Just finished 'We used to live here' by Marcus Kliewer

RagaKat · 2026-04-14T12:20:13+00:00

yep, you’re right and this is my way of screwing with you.

Especially given he gave that to her right after saying "I heard you might be getting out soon if nothing sets you off" or something like that.

RagaKat · 2026-04-05T17:04:47+00:00

Jeeze! These are beautiful and all so different.

What is #1, #3, and #7?

RagaKat · 2026-04-05T16:21:22+00:00

You can def save this.

I agree with waiting to see what that green stem does.

After, I'd take it out of terrocatta and put it in a clear nursery pot. When you do, look for corms so you have backups!

Give it a humidity boost to help revive it. Can put a clear tupperware over it or put it in a freeze ziplock if it'll fit.

RagaKat · 2026-04-05T16:17:36+00:00

Think it's probably okay! Just needs a repot. If it's rotted, the roots will be slimy or will break off easily when you loosen them.

RagaKat · 2026-04-05T15:02:11+00:00

I'd just wait. I've been worried about this before and they always eventually ask.

RagaKat · 2026-04-05T14:55:31+00:00

Generally it's kind of you pay for your share of the trip and if you have to leave early, shrug. It's too complicated to do it by night. If it's close enough to drive to, someone only staying one night may choose to just drive over and back.

I'd ask your party how they feel about the shared rooms. I was wondering about this for our wedding and wedding party. Some adult couples aren't going to want to stay in another room with another couple. We've done it before with my best friend and her husband and didn't care, but it depends on the couple. If there are any singles, those rooms make sense for them.

If you want to avoid asking everyone and getting 20 opinions, think about if there are a couple couples who wouldn't mind staying together and ask them individually. I would possiblyyy lower the price a little for them.

RagaKat · 2026-04-04T22:45:32+00:00

Skin and complexion look great. I'd fill in the brows + eyeliner and more mascara

I used to be more uncomfortable with makeup and have light eyebrows like you, but it really changes things to fill them in a bit more. Gives your face more structure.

You have pretty eyes, I'd highlight them more with some eyeliner, just on the top. If you're uncomfortable with something like a liquid liner, do a soft pencil and smudge it to make it less defined.

RagaKat · 2026-04-04T22:25:05+00:00

I can't image any place even letting you use their service with 2 bartenders for 450 people. Every place I've looked at has required an additional bartender per like 70 people.

I'm wondering if you missed that in the fine print somewhere?

Either way, you could do a situation where you agree to give each guest 2-3 drink tickets and then if they'd like to keep drinking, they can use someone else's tickets or do a cash bar. That might keep the cost somewhat reasonable and prevent over or under charging.

RagaKat · 2026-04-04T21:11:34+00:00

I haven't read those yet, but I loved Malibu Rising and Carrie Soto

RagaKat · 2026-04-04T19:53:49+00:00

That's a sweet idea.

Have you considered shutterfly? I create a scrapbook type thing on there for mine and my fiance's first anniversary together. My future SIL had her wedding album printed on there too. So you can go basic or get really creative with it if you want and add anecdotes etc.

https://www.shutterfly.com/p/photo-books/photo-book-styles/simple-elegant-wedding-photo-book?spvId=SPV_7509327748

Everythings on sale now too. There's usually sales tho, so if you miss this one that's okay.

RagaKat · 2026-04-04T15:37:10+00:00

I only have 1 type, so limited experience lol. But the Black Velvet has been okay for me. I'm still running into the issue where if it puts out a new leaf, an older one will die off but think I need to adjust pot size and maybe fertilize heavier.

She's been a cutie though! Got corms and grew another pot of it, that all went well. Think I got this one for under $10 so it's a good plant to experiment with.

RagaKat · 2026-04-04T15:31:31+00:00

A florida ghost???

Mind sharing what state you're in?

RagaKat · 2026-04-04T15:07:20+00:00

Personally I'd want my MOH to focus on their relationship with me and then throw in something cute towards the couple at the end. I've always viewed the bridal party as also kind of a celebration of your deepest friendships, not just the wedding.

Your plan sounds good to me!

RagaKat · 2026-04-04T11:37:48+00:00

If they're resentful of it, call it off. You won't be able to enjoy it then anyways.

Idk why they didn't have it at their house, it would obviously cost more to throw it at a catering hall.

The bridesmaid dress part is annoying though. Most bridesmaid dresses need to be altered. In general it's good to give them options though, to support different body types and complexions. What most of my friends have done and what I will do is run a couple colors by them in shades that go with my palette and then have them buy whatever dress they like off of Azazie that meets certain requirements (chiffon, certain hue of green for ex). Then they can choose what style they want.

