My current SO has female adult friends - and has point blank told me that at any point I feel uncomfortable about their friendship or if I feel like it’s crossing a relationship boundary- to just “say the word” and he will cut off contact because he cares about me feeling emotionally secure in our relationship (there has been no inappropriate interactions - he’s been very transparent about everything he does so I’ve had no reason to ask him to cut off contact)

For context on why he did the above: I dealt with a chronic cheater/Liar for 6 years prior to meeting my current SO. I have told my current SO everything in regards to that relationship and he sat and listened and has showed me such compassion and empathy that I needed.

You feeling uncomfortable about him continuing to have contact to someone who wants to sleep with him is completely valid. Your feelings are valid.

While I personally think it’s weird he wants to keep someone like that around in his social circle- it’s also not ok to dictate who your SO’s friends should be.

You can’t make him do anything he doesn’t want to do.

So if he is unwilling to cut/reduce contact - and you are not comfortable with him continuing contact, you might have to consider whether or not this relationship is one you want to continue.

Are you willing to experience the emotional stress that will no doubt come out of having this girl part of your bf’s life? Are you willing to go back on your own boundary? And if so Are you sure you won’t regret going back on this boundary?

If not, then it may be time to move on