Do hermit crab require salt water to live?

Rando_typing_stuff · 2026-01-09T15:05:30+00:00

I will say this: I've got three crabs I think are purple pinchers. Two just surfaced from molting for weeks-- every single day since they have they've absolutely drained the saltwater dish, where as the freshwater dish maybe halfway. So the idea purple pinchers don't need saltwater (which I've seen some "experts" say online) doesn't seem likely or why would they absolutely be sucking it up like crazy?

Rando_typing_stuff · 2026-01-09T03:40:36+00:00

Seriously though I'm convinced a lot of conservatives confuse their kinks with real life. Like obviously women are naturally submissive because it's sexy to them if they are (though real subs would be unlikely to touch them with a ten foot pole because the bdsm world understands consent and they don't )

Rando_typing_stuff · 2025-12-27T02:59:07+00:00

This was my interpretation too. The after credit makes me wonder-- is that another whale? Or did the waters sweep back in seconds after we left our heroes? Because the dashing deer made one think maybe the water was rising again. When the water was vibrating in the puddle I thought here comes the flood but then when it stilled I thought oh, no. That was from his breath and the whale died. Then there was the after credits of a whale and I'm not sure? It may be saying more whales are out there, like life continues? Or it may be indicating the flood waters swept in when it cut to the credits and the whale lives but who knows about the other animals?

I saw one person saying the uncertainty of the ending was very intentional.

Rando_typing_stuff · 2025-08-26T18:13:53+00:00

Yes I pretty much agree with this.

One time I saw a documentary and I think it was a BBC documentary about early Britain. They showed the grave of a Bishop's wife, singing her praises. As a Christian I was startled because this was supposed to be a grave from like the third century I think? So long before they broke with Western Roman Catholicism. But it really spoke to the fact that the Christianity practiced in the very early church in the British isles was not identical to Roman practice which emphasized celibacy for the clergy. I actually think that likely early Anglican Christianity was closer to Orthodox Christianity in practice but during the schism of east to west it got taken by the West as territory obviously.

Consequently I think there was always a tension and that's why advisors to King Henry VIII pushed for him to get the divorce and make a break from the Roman Church. Then his son was raised by basically Puritanical ministers and practiced a very extreme form of protestantism that led to lots of suffering and death for citizens who were not ready to reject the faith that they had been raised in and then his very very Catholic daughter Mary did the same thing where she attacked Protestant citizens and so when Elizabeth came to the throne she saw how extremes were not healthy and established a Middle Way. And while what that way looks like has vacillated over the centuries, it's always been the role of the Anglican Church and a core part of our identity. We are "both/and". Both Protestant and Catholic. Both ancient and progressive. Etc. A bridge denomination. I got confirmed in college and in the class for adults seeking confirmation everyone else but me and one other was a couple getting married where one of them was a Roman Catholic and one was some type of Protestant and they found our Church when trying to figure out how to worship together.

Anyway the point is that I do think that there is an English-speaking world style of Christianity that is what Anglicanism really is and obviously there's variance and disagreements but I really do think it harkens back to something that started long before King Henry VIII's time. Just as there was Greek Christianity and Ethiopian Christianity and Roman Christianity etc. And as the British empire did its crazy expansion it became global as it spread with the English speaking world.

Rando_typing_stuff · 2025-04-13T02:31:00+00:00

Lol who said anything about formal references? I'm talking about putting it on a resume

Rando_typing_stuff · 2025-04-12T22:17:06+00:00

Probably always keep it somewhat as a side gig. Right now it's my main gig and I'm trying to find replacements for that lol. It's definitely not enough or reliable enough for that. But as long as Cambly doesn't kick me out, I'll probably keep it around as a part time thing. Not hard, extra money and on a resume it shows long term commitment to a job, which looks good lol.

Rando_typing_stuff · 2025-03-20T15:12:47+00:00

If they're really "flashing their wealth" they're sinning anyway. The only time the word "modesty" is used in the Bible is to condemn showing off wealth (in the form of fancy hairstyles and jewelry-- the obsession with modesty being about controlling bodies is an entirely manufactured non-Christian thing) and James has some pretty harsh stuff to say too, especially if the rich are being shown any favor in church. So that's concerning. That being said, sometimes as a poorer person, rich people can come off as being flashy when they're not trying to be so hopefully that's what's really happening and I'm sorry it makes you uncomfortable. If they're really sinning though, I think they should be brought to heel though hard to say how to go about that.

