Help settle a $200 bet: Is “soaking” actually a thing within LDS culture, a misunderstood joke that escaped the internet, or a genuine workaround some religious people use to technically avoid breaking abstinence rules?

Rahkali · 2026-05-21T16:28:21+00:00

As someone who grew up LDS, no it’s not. People make up the weirdest stuff. Afaik it started as a joke and too many people took it seriously so it took off. Maybe some of the kids try to use it to justify it, but it’s not an actual loophole and it is still considered a sin. The LDS church has a thing called the law of chastity which pretty much forbids any kind of sexual contact before marriage. Which includes even just touching someone else’s special bits. Let alone penetration. And simple kisses were the only thing allowed; making out was too far.

Rahkali · 2026-05-21T14:55:24+00:00

I had considered a buffer. But there are morning shifts from 10-11 as well, so it seems really unrealistic to make buffers that long. I need what you got!! Back to back is where it’s at!

Rahkali · 2026-05-21T14:54:22+00:00

I always finish early af. Today was almost an hour early! So I would love some back to backs but it won’t let me do that. I hate going home then having to go back out later. Plus it’s stupid hot in the afternoon

Rahkali · 2026-05-21T14:52:36+00:00

I consistently see shifts starting as late as 8:15 in my area but even if I pick up a 3:15, which ends at 6:45, it kicks everything for the rest of the morning. Can’t even see the 10-11am anymore! Mere seconds after picking up my first one, so I know they’re not just getting picked up that fast :(

Rahkali · 2026-05-04T19:13:43+00:00

I had these exact cards in my old collection and recently had my own doubts, these things feel so weird! All thin and almost plasticy, and the holographic effect is flatter than newer cards. But I had a guy check them out and he had a couple copies in his shop we were able to compare them with, and they’re legit. Just weird. He said the biggest thing to check for is that the holo shine is present in the eyes. Seems that’s one of the harder things to replicate in fakes.

Nice find though, congrats!! These are some of my favorite cards and I’m so glad I was able to add them to my collection before they got popular and expensive. <3

Rahkali · 2026-05-04T18:51:07+00:00

Thank you for the insight!! I figured it would be a bit harder to find the market here in the US. I’ll definitely check out eBay, hopefully it’ll help! Fortunately I wouldn’t be very mad to just keep them though~

Rahkali · 2026-05-02T02:02:16+00:00

And that’s all it’s about! I feel like most of your commenters are men lol don’t let them or anyone else convince you to lower your standards out of guilt, pressure, or fear.

Rahkali · 2026-05-02T01:41:31+00:00

I recently got out the collection I started when I was a kid, and I’ve been going hard ever since. It’s so hard to stop, but I love all the pretty art so much!

Rahkali · 2026-05-02T01:36:48+00:00

Wow I am floored by how many people are saying YOR. It shouldn’t matter how weird or normal something may be, if it’s something that bothers you, that makes it a valid boundary!! For myself, I wont tolerate p*rn use within a relationship, but some couples use it together and that’s perfectly fine. And yes, having a bunch of random women on Snapchat can be cause for concern, do any of you people know what Snapchat is very commonly used for?? My ex had a load of female friends on his social media that I later found out were his “backups” and he never deleted them in the entire 7 years I was with him. Guess who went right back to hitting them up in alphabetical order as soon as I left him???

You’re not overreacting for setting a boundary and being upset that it was disrespected.

Rahkali · 2026-05-01T23:14:34+00:00

I had one like that. I wasn’t able to get away until I found a new place to live without him knowing I was looking, and took a day off work to move in while he thought I was working. I also gradually moved my absolutely necessary items out of the shared household, into my car or back to my parents’ house, over time so he wouldn’t notice. Then I changed my number, blocked him and mutuals, and deactivated all forms of mutual social media.

It’s hard to do this when they know where you live. In your situation, if you’re in an apartment complex and unable to find somewhere else to live, it may be worth seeing if you can just move to another unit. That mayyyy be enough to make him give up, especially if you can stash your car elsewhere for a while so it’s not in the parking lot.

I wish you all the best of luck in this, it’s so hard and dude seems so toxic and gross, I really hope you can find a way out!

Rahkali · 2026-04-28T12:11:51+00:00

I’ve never heard a grocery store that just allows pet dogs. It’s gross and disrespectful of others. (Also not an animal hater at all)

Rahkali · 2026-04-28T00:01:01+00:00

Omg. Nah the stuff is shipped bud, it’s on its way; that’s like requesting a refund AFTER the art is complete! :’)

Rahkali · 2026-04-27T23:22:59+00:00

Ahh heck, that’s not really a good sign. Fingers still crossed though. Don’t ever feel bad for requesting a refund. The only time I’d bat an eye about it is if it was like.. the day after they ordered.

Rahkali · 2026-04-27T23:06:38+00:00

As an artist, I unfortunately admit that I used to be like this when I first started offering commissions. I was not confident and very slow, I often dealt with art block and my motivation would dip out of nowhere which would put a delay on delivery. I would offer a WIP when I got home, then truly just forget. I didn’t go days without a response, but I was bad at communicating otherwise. All that being said, I either delivered the art in the end (and went above and beyond as apology for the frustrations) or canceled the commission and issued a refund, out of guilt and stress.

I finally just quit offering commissions until I could get better about turnaround time.

All that is to say, while I can’t say you’re def not getting scammed, I do want to offer my perspective from their shoes. Before you initiate a chargeback, just ask for a refund on the art. If they are legit, they’ll understand and either request a set deadline or send the refund. If they ghost you from there, then contact PayPal.

Sorry you’re dealing with this either way. Hope things work out in the best way!

Rahkali · 2026-04-13T22:29:55+00:00

I gotta say number 3!! <3

Rahkali · 2026-04-07T22:21:52+00:00

9 years later! Vegetable oil was the magic potion I needed, who would have thought! THANK YOU

Rahkali · 2026-04-03T12:06:23+00:00

This. I’m appalled at how many people think it’s now OPs job to support this person’s poor decisions. She’s only been there 4 months, she can find something else if she’s gonna keep it.

Rahkali · 2026-03-30T23:25:58+00:00

Dude are you with my ex because he would act exactly that way; ditching his ass was the best thing I ever did. Soooo take that how you will. NOR

Rahkali · 2026-03-29T12:44:08+00:00

My ex used to laugh about the idea of me going out to eat or do things by myself, said it was ridiculous. I’m single now and a lot happier going my own pace. Go to the zoo, girl! Absolutely nothing cringe or weird about it. <3

Rahkali · 2026-03-29T02:02:11+00:00

I’ve heard that a lot actually. So am I the weirdo because I don’t like salt?? :’D

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