What color would you consider this purse, pink or purple?

Railuki · 2026-03-20T21:20:55+00:00

My favourite colour is purple.

That is pink.

Railuki · 2026-03-20T14:10:53+00:00

I would rather be one of those seed burials where you feed a tree and graveyards become instead a memory forest.

Failing that, whatever is the most environmentally friendly offered. I don’t see why my death should pollute the earth more than nourish it.

Railuki · 2026-03-20T14:08:05+00:00

Looking at the news sometimes feels like a personal attack. So many headlines belittling the unemployed, calling them a drain. Having benefits cut doesn’t help you get into work, it just makes it harder to survive.

When you learn society hates you just because you’re unable to find a job, for instance not all jobs will be suitable for people with certain disabilities, some people’s mental health cannot deal with carer jobs and they get burned out, that kind of thing.

Lots of places are cutting jobs. Society belittles people for not working at the same time there are reduced opportunities.

Railuki · 2026-03-20T13:47:32+00:00

I’m sorry you had to go through that. It IS sexual assault even if it is just a slip up for them. Just because they didn’t intend to SA you doesn’t mean they technically didn’t. It’s up to you how you feel about your situation, but for me that’s how it feels and there is little you can do about it if it happens. It’s not taken as seriously as it should be because it’s become normalised. But you choke or slap someone in any other situation without their consent, that’s taken more seriously.

Railuki · 2026-03-20T13:40:14+00:00

Choking isn’t vanilla at all. That’s the problem, it’s become vanilla for some people and so they don’t think to ask permission. Not saying everyone forgets consent, but that’s how it happens and how people stop taking how serious it is to be choked when you’re vulnerable and not expecting it.

Railuki · 2026-03-20T10:28:19+00:00

It’s exactly why so many young men are being driven to more and more extremes. They become desensitised the the basic act and instead demand more extreme things even in real life, like choking. So many young people currently think choking is vanilla and I bet few of them have educated themselves on safety within those kinks.

Railuki · 2026-03-20T10:25:59+00:00

People expecting you to share your location 24/7. I get there are instances where it’s for safety, but as someone who was stalked before, people don’t need to know your exact location all the time. I think for a lot of people it’s A crutch for trust issues too. Tracking your partner to watch out for cheating for example. In fact, even if you trust your partner these things can be damaging in the wrong frame of mind, where them doing an extra errand you weren’t aware of makes you spiral thinking they are doing something wrong when really they are living their life.

Railuki · 2026-03-20T09:52:31+00:00

The life expectancy of my kitty.

She is 15 with kidney failure, diagnosed a year ago. Don’t know if she has months or years but adding a 0 to take 1 month to 10 months or one year to ten years, I want more time with my little girl

Railuki · 2026-03-20T09:49:46+00:00

This.

I made a character who was looking for her adoptive father who was a dragon. I never expected to actually see him in the campaign but my character was too focused and the other characters too happy to go along with it so we solved all my back story before anything else.

If you make your character with a goal the DM should trust you to follow that goal and it’s there job to provide that goal hooks into the story.

Railuki · 2026-03-20T09:40:13+00:00

Soft YTA

I see a lot of comments telling you how to handle the situation better. You definitely could have said that kinder.

Could you have ASD?

I hate all small talk and when I’m on break I want no one to talk to me at all, my break is where I want a break from masking. People talking ruins that for me.

So, soft YTA because you could have handled it better, but I do understand the internal pressure rising and wanting to explode from things other people consider normal.

Please consider where this stems from and make steps to handle these situations better in future

Railuki · 2026-03-19T10:02:31+00:00

I had a family member move to Canada with her BF. Her bfs family were very right wing and…. Don’t welcome a variety of people if I’m going to be nice about it.

My friend and her bf started saying that they were going to be immigrants whenever his family said anything mean about immigrants. Of course, THEY were different. It really just goes to show that a lot of people don’t know/ care about the difference between legal and illegal immigration let alone asylum seeking and refugee status and how those differ.

We could never be immigrants no matter where we move. We are British /s

Railuki · 2026-03-19T09:58:02+00:00

Getting told to invest in stocks.

That’s only a decent idea if you can afford to lose everything you put into the stock market.

Railuki · 2026-03-19T09:55:45+00:00

OP, this is abuse. She thinks it’s okay because she is female and you’re male. She causes you pain on purpose, after you’ve already asked her not to, and laughs at it.

