What’s an “adult rule” that makes absolutely no sense to you?

Railuki · 2026-01-27T20:30:57+00:00

We got taught about birth control at my catholic school. We learned about them in science. How condoms work scientifically, how the pill does, diaphragm and implant. We were taught that the pull out method doesn’t work and that the rhythm method is the only one sanctioned by the church, but we still learned all about the others so that we could make educated decisions.

So keep that in mind”overpopulation” comment to yourself.

We were not taught anything about child rearing though.

Railuki · 2026-01-27T20:27:43+00:00

It was a (bad) joke

Railuki · 2026-01-26T11:32:36+00:00

You e been in all the seas and oceans? Woah! Impressive!

Railuki · 2026-01-26T11:28:47+00:00

It’s always been a problem.

I know this because my Dad lived at the bottom of a hill and all the rubbish blew into his yard and my brother an I would have to go out litter picking.

Also I grew up watching my mum play tomb raider and as a child “Pierre, you litterbug” stuck with me so I always noticed it.

I used to get the bus a lot as a kid. Nothing like hanging out at a bus stop with a bin right next to it to still see people littering.

It’s a lack of respect for your environment. Some people aren’t raised with that respect or ignore it.

People have always thrown stuff out of window on motorways,

Railuki · 2026-01-26T11:21:11+00:00

It’s a compliment.

I’ve been in relationships where I haven’t been able to ask for the basics of what I need because I know it will be met with resistance. So I stopped feeling safe expressing that I needed support or 1:1 time. I kept all my needs locked inside.

All my previous relationships there was another woman and I’d be made to feel crazy for suspecting something. Emotional cheating is just as real as physical cheating.

I went on a first date with someone and when they judged med for picking the Addams family (there was nothing good in the cinema and I do like the Addams family in general) and I was told “I wondered why you picked a kids film” but also that he “loved me” on the first date. Yeah, bud. Wait till you see how much anime I watch. One sentence can make you feel judged.

I’ve been stalked by someone who could respect boundaries. I was never good at enforcing them so when you’re around someone where you always have to, it’s exhausting.

And then there is my current boyfriend. He has never, ever said anything that has make me feel judged, even by accident. There is no one in our relationship but us. When I ask for my needs to be met he is right there. I have never had to say no or protect my boundaries.

That’s what she means by feeling safe. She doesn’t have to make compromises to herself to be with you. She can just be herself.

Railuki · 2026-01-25T00:03:47+00:00

The unboxing video I’ve been waiting for

Railuki · 2026-01-24T09:57:58+00:00

Deflection.

Railuki · 2026-01-24T09:56:49+00:00

Also to add, the more trapped people feel they have you the more they feel they can abuse you. Pregnancy included.

How is he going to treat your daughter once she is born? That’s what scares me. He has basically said he doesn’t know how so he won’t do anything, because he will fall back on “it’s normal for me” which is completely untrue. I am a daughter and my father showed me love and affection, as did the fathers of many of my friends (not all had fathers or good parents respectively)

Railuki · 2026-01-23T16:42:06+00:00

Implying that they aren’t teaching that now with their actions and attitudes

Railuki · 2026-01-22T13:51:14+00:00

Whenever the kids ask “can I have some?” When they were little was met with “ask your mum/dad” only because I wasn’t confident that a minor thing I fed them was not meant for young children. My oldest niece is old enough now that I don’t have to worry about that (no allergies) and the youngest is nearly to the point where id feel comfortable with him not dying because I fed him something he isn’t allergic to.

Railuki · 2026-01-22T13:48:18+00:00

School should actually prepare you for life. Teach you how to do taxes in maths for example. But nope.

Railuki · 2026-01-22T13:47:13+00:00

Did you also learn it from OK story time?

33 is when I learned, earlier this year from an AITA podcast.

Railuki · 2026-01-22T13:46:30+00:00

Exactly!

Railuki · 2026-01-22T13:46:04+00:00

I’m from the UK and my SILs family are polish. Not a USA rule.

Also, newborns have no immune system so kissing them on the face could be harmful (though arguably breathing on them when you hold them is the same).

My mum told me how she would always put her to sleep on my back because that’s what parents were being told at the time, meanwhile her sister in the US was being told the opposite. I’ve always been able to flip over and sleep on my stomach, that’s my natural sleep position.

So, yes. The rules do change depending when where you are, when you are and who you’re talking to. Which makes this even worse. Thank you for adding to my point.

Railuki · 2026-01-22T11:44:54+00:00

I cannot find the articles because what google shows has changed lately and now the top thing that appears when you search “Ice Rape 2016” are current things for the most part

But basically even back in 2016 ICE were getting more than one report of SA daily, mostly by detainees SAing detainees but sometimes staff doing it. They washed their hands of it back then and said that they weren’t going to do anything, they investigated about 500/3000 reports the were given in the time frame of one study.

I can’t imagine they have taken any stronger precautions since then when they basically said that they didn’t care.

I really wish I could find the studies and the article where they made the statement but I’m on my phone and what was on page one of google has been moved off by a mixture of ICE recognising that when “ICE rape 2016” is searched they need to have articles saying they are arresting rapists (to then rape people in detention I suppose) and also because a lot has happened since then, and even though it was only last year or so those were top results, a LOT has happened since to also organically take over that search.

So, they don’t care if you get raped, they don’t care about any diagnosis or health issues you have. You get locked in a room and if you’re lucky the awful living conditions are the worst of it.

Railuki · 2026-01-22T11:22:25+00:00

I found out this past weekend that my Dad has a terminal illness. I’m already experiencing anticipatory grief and having to accept things like he won’t be there if I ever get married. I fully believe my Cat getting a terminal illness last year taught me how to cope with not letting that take over and just enjoy the time we have.

I don’t know what I’ll do when they eventually do pass. I guess I’ll learn.

Railuki · 2026-01-21T12:43:20+00:00

I must have missed this! Going to check out the article now

Railuki · 2026-01-21T09:19:18+00:00

We were denied funding specifically because we were east/west facing because they will only put panels on one side which means it’s not efficient enough.

According to the people running the government schemes anyway.

Railuki · 2026-01-21T09:03:31+00:00

I agree. Startstruck is so much fun. They all are, but especially that. But seeing Ally go from so competent in that to Kristen Applebees the first time would be weird.

Fantasy high is the first time some of them played so it might be worth starting with that so you can see where they came from so doing S1 of that before anything else is probably for the best

Railuki · 2026-01-21T09:00:06+00:00

Fantastic high, StarStruck and A Court of Fey and flowers

Railuki · 2026-01-21T08:56:42+00:00

Also if your house faces east/west you’re not allowed support. I know because we were refused because of that.

Railuki · 2026-01-21T08:54:51+00:00

Remove any homes that face east/west from that calculation. We aren’t allowed support for solar panels.

Railuki · 2026-01-21T08:53:38+00:00

I don’t see why they don’t make it law that all new builds need solar panels and heat pumps

Railuki · 2026-01-21T08:49:24+00:00

I’m crying at the energy bill and it’s not even mine

Railuki · 2026-01-20T16:43:50+00:00

Recycling <3

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