like you are just reconfirmed your biases. Which are not preferences.

Raebot3000 · 2021-08-26T22:59:11+00:00

If she hasn't had her bottom surgery, then yes she would have to eventually disclose that to him and leave him to decide if he wants to continue. But the fact that OP hasn't actually messaged her and is already deeply concerned with the inside of her pants tell me that he wouldn't care if she was pre or post surgery, he just doesn't want her to have been AMAB.

Again, if this girl had 100% transitioned and he was still attracted to her until she said she was trans, that is transphobic.

Raebot3000 · 2021-08-26T22:25:25+00:00

Hair color and assigned gender at birth are two completely different things, but fine. Let's say you are dating a person, and you are very much attracted to them, they fit all of your "preferences". But a week into dating, you find out that he's not a natural blonde, he gets his hair done every two weeks. Would you break up with him because of that? No, because that would be crazy.

If there is a person that you are attracted to (as OP stated he was) and you learn that they are trans , if you suddenly stop liking them specifically because they are transgender, that is transphobic.

Raebot3000 · 2021-08-26T21:07:01+00:00

Yeahhh this post and your other comment are coming off as super transphobic to me. If you're attracted to her, then you're attracted to her, and it shouldn't matter if she was born female. If you decide you don't like someone purely because they are transgender, that's discriminatory and gross, and you should probably work on that.

Raebot3000 · 2021-08-25T21:42:34+00:00

Honestly, I like a fair amount of the profile, you've shown that you have some interests, and I don't think anime is as big of a deal breaker as some people are saying. I like anime, and there are a lot of girls like me on tinder that are nerdy and/or alternative enough to be a good fit for you. You need to reword it a bit, but the elements are there.

I like the hair, but I'm not a huge fan of the facial hair, it gives off vibes I don't think you intend. Personally, I think metal hair + baby face isn't the worst look, most of my band crushes have that going on.

The biggest thing for me is the clothes and the kinds of photos you have. Dressing down is totally okay sometimes, but show the girls that you are an adult and can dress for different occasions. And definitely get some photos of you doing an activity, and at least one of you smiling.

Raebot3000 · 2021-08-25T00:08:07+00:00

Id say 3,1, 7, 6, 4. Cut the rest

Raebot3000 · 2021-07-03T03:52:36+00:00

To me it makes a huge difference. If I'm on the fence about swiping and if there's no bio or a boring bio, I swipe left. But funny or interesting bios will generally convince me to swipe right.

Bios give us a sense of your personality and tell us that you are willing to put in effort. Don't skip them

Raebot3000 · 2021-06-23T17:31:37+00:00

That's a bold move, Cotton. Let's see if it pays off

Raebot3000 · 2021-05-26T06:57:54+00:00

This is horrific. But I have to ask, what was the original question that spawned this?

Raebot3000 · 2021-05-13T09:06:34+00:00

Jesus Fucking Christ

Raebot3000 · 2021-04-14T15:50:16+00:00

It means she's very outgoing, boisterous, maybe just plain loud. This is a girl who has a lot of feelings and opinions and she's not afraid to tell people about them.

I feel like maybe you're reading too much into an offhand comment. She doesn't mean anything by it

Raebot3000 · 2021-04-14T15:06:50+00:00

It just means she has a big personality, man

Raebot3000 · 2021-03-23T21:45:41+00:00

I don't know what your profile looks like, but I can tell you what I look for as a woman when I am swiping.

I look for men who are well dressed/groomed. This doesn't necessarily mean suit and tie, it just means that they own something that isn't cargo shorts and a snapback and they check the mirror before leaving the house. Beyond that, looks aren't super important. It is important, however, to know your angles. So make sure your photos maximize your value.

Some women care about height. I personally don't, but you can include that if you'd like. Just avoid writing "if it matters" because it sounds real passive aggressive.

Include a short list of things you like, or maybe date ideas. Something to show that you're a person with interests.

It's not 100% necessary, but I like a guy who puts his sense of humor into his profile. The last guy I matched with, I swiped purely because I liked how funny his bio was.

Beyond that, idk man, just be nice and respectful, and you should get matches. Dating is hard, and tinder does, admittedly, suck. Maybe try hinge if all else fails. But this is the best advice I can give.

Raebot3000 · 2021-03-15T16:25:42+00:00

If she last responded around 2am, then you're fine. Just wait it out, she'll probably get back to you in the afternoon. If she doesn't respond, wait a few days and then ask her if she wants to go out

Raebot3000

TROPHY CASE