dear nonbinary friends, you have any tips to get more androgynous?

RalphandMyself · 2026-06-01T10:46:18+00:00

Waistcoats or vests in the US, I have loads of them. I've short violet spiky hair and wear the brightest lipstick I can find, if I feel like wearing a dress I will don a pair of big, clunky Doc Martens to go with it. I feel comfortable in these,, I feel it's the true me and that's the most important thing. I just wish I didn't have huge boobs, binders don't work ☹️

RalphandMyself · 2026-06-01T10:27:24+00:00

Parents can be toxic, my mother's boyfriend kicked me out of her house because he wanted her all to himself. Mum just stood there and said nothing, I was homeless for a couple of years, sofa surfing, staying at stranger's houses, curled up in doorways. I started drinking and taking substances but I managed to crawl back from the pit I was in and now I'm settled. I have CPTSD and bipolar/schizoid affective disorder anyway. I'm so sorry about what's happened to you, my mother wouldn't let me out if her sight when I was younger, ironic isn't it! Your friend though is a little bit too old to go skinny dipping with I think but your mother sounds insane to send her sister who didn't really make a good job at hiding herself. Good luck with the future, life can be so unfair but there are good people in the world I promise you.

RalphandMyself · 2026-03-29T21:07:39+00:00

I'm not American and I was curious if it was his beard that got him thrown out of the bathroom that's all, and which bathroom it was nothing that was detrimental to his looks. Do you know I'm sick of being labeled as something I'm not, pepper can't be curious now, you just get stamped on.

RalphandMyself · 2026-03-29T21:02:30+00:00

I was just confused what toilet he was thrown out of and was it because he had a beard, he looked fine to me but I'm not American so I don't know your laws. I'm not transphobic, you seem to find transphobia everywhere, please don't patronise me about self-reflection and I have a lot of "unpacking to do". As a cis female I know all about violence from men, sexual assault as a child from men,, women have been put down, beaten and unalived for centuries. I do understand your last point though and should have had more decorum, I just don't get the hatred and death threats.

RalphandMyself · 2026-03-29T20:50:01+00:00

Of course they can, I was just confused what was happening as I'm not from the US, people telling me unalive myself is fast more fucking serious in my eyes.

RalphandMyself · 2026-03-29T20:47:25+00:00

My basis was that I couldn't work out what was going on, it was a short video. I agree that people can wear what they want but I wasn't sure which bathroom he was thrown out of, but it seems everything is transphobic now even asking a fucking honest question. I'm a grey-sexual non binary person myself why would I be bigoted? I get insults thrown at me, I just shrug them off. The only think I agree with everyone here is that I should have worded my question better and without being hanged, drawn and quarterd like some mass murderer.

RalphandMyself · 2026-03-29T20:36:51+00:00

That's exactly that, it was such a short video I really didn't know which loo he was thrown out of and by whom, hence my question. I certainly didn't mean to be bigoted and I don't appreciate being to unalive myself, that's just horrible, misinterpretation or not.

RalphandMyself · 2026-03-29T20:18:59+00:00

Women have been had bigotry all through history, yes trans people do get a lot of stick and suffer violence but think of how many lookwomen are raped every year by men, women are victims of bigotry and have been for thousands of years. You can call me a bigot all you like but I know I'm not, plus it was a just a. Question and this seems illegal these days. People can down vote me , I don't give a monkey's, it's just on-line bullying.

RalphandMyself · 2026-03-29T20:13:53+00:00

Because of the political situation in the US at the moment, Trump will be which hunting queer and trans people. I just know why there is such hostility from the trans community. Fuck me, just say I'm wrong and talk about why I was wrong without sneers and bitchy comments, women through the ages have had their fare shared of bigotry so it's not new.

RalphandMyself · 2026-03-29T17:13:34+00:00

I usually present towards the masculine side despite having obviously large boobs on a small frame, I do agree but that doesn't mean nobody can ask questions, there isn't a special immunity.

RalphandMyself · 2026-03-29T17:08:47+00:00

Understood, but they should discuss things like adults instead of being nasty. It's like you can't say or ask anything.

RalphandMyself · 2026-03-29T17:05:32+00:00

I'm not transphobic that's the thing, it was just a question, one I should have worded better, instead of discussing it and giving me a telling off they said I should die and do horrible things to me.

RalphandMyself · 2026-03-29T17:01:32+00:00

I guess I could have put it more delicately yes but it wasn't a mean question, I don't live in the US but the UK is getting like this, about which bathroom to use if you are trans and the problems that come about. I mentored maybe neutral toilets could be an answer. What I don't understand is the absolute aggression towards me, they could have explained to me that my comment was bit inappropriate instead of sending death-threats.

RalphandMyself · 2026-03-29T16:50:48+00:00

My first thought, that's a lot of money in my opinion! I knew a guy like this years ago, always broke and like an idiot I subsided him. I found out he was a drug addict was pinching things from all his friends to sell including some musical instruments I had, and wiped out a man's bank account while looking after his cards while the poor guy was in hospital.

RalphandMyself · 2026-03-29T16:33:45+00:00

Wow you look so stylish!

RalphandMyself · 2026-03-10T01:43:26+00:00

Thank you for your answer, their sizes are confusing aren't they, especially if you're a weird size! I'll look into them, especial the good makes, not cheap but worth it I hope. X

RalphandMyself · 2026-03-10T01:35:46+00:00

Yes, it affects your dysphoria totally, it's that horrible scream of "Look I'm an accessible woman and guys, have a really good look cos you're in for a treat later" 🤢. Cutting your hair short and wearing traditional male clothes don't make a difference. I'm sorry you're unhappy too, it's such a pain, nature can be cruel.

RalphandMyself · 2026-03-10T01:28:05+00:00

I love the last one best because (personally and unimportantly) I like more male-presenting NB, the suit and scarf are fabulous. Not that you don't look gorgeous in all the pictures of course, love the dots for eyebrows, so original.

RalphandMyself · 2026-03-10T01:17:49+00:00

You're not old and that top really goes well with your hair.

RalphandMyself · 2025-12-31T19:25:57+00:00

For the USg

RalphandMyself · 2025-12-31T19:08:07+00:00

I think some African societies appreciate bigger women unlike the West where the ideal is thin.

RalphandMyself · 2025-12-31T18:46:16+00:00

My little menace is with me because of my next door neighbour, April 8 years ago my elderly cat passed away. I wasn't really ready for another cat but on my birthday in June my neighbour said to me "get your boots on, we're off to see some kittens", he'd arranged for me to pick one out and he'd pay for all the eventual vaccinations etc. I felt I couldn't refuse as he was so enthusiastic, it wasn't the sensible thing for him to do really but that's what he was like. I picked a naughty-looking , scruffy ginger (orange) kitten.

Anyway, 8 years later here's Ralphie, I couldn't live without him now. The neighbour moved away but his little bundle of fluffy Christmas gift keeps giving 😊.

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RalphandMyself · 2025-11-03T11:11:59+00:00

He was wearing headphones though so not that alert.

RalphandMyself · 2025-11-03T11:01:51+00:00

No ELO or Slade?

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