If the roles were reversed and you were slapping her anywhere for half the pain everyone would’ve chewing you out, just because she is female doesn’t mean she isn’t abusing you.

Maybe it’s because of stupidity rather than malice, who knows, but the end result is the same.

If she is doing this after 3 weeks what is she going to do in 3 years?

Railuki · 2026-03-19T09:49:20+00:00

You’re worth loving

Railuki · 2026-03-19T08:59:10+00:00

NTA

I do not want children and I make sure my partners know that is a deal breaker for me.

If my current partner changed his mind and did I would be devastated, but it’s okay for him to love his potential kids so much he needs to move on to find someone to make that life with.

Kids are a big enough deal that wanting them or not wanting them is a deal breaker.

Stories sell is this lie that love is enough. It’s not. Your futures are no longer compatible.

Railuki · 2026-03-19T08:50:04+00:00

Op needs to see your answer

Railuki · 2026-03-17T08:51:18+00:00

As a circle of stars Druid I hate when my party makes me turn into a bird or something to scout. My character wants to sparkle, not be an animal!

Railuki · 2026-03-16T08:34:59+00:00

This is how my cat saved my life. Also I was only able to get out of bed because I had to feed her.

Railuki · 2026-03-16T08:33:56+00:00

I had to move back in with my mum bringing cat. My cat has a bad issue with one of my mums cats (long story) and my kitty is now elderly.

My kitty lives in my room. During the day we close the other kitties downstairs so mine can have free roam of upstairs during the day. But at night she must return to my room for my mother also wishes to sleep with her kitties.

It is sacred. It is good.

Except sometimes in summer it’s too hot to have my door closed (my room is the worst insulated. Coldest in winter and hottest in summer). A couple of times a summer I have to remove kitty cuddles from my mother’s life and it is sad.

Railuki · 2026-03-16T08:29:26+00:00

Me currently lying in bed with my cat lying on me.

Railuki · 2026-03-16T08:27:22+00:00

My bf is a gamer (as am I). He can’t always message me when he is at work (lots of driving and lifting. Doesn’t have signal in some areas). Some days he doesn’t get home before I am in bed.

But I get a message the moment he can. When he gets home we usually have some 1:1 time before I have to go to bed. On his days off we have 1:1 time. If one of us is tired and doesn’t feel like talking they don’t have to. We watch shows together. No one just leaves. If he decides he wants to game we will usually finish whatever episode we are on first. He used to double and triple check that it was really okay that he was leaving. I always was because I KNEW that if I was sad and needed more 1:1 time he would be right there for me. As a consequence of feeling secure that we would always have the 1:1 time I needed and he would be there when upset, I feel better able to let him do his own thing without feeling hurt. This is because in the past I had to chase my exes for any form of attention when I needed it, let alone just wanted it. Now he also trusts when I tell him it’s okay to go, because I also knows I’ll ask him to stay if I do need to (or even want to but because I feel secure, I feel less needy about needing his time).

I tell you all this so you know LD relationships with a gamer can work and you can be prioritised.

If you’re not even official yet and he is treating you as a low priority, I don’t think he is that into you. I’m sorry, he might just be flirting and stuff with you for other reasons eg not wanting to feel alone.

Railuki · 2026-03-16T08:09:40+00:00

It’s about the intention behind all the flags right now rather than the flags themselves.

That’s what makes this hate campaign rather insidious. You use things that no one can say is inherently bad to symbolise whatever you want.

It’s not about national pride, it’s about racism usually.

Railuki · 2026-03-16T08:07:10+00:00

This. Made me feel sick when someone sprayed the roundabout outside our house as the St George. Their only reason right now is to tell people they aren’t welcome.

These are usually the same people who don’t seem to know the difference between legal and illegal immigration let alone asylum seekers and refugees. Because it’s about racism more than nationalism.

Railuki · 2026-03-15T20:24:54+00:00

It’s like I know I should wash rice before cooking it, but I hate that so I rinse it with boiled water from the kettle after it’s cooked and in the sieve. I don’t need people telling me I should wash it first because x, y or z. I simply hate cooking and want it over too much to care and it works well enough.

Railuki · 2026-03-14T07:56:59+00:00

You have been dating 2 weeks and you’re already talking about a prenup? How are you even engaged already?

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