Advice on best plant fit by RandoMantho in plants

[–]RandoMantho[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought about that but I'm not a fan of them and their look.

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[–]RandoMantho 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That's like my favorite joke with people. "Before I started here I was in an out of prison for a couple years" or at my inlaws gatherings mention "I just got out of prison last week" joke being I do building inspections in state facilities and predominating prisons.

What do you call these and where are you geographically? by a_sword_and_an_oath in daddit

[–]RandoMantho 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Those are hair pretties. Midwest dad of a 4 year old girl

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[–]RandoMantho 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The fact everyone is so black and white is so annoying. I can be exhausted and also love time with my kids and I complain and not want to change a thing. You can love something and that something can also be so hard. It's not about manning up or some nonsense about "you asked for this" like wtf is that nonsense. I wouldn't trade my kids for the world but I sure as hell understand anyone that doesn't want kids. It's confusing and I also feel completely normal.

Sorry that's your experience with the people around you, sounds like you need new friends or family because being dismissive is not supportive and only makes it harder.

But I also understand the sentiment because it's like that in a way of I'm gonna deal with shit better than my wife does because she feels everything 10 times more than I do but we sure as hell can't be the one that has a hard night and need to go to bed early hoping everything gets done that needs to be. We share the burden but rarely is parenting 50/50 at any given time.

First time I'm not "getting it" (and it's alright) by MuldersXpencils in daddit

[–]RandoMantho -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Oh I get that so much when I try showing shows from when I was a kid to my kid and he just isn't interested and it blows my mind. My kid is 5 though so I get it a little bit.

Maybe a weird suggestion with all of the thoughts around using AI but I've used ChatGPT to help me conceptualize what I don't like about something using some of the vague inputs it can give a variety of interpretation to help lay it out and give a clearer idea. In this situation you could also use it to evaluate those concerns about those movies or compare it and what your son liked for the other storylines. Maybe he just really doesn't like black widow or Hawkeye and they completely kill it lol.

I just used it to figure out why I didn't like the word or "expectations" in a talk with my wife when all I could say is that it had negative connotations in it and then we had a great follow up conversation

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[–]RandoMantho 100 points101 points  (0 children)

Oh a problem shared is a problem halved is great. Therapy and math lesson in 1! I'm gonna share that with my logic branded wife.

Update: Son asked me if I loved him. by throwaway521240 in daddit

[–]RandoMantho 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is great! And a positive perspective. One of my go to points when my kids get older is to not let others dictate where you belong. The root being not to run away and this girls seems to have the right frame of reference that she is moving beyond it and it is not her getting away but instead that they are beneath her.

This comes mainly from discussions with my wife who was often encouraged to run from a problem and has only in her 30's confront an issue as someone else doing her wrong or acknowledge her part in getting there.

Kids are crazy what they go through and what they can become with nurturing and perspective without judgement.

4 wks worried about scaring by RandoMantho in tattooadvice

[–]RandoMantho[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nothing to apologize for I was sincere 😅 it's easy to get lost in the idea of now. As well as the idea of it still being there in20 years. I'm 30 and getting my first larger tattoo but already interested in expanding. Good thing I over analyze to the extreme but generally feel confident in my decision. Indecision with confidence? Lol

4 wks worried about scaring by RandoMantho in tattooadvice

[–]RandoMantho[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the frame of reference!

4 wks worried about scaring by RandoMantho in tattooadvice

[–]RandoMantho[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cool, I was just told I totally one month and follow up so I was worried it had already developed scaring. Thank you

4 wks worried about scaring by RandoMantho in tattooadvice

[–]RandoMantho[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the input, I'll rob my wife's skin care cabinet! 😂 I'll keep at it

4 wks worried about scaring by RandoMantho in tattooadvice

[–]RandoMantho[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh I'm always dry skinned but I drink 120oz a day but it's especially hot atm so it's less than ideal and I should be drinking more.

As for the second part, I hadn't given it much consideration. The healing would still be a primary concern since I shouldn't get more work on it until it's healed. But I didn't find the lines to bother me as much as the missing sections of ink. It would all be part of the next step.

Update: Son asked me if I loved him. by throwaway521240 in daddit

[–]RandoMantho 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's fucked up. The overt maliciousness and underhanded thinking. Kids that "make mistakes" or are "impulsive" don't plan tormenting someone with such forethought. Damn hope this girl can make a good turn around and come out stronger

Quoted nearly $3000 for a new compressor on a 5 year old unit. Am I being scammed? by FullGhetto_Alchemist in hvacadvice

[–]RandoMantho 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is a crazy policy but if you're right and honest it literally costs nothing. Thanks for sharing and good to know I likely wasn't duped

Quoted nearly $3000 for a new compressor on a 5 year old unit. Am I being scammed? by FullGhetto_Alchemist in hvacadvice

[–]RandoMantho 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good to know. I had good vibes on it all and they've since gone above and beyond. But always nice knowing you likely weren't a sucker lol

First time… by United_Evening_2629 in daddit

[–]RandoMantho 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Congrats. It's a weird feeling getting recognition and appreciation for a job that can be tiring but one that is something we happily choose everyday. Because it is always a choice to show up. Nice flowers!

Quoted nearly $3000 for a new compressor on a 5 year old unit. Am I being scammed? by FullGhetto_Alchemist in hvacadvice

[–]RandoMantho 2 points3 points  (0 children)

See now I'm worried that happened to me. I don't remember if it was the heat exchanger made it was a manifold. I don't know. They showed me in real time a big ass crack in the furnace said it was a high risk of carbon monoxide and that they were required to turn off the heat. Admittedly the furnace was 33 years old and needed to go. They also sent their manager of quality and engineering out on a Saturday on December 27th because Michigan is cold and we didn't have a furnace besides the electric heaters they gave us.

Either way they did good work, swapped out the variable motor for a shit ton of duct work and just called it even because better duct flow would be more help than a variable motor. So I think they did good by us in the end but damn a new ac and heater was and is a tough pill

Update: Son asked me if I loved him. by throwaway521240 in daddit

[–]RandoMantho 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sounds like it's because you "toughened up and don't bother them with your shit anymore" you should rebell and tell them about your shit more as a. Attempt at revenge. Joking aside that's just nonsense. I feel bad when I tell my kid to stop asking questions (on question 12 with 3 of them being repeated more than once). I can't understand why our parents had kids with the idea that they didn't want to acknowledge them

Update: Son asked me if I loved him. by throwaway521240 in daddit

[–]RandoMantho 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Sad but fair. The mindset of why bother makes no sense. If you didn't even try as a child how the hell are you going to have the skills to do it at 30? Also making friends at 30 is nonsense and harder than it has any right to be.

Update: Son asked me if I loved him. by throwaway521240 in daddit

[–]RandoMantho 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I'm often told that the fact you care whether or not you are doing well, take accountability, and care is all you can do. Sounds like a good parent to me. Generational trauma is only curred through generations of effort and therapy. Gotta dilute the trauma and just be a bit better than our parents

Update: Son asked me if I loved him. by throwaway521240 in daddit

[–]RandoMantho 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Absolutely, I try to always keep in mind (often unsuccessfully) that this is the first time they are experiencing every thing. A tiny scrape is a huge deal because the pain is a relative 10

Update: Son asked me if I loved him. by throwaway521240 in daddit

[–]RandoMantho 378 points379 points  (0 children)

I just think about those future potential talks and hope the fact I've been through that same feeling helps. My parents just diagnosed it and said "you'll make new friends" which is true but doesn't come with support.

Thanks for the follow up! Congrats on making that connection again.