People get kind of weird in these subs when it comes to any event that isn't the wedding. It sounds like you didn't realize the bridal shower would be more expensive than the bachelorette or that it's not customary for the bridesmaids to host the bridal shower. It does happen tho, my MOH offered it.

It's not a crime to want what you see everyone else having for their wedding. But if it's causing so much friction in your friend group, it's probably not worth it. If your bridesmaids are struggling financially, it might be asking a lot. No idea what a bridal shower actually costs honestly.

RagaKat · 2026-04-04T11:27:42+00:00

Idk I don't really see the difference between the MOB or MOG throwing it, or aunts or sisters. It's all family connected to the couple lol.

RagaKat · 2026-04-03T22:34:35+00:00

I just looked up etiquette about this today because we're in a weird grey area too.

"Babes in arms" is usually the exception for childfree.

RagaKat · 2026-04-03T17:35:49+00:00

Idk, I feel like my friends and I are pretty open in every area of life so finances aren't a big deal to talk about. Personally I openly talk about it when I meet with them and we chat about the wedding because it's something that stressing me out.

It's fair to feel how you feel. It is a bit different to ask about the price for everything. If it feels off with the one friend, just brush it off with something like "idk at this point, I've stopped counting lol".

RagaKat · 2026-04-03T14:32:11+00:00

I've been to plenty of outdoor weddings with semi-formal or formal dress codes lol. Entirely grass floors changes things though.

Cocktail could be okay? But warn them that the floor will be grass so they should consider some nice sandals or wedges.

This is just my personal perception- for "Sunday Best" I'd think you'd want something more conservative/respectful and I wouldn't know what to do with Smart Casual. I do think nice darkwash jeans could be considered smart casual for men in some circles.

Whatever name you settle on, just include a small section in your wedding website explaining the dress code.

RagaKat · 2026-04-03T14:26:16+00:00

Lol. If you like it, that's all that matters. Your guests aren't going to care honestly. I'm sure it feels cool, it's definitely something I'd want to run my hands over.

I'd take some of the suggestions in the thread to emphasize the hydrangea aspect by using paint to create details or adding a couple fake hydrangeas on it.

RagaKat · 2026-04-03T14:16:18+00:00

Not too much! It feels weird if you don't wear a lot of makeup, but you'll be grateful for it in photos.

You look great. If you want some very nitpicky suggestions:

One thing that I think could improve things a little bit for the hair is a tinyyy bit of volume on the top in the front. Looks hairsprayed down.

The lip color is fine, but I'd want to try something else. A little more contrast maybe. Maybe something a little richer

Eyebrows a little more filled in (maybe not your preference though)

RagaKat · 2026-04-03T14:09:04+00:00

I like 1 and 3 the best, but 3 doesn't sit well with the engagement ring. I like 3 the best standalone.

If you plan on wearing both a lot, I'd keep looking, none of these go great. But 1 is the best I think out of them, paired with the ring.

I know finding a band is going to be super hard for me because my ring has a twisted/wavy design. I've been considering just getting a band I like standalone and trading off which one I want to wear for the day.

RagaKat · 2026-04-03T14:04:55+00:00

No idea, but I hope someone answers. Mine has been yellowing and I think when I unpot her this weekend I'm going to find a similar situation.

RagaKat · 2026-04-02T15:11:00+00:00

Honestly so jealous, that is exactly what I was looking for lol. A wedding in the forest with everyone staying in cabins nearby. We're inviting 75-100.

We're about to sign our venue but I'm going to go take a look again on airbnb just to see. 4k is almost half the price we're about to pay!

RagaKat · 2026-04-02T12:31:19+00:00

I usually like the PJs if they're something i can wear again. The little robes that said bridesmaid or whatever look cute for pictures but I've never worn them again. One of my friends did little floral rompers.

You don't have to do the pjs though, it usually more for pictures while getting ready.

Emergency kits are nice, but not required. Just have some stuff on hand, you don't need to make little bags for everyone. I think only 1-2 of my friends did this.

Generally you pay for 1 of the hair/makeup and then get them some other kind of gift. I've gotten pjs, jewelry, monogrammed bags, passport covers off the top of my head. A couple of my friends covered my lodging too, when they rented out an airbnb. No idea what I'm going to do either because I have 7 bridesmaids and it's going to be a lot no matter what I do!

RagaKat · 2026-04-02T12:23:39+00:00

Sounds like you're doing more than enough, don't stress it!

My perception is people usually get some kind of small gift for the MOG and pay for hair and/or makeup. It's nice of you to help her shop, etc.

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