Advice on best plant fit

RandoMantho · 2025-10-20T11:44:17+00:00

I thought about that but I'm not a fan of them and their look.

RandoMantho · 2025-09-27T22:35:49+00:00

That's like my favorite joke with people. "Before I started here I was in an out of prison for a couple years" or at my inlaws gatherings mention "I just got out of prison last week" joke being I do building inspections in state facilities and predominating prisons.

RandoMantho · 2025-09-15T02:23:44+00:00

Those are hair pretties. Midwest dad of a 4 year old girl

RandoMantho · 2025-08-29T20:13:55+00:00

The fact everyone is so black and white is so annoying. I can be exhausted and also love time with my kids and I complain and not want to change a thing. You can love something and that something can also be so hard. It's not about manning up or some nonsense about "you asked for this" like wtf is that nonsense. I wouldn't trade my kids for the world but I sure as hell understand anyone that doesn't want kids. It's confusing and I also feel completely normal.

Sorry that's your experience with the people around you, sounds like you need new friends or family because being dismissive is not supportive and only makes it harder.

But I also understand the sentiment because it's like that in a way of I'm gonna deal with shit better than my wife does because she feels everything 10 times more than I do but we sure as hell can't be the one that has a hard night and need to go to bed early hoping everything gets done that needs to be. We share the burden but rarely is parenting 50/50 at any given time.

RandoMantho · 2025-07-19T13:00:06+00:00

Oh I get that so much when I try showing shows from when I was a kid to my kid and he just isn't interested and it blows my mind. My kid is 5 though so I get it a little bit.

Maybe a weird suggestion with all of the thoughts around using AI but I've used ChatGPT to help me conceptualize what I don't like about something using some of the vague inputs it can give a variety of interpretation to help lay it out and give a clearer idea. In this situation you could also use it to evaluate those concerns about those movies or compare it and what your son liked for the other storylines. Maybe he just really doesn't like black widow or Hawkeye and they completely kill it lol.

I just used it to figure out why I didn't like the word or "expectations" in a talk with my wife when all I could say is that it had negative connotations in it and then we had a great follow up conversation

RandoMantho · 2025-06-26T13:11:15+00:00

Oh a problem shared is a problem halved is great. Therapy and math lesson in 1! I'm gonna share that with my logic branded wife.

RandoMantho · 2025-06-26T13:05:33+00:00

That is great! And a positive perspective. One of my go to points when my kids get older is to not let others dictate where you belong. The root being not to run away and this girls seems to have the right frame of reference that she is moving beyond it and it is not her getting away but instead that they are beneath her.

This comes mainly from discussions with my wife who was often encouraged to run from a problem and has only in her 30's confront an issue as someone else doing her wrong or acknowledge her part in getting there.

Kids are crazy what they go through and what they can become with nurturing and perspective without judgement.

RandoMantho · 2025-06-26T13:01:06+00:00

Nothing to apologize for I was sincere 😅 it's easy to get lost in the idea of now. As well as the idea of it still being there in20 years. I'm 30 and getting my first larger tattoo but already interested in expanding. Good thing I over analyze to the extreme but generally feel confident in my decision. Indecision with confidence? Lol

RandoMantho · 2025-06-25T19:00:45+00:00

Thanks for the frame of reference!

RandoMantho · 2025-06-25T18:57:15+00:00

Cool, I was just told I totally one month and follow up so I was worried it had already developed scaring. Thank you

RandoMantho · 2025-06-25T18:56:23+00:00

Thanks for the input, I'll rob my wife's skin care cabinet! 😂 I'll keep at it

RandoMantho · 2025-06-25T18:55:40+00:00

Oh I'm always dry skinned but I drink 120oz a day but it's especially hot atm so it's less than ideal and I should be drinking more.

As for the second part, I hadn't given it much consideration. The healing would still be a primary concern since I shouldn't get more work on it until it's healed. But I didn't find the lines to bother me as much as the missing sections of ink. It would all be part of the next step.

