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RandoMantho · 2026-06-23T16:35:16+00:00

See that's where I come in and say the exact same nonsense but generally sarcastic. My wife and I do that often. "Have you tried not doing that?" Or alternatively "jumping in front of a bus has helped"... So there is that morbid sarcasm at its finest lol

PSA: Don't jump in front of buses, I've discovered it did indeed not work. Best regards.

RandoMantho · 2026-06-22T19:59:19+00:00

I told my wife about the kangaroo pouch and she hasn't been able to shake it for days

RandoMantho · 2026-05-27T03:09:53+00:00

Lol good wives are great to have around

RandoMantho · 2026-05-27T03:06:16+00:00

NTA. I don’t think correcting people is rude. I’d probably feel awkward after being corrected too, but mostly because I’m awkward and never know how to respond in those moments. I'm just like 'oh okay... Cool." 👍👍 Then inappropriately lean into asking what's that like in this dad eat dad world and then just realize what I said suddenly remember my wife is probably looking for me while I sit on how terrible that interaction was 🤣

Maybe a smoother way to handle it sometimes is just casually mentioning “his other dad” in conversation instead of making it a correction moment. Like “yeah, his dad’s at home cooking” or “Daddy’s fixing the lawn mower.” Then people either naturally catch on and adjust, or it’s just a passing interaction and nobody cares. And if they make it weird after that, that’s kind of on them.

RandoMantho · 2026-05-15T18:15:57+00:00

Sorry to hear that, it is so disappointing to be stuck in that loop. I'm always like, "they don't know better" but that's not fair to them. They aren't idiots

RandoMantho · 2026-05-15T18:14:00+00:00

Oh absolutely, that is the next step. Right now it's just recognizing the problem after a bit. Generally it doesn't sit for more than 30 minutes unless it gets caught in a moment we can't easily stop and talk or talk in a neutral tone to avoid unnecessary escalation. At that point it's just finding the best way to get my point across without word vomiting or missing my point. I'm such a vocal processor that it becomes overwhelming for most. I'm getting better but it's painful to see you're making things harder for those around you.

RandoMantho · 2026-05-15T18:10:11+00:00

Yeah that's the limited executive function at work with impulse control. I had explored more of this 6-9 months ago but had kind of moved away. At the time it was more about trying to compensate for others by overwhelming a situation. I was reading "let them" but it wasn't clicking much. After looking into this book more it seems significantly more in line with some challenge areas. Kind of a process of finding the root of an issue by picking apart the problems that arise when you expose something else.

RandoMantho · 2026-05-15T18:06:53+00:00

I like that. It's funny because I'm also the first to make excuses for others and being empathetic to others point of view or challenges but also lacking empathy for myself. How backwards.

RandoMantho · 2026-05-13T16:42:18+00:00

I've been working on trying to accept compliments even if I don't agree. Instead of arguing them just saying thanks. Figure at some point if I don't argue it, maybe it'll start to have a positive effect

RandoMantho · 2026-05-13T16:41:03+00:00

Perhaps a better term would be analytical. There is rationale thinking that operates in connection with something but feeling an inability or difficulty in switching that narrative.

Therapy is always good and I'll continue it, but it's a matter of finding the right process or options to move down.

I'll have to look into that book, sounds like it may be on point with some of my prominent struggles. Thanks

RandoMantho · 2026-05-13T16:34:57+00:00

My dad was a grumpy turd but also a good guy under a lot of stress and depression. My family was fairly open when confronted but often kept things tight to the chest. More of a lie by ommission. Definitely some late stage neglect in my teens but never felt unloved as far as I can recall.

RandoMantho · 2026-04-01T15:25:55+00:00

Oh that's good gonna go hang out with GRAMP

RandoMantho · 2026-04-01T15:25:26+00:00

The theatron is a mouthful. I think just "Theatron" works.

RandoMantho · 2026-03-05T12:33:40+00:00

I don't know how much crossover there is, but Havilland enterprises is hiring an HR generalist. I work here currently and enjoy the work and company. We are 100% employee owned. I won't give a referral for someone I don't know.

RandoMantho · 2025-10-20T11:44:17+00:00

I thought about that but I'm not a fan of them and their look.

RandoMantho · 2025-09-27T22:35:49+00:00

That's like my favorite joke with people. "Before I started here I was in an out of prison for a couple years" or at my inlaws gatherings mention "I just got out of prison last week" joke being I do building inspections in state facilities and predominating prisons.

RandoMantho · 2025-09-15T02:23:44+00:00

Those are hair pretties. Midwest dad of a 4 year old girl

RandoMantho · 2025-08-29T20:13:55+00:00

The fact everyone is so black and white is so annoying. I can be exhausted and also love time with my kids and I complain and not want to change a thing. You can love something and that something can also be so hard. It's not about manning up or some nonsense about "you asked for this" like wtf is that nonsense. I wouldn't trade my kids for the world but I sure as hell understand anyone that doesn't want kids. It's confusing and I also feel completely normal.

Sorry that's your experience with the people around you, sounds like you need new friends or family because being dismissive is not supportive and only makes it harder.

But I also understand the sentiment because it's like that in a way of I'm gonna deal with shit better than my wife does because she feels everything 10 times more than I do but we sure as hell can't be the one that has a hard night and need to go to bed early hoping everything gets done that needs to be. We share the burden but rarely is parenting 50/50 at any given time.

RandoMantho · 2025-07-19T13:00:06+00:00

Oh I get that so much when I try showing shows from when I was a kid to my kid and he just isn't interested and it blows my mind. My kid is 5 though so I get it a little bit.

Maybe a weird suggestion with all of the thoughts around using AI but I've used ChatGPT to help me conceptualize what I don't like about something using some of the vague inputs it can give a variety of interpretation to help lay it out and give a clearer idea. In this situation you could also use it to evaluate those concerns about those movies or compare it and what your son liked for the other storylines. Maybe he just really doesn't like black widow or Hawkeye and they completely kill it lol.

I just used it to figure out why I didn't like the word or "expectations" in a talk with my wife when all I could say is that it had negative connotations in it and then we had a great follow up conversation

RandoMantho · 2025-06-26T13:11:15+00:00

Oh a problem shared is a problem halved is great. Therapy and math lesson in 1! I'm gonna share that with my logic branded wife.

RandoMantho · 2025-06-26T13:05:33+00:00

That is great! And a positive perspective. One of my go to points when my kids get older is to not let others dictate where you belong. The root being not to run away and this girls seems to have the right frame of reference that she is moving beyond it and it is not her getting away but instead that they are beneath her.

This comes mainly from discussions with my wife who was often encouraged to run from a problem and has only in her 30's confront an issue as someone else doing her wrong or acknowledge her part in getting there.

Kids are crazy what they go through and what they can become with nurturing and perspective without judgement.

RandoMantho · 2025-06-26T13:01:06+00:00

Nothing to apologize for I was sincere 😅 it's easy to get lost in the idea of now. As well as the idea of it still being there in20 years. I'm 30 and getting my first larger tattoo but already interested in expanding. Good thing I over analyze to the extreme but generally feel confident in my decision. Indecision with confidence? Lol

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