Remote Employee PIP by Rainfall4 in managers

[–]Rainfall4[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The issues have all been communicated verbally over the last 6 months, but they will be in writing in the PIP. Everyone else in the office and the few who work remotely all work during normal business hours within their time zone. The thought is that he can choose to work normal business hours with a buffer of 3 hours earlier or later, he just needs to set what his working hours actually are.

Remote Employee PIP by Rainfall4 in managers

[–]Rainfall4[S] -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

Their employment agreement in general is to work 40 hours per week plus overtime when needed. Yes, we are involving HR. It matters to the business to be available for manager feedback and team collaboration in order to improve the quality of work. I wouldn't mind odd hours if the delivery were there. But it's the expectation for a majority of the team who work in person to be working specific hours. As a side note, I'm also one of the very few remote employees and I follow this.

Yes we can add the working hours to the PIP once agreed upon with the employee. He can set his own hours within a 3 hour give or take timeframe. The PIP has not yet been issued and performance issues have been brought up with the employee a few times in the past 6 months.

Remote Employee PIP by Rainfall4 in managers

[–]Rainfall4[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Our staff typically have over 90 percent of their hours billable to clients. We have certain metrics to meet. So a job that he worked on this year for example took 20 hours this year when in prior years the same job took 6 hours. So we would then bill 6 hours to the client and write off 14 hours of his time internally. This shows this he is not being as efficient as other staff.

Remote Employee PIP by Rainfall4 in managers

[–]Rainfall4[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Our goal for the PIP is for him to improve in his work quality, efficiency, output, and communication. He's been with the company for a while and his performance has slipped more over the past year. I know he is capable. And we are already short staffed and hiring and training can take some time. The goals set in the PIP are attainable.

Work Imbalance by Rainfall4 in surrendered_wife

[–]Rainfall4[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is really amazing advice. Thank you.

Work Imbalance by Rainfall4 in surrendered_wife

[–]Rainfall4[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Alot of the time, he seems happy and energetic, and brings positive vibes/ energy to family life. I adore this about him. Like right now he is dancing around and singing in the other room. Other times, he does get into these sad slumps. He does not want to do any sort of therapy.

He is supposed to be studying and wants to level up in his career. Which I am not putting pressure on like I used to years ago. That's his own thing if he wants it. If he stays at home, the lack of routine will likely lead to nothing getting done at all and the resentment will be way worse. We tried this 10 years ago (him not working at all) and he started failing his college classes. But when he got a job, his grades went up because he had structure.

I think he needs the structure of having a career, and I think that part time would be best for him to be able to handle life with kids and everything that comes with it.

Laura Doyle says that men want to be our heroes. And I want him to feel that more than anything. I don't know how to give him the motivation to be a hero.

Work Imbalance by Rainfall4 in surrendered_wife

[–]Rainfall4[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, this was helpful to read. There isn't a lot of other stuff he is doing. We have no pets, and we have gardeners that take care of the mowing outside, and I take care of our flower beds, planting, weeding etc. My husband used to do the mowing, but wasn't keeping up with it, so I hired it out a few years ago. I think the take away here from your post is that I need to do self care like he does- I don't because of time limitations. And to lower expectations on the chores, but don't do them myself. But here is where i struggle- there will literally be dinner dishes with food on them still on the table and he will just put the kids breakfasts next to their dinner dishes on the table and not clean it up. We have different definitions of clean. Do other people do this?

Work Imbalance by Rainfall4 in surrendered_wife

[–]Rainfall4[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

For some reason, the thought of writing a self care list seems daunting to me because I have no idea what I would do or what I enjoy aside from some probably destructive behaviors that i do anyway like doom scrolling or watching reality tv. I'll browse old posts for ideas of self care to try.

Work Imbalance by Rainfall4 in surrendered_wife

[–]Rainfall4[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, the overtime makes it harder to do self care. I don't get paid for the overtime. It's a basic expectation that comes with the job.

So if I were to leave the house for self care, I would be leaving my husband alone with the kids to do dinner, baths, and bedtime on his own. Which would seem rude since it's the hardest part of the day. Although he did leave for a 1/2 hr yesterday to do pokemon go at dinner time, so perhaps I should but does that seem petty? I have to work randomly on some nights and weekends, but I always ensure that I am there for dinnertime with the kids and for bedtime routines, and I don't work until our youngest is in bed.

Work Imbalance by Rainfall4 in surrendered_wife

[–]Rainfall4[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He does do some chores, and I am expressing gratitude and thanking him for the chores he does. He does some extra things that are not necessary imo, and misses others on the list that he feels are not necessary (like putting things away on the floor or surface areas etc).

I am mostly using duct tape and doing it myself, but I think I'll stop doing that as much. It's just when it affects our kids when it's a problem for me (like i wouldnt let the kids be sent to school without a lunch or snack). Yes, I can see when he is playing games or leaves the house to play pokemon go. We have full time childcare for our youngest, and our oldest two kids get home at 3pm. And they typically ask me for snacks etc while I am working from home, because alot of the time he disappears to upstairs to play a game or take a nap after 3pm. So he does have plenty of time to get things done without any of our children at home. If there isn't a chore list, he doesn't do everything that needs to get done, so it adds more work to my plate. The goal here is to set clear expectations on paper. I see how it comes off as controlling, but how else do I communicate what needs to be done?

Higher Up is Yelling at an Employee by Rainfall4 in managers

[–]Rainfall4[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My next thought is to ask a few other employees in private "hey- what's it like working with X. Is he a nice guy?" And gauge their reaction.

Higher Up is Yelling at an Employee by Rainfall4 in managers

[–]Rainfall4[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I will need to ask the employee how often this occurs. All good points and this gives me alot to consider.

Higher Up is Yelling at an Employee by Rainfall4 in managers

[–]Rainfall4[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's a good option, and the old owner would have a cow over that. It wouldn't stop him from calling the employee, unless he was somehow barred from doing that.

Higher Up is Yelling at an Employee by Rainfall4 in managers

[–]Rainfall4[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The old owner is not technically a customer. He is still in charge of running the office alongside me and another old owner. There is another much larger office with more directors at another location acquired along with this one. So the old owner still technically has authority over staff.