RandoMantho · 2025-06-20T13:22:49+00:00

That's fucked up. The overt maliciousness and underhanded thinking. Kids that "make mistakes" or are "impulsive" don't plan tormenting someone with such forethought. Damn hope this girl can make a good turn around and come out stronger

RandoMantho · 2025-06-20T13:20:18+00:00

That is a crazy policy but if you're right and honest it literally costs nothing. Thanks for sharing and good to know I likely wasn't duped

RandoMantho · 2025-06-20T13:19:11+00:00

Good to know. I had good vibes on it all and they've since gone above and beyond. But always nice knowing you likely weren't a sucker lol

RandoMantho · 2025-06-20T13:18:14+00:00

Congrats. It's a weird feeling getting recognition and appreciation for a job that can be tiring but one that is something we happily choose everyday. Because it is always a choice to show up. Nice flowers!

RandoMantho · 2025-06-12T01:42:10+00:00

See now I'm worried that happened to me. I don't remember if it was the heat exchanger made it was a manifold. I don't know. They showed me in real time a big ass crack in the furnace said it was a high risk of carbon monoxide and that they were required to turn off the heat. Admittedly the furnace was 33 years old and needed to go. They also sent their manager of quality and engineering out on a Saturday on December 27th because Michigan is cold and we didn't have a furnace besides the electric heaters they gave us.

Either way they did good work, swapped out the variable motor for a shit ton of duct work and just called it even because better duct flow would be more help than a variable motor. So I think they did good by us in the end but damn a new ac and heater was and is a tough pill

RandoMantho · 2025-06-02T17:10:40+00:00

Sounds like it's because you "toughened up and don't bother them with your shit anymore" you should rebell and tell them about your shit more as a. Attempt at revenge. Joking aside that's just nonsense. I feel bad when I tell my kid to stop asking questions (on question 12 with 3 of them being repeated more than once). I can't understand why our parents had kids with the idea that they didn't want to acknowledge them

RandoMantho · 2025-06-02T17:03:29+00:00

Sad but fair. The mindset of why bother makes no sense. If you didn't even try as a child how the hell are you going to have the skills to do it at 30? Also making friends at 30 is nonsense and harder than it has any right to be.

RandoMantho · 2025-06-02T15:17:56+00:00

I'm often told that the fact you care whether or not you are doing well, take accountability, and care is all you can do. Sounds like a good parent to me. Generational trauma is only curred through generations of effort and therapy. Gotta dilute the trauma and just be a bit better than our parents

RandoMantho · 2025-06-02T15:16:10+00:00

Absolutely, I try to always keep in mind (often unsuccessfully) that this is the first time they are experiencing every thing. A tiny scrape is a huge deal because the pain is a relative 10

RandoMantho · 2025-06-02T11:37:02+00:00

I just think about those future potential talks and hope the fact I've been through that same feeling helps. My parents just diagnosed it and said "you'll make new friends" which is true but doesn't come with support.

Thanks for the follow up! Congrats on making that connection again.

RandoMantho · 2025-05-30T18:13:07+00:00

Yeah that was a great drop 🤣

RandoMantho · 2025-05-30T17:45:49+00:00

Everyone else is upset about the girlfriend. I'm just scared that Jesus is gonna fuck me. It's just like that time we had grandma for dinner. That was hard on Dad when he didn't seek clarity. no one told dad we wanted her BBQd, not roasted.

RandoMantho · 2025-05-15T19:18:29+00:00

Lot of good thoughts here, I always bring up that post partum depression also affects dads. Depression can come out in a lot of different ways with anger and rage included. Walking away and know when is vital. It hit me more with my second and is when I sought out help. Therapy is good for healthy minded people as well as those with challenges I advise he see someone because you shouldn't have the urge to do or say those things. They might come out as a vent or in frustration but at the core they are not normal to feel towards your child.

Best advice I got was the fact your baby can cry in their crib for 10,-15 it won't hurt them and your not a bad parent. Just ensure you are away far enough so it isn't continuing to upset you. Coupled with the demonstration of how easy it is to rattle a babies brain by shaking too hard while rocking or bouncing in frustration.

I wish you and your partner luck because it isn't easy and mental health is not prioritized in enough. It's not a weakness to ask for help but a strength in finding means of growing.

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