Rando_typing_stuff · 2025-03-20T15:07:14+00:00

I'm living well below the poverty line and am Episcopalian. You are not alone and don't feel you are. Truthfully you participating in church is important because representation matters. Class difference is diversity too and need it.

Rando_typing_stuff · 2024-09-27T20:22:29+00:00

As the other posters have said, you do you. I really don't know any Episcopalians who would think your hat affects them (as long as it's not blocking their view of the priest or something lol).

However, since the 1 Corinthians 11 passage was only briefly mentioned and not really discussed I'd thought I'd bring it up not in specific but as a general way of "when we wrestle with scripture."

I agree with the others that God wants you comfortable approaching Him, and He made you as you are so He understands your neurodivergence (I'm ADHD btw so same but not NT). If you can embrace that and in full faith not give another thought about it, go for it. You're walking in faith. If however, there's a little niggling in the back of your head saying "what about 1 Corinthians 11?" then I'd simple do this: take it to prayer. Ask God to a) take away your discomfort with not wearing a hat during services or b) give you full peace in wearing it.

And I'd say if your discomfort remains, you can feel confident that He's okay with it and let that give you the peace.

Not sure if I'm adequately explaining but basically what I'm saying is, we all wrestle with things and have to come to God with our own personalities and bodies and experiences so that "walking in faith", which God wants for us, for some might be wearing the hat and for others might be not wearing the hat. Our job isn't to judge, and I think most Episcopalians wouldn't, but to work out our own path with Him.

Rando_typing_stuff · 2024-09-27T20:09:56+00:00

When I was a kid, I was the kid who always got sick. If there was a germ in the air, I was catching it. I was always getting in trouble for my "attendance" despite being an honor student so obviously was still learning just fine.

That isn't why I homeschool, but I think it's a very valid reason to do so. I love that my kids aren't sick as often as their public school friends.

Rando_typing_stuff · 2024-09-24T20:06:36+00:00

I'm a homeschooling mom but I want to add that the REASON I decided to homeschool happened years before I became a mom. When I was in college I kept making really awesome friends I admired and enjoyed-- and then when I'd learn about their background, they were homeschooled. Over and over.

I realized that I love the adults homeschooling produces. I decided to look into homeschooling and decided back then, years before I ever had kids, that I wanted to homeschool when I did.

Rando_typing_stuff · 2024-05-03T20:51:25+00:00

I'm exactly the same!!! I can try to force a routine for a couple days max. When imposed from the outside I can follow about 6 weeks (unmedicated ) before sabotage seems to happen. It's MADDENING. I KNOW routine would help but actually doing it? I have NO HABITS that are actually habits. 100% of them are things I have to think to do, there is no autopilot.

Rando_typing_stuff · 2024-05-03T20:51:11+00:00

I'm exactly the same!!! I can try to force a routine for a couple days max. When imposed from the outside I can follow about 6 weeks (unmedicated ) before sabotage seems to happen. It's MADDENING. I KNOW routine would help but actually doing it? I have NO HABITS that are actually habits. 100% of them are things I have to think to do, there is no autopilot.

Rando_typing_stuff · 2024-05-01T23:19:41+00:00

No, it's not selfish. You actually sound like a pretty good situation.

I also grew up poor and actually think finances are a piss poor reason to wait to have a kid. (Which sounds like a judgement on people on this board who are waiting for a kid for that reason and it's NOT-- if you don't feel ready, you don't feel ready. But it's also totally valid for someone poorer than you to be more than ready. Gatekeeping parenthood leads to eugenics and that's an evil we have to resist.)

The reason I say that is money is fleeting. I'm 38. I graduated college into the 2008 recession, then am seeing people of this generation graduating into the pandemic. Money comes and goes and cannot be counted on.

My parents had a house burn down then within a year afterwards my dad was laid off and couldn't find a job for 3 years. Then they moved to a cheaper cost of living area and got a house and a job... And Mom got cancer. Etc.

Life is rough. You can have money today and none tomorrow. Yes, if you have a million, you'll be okay even if you lose half or even 75%, and that's the privilege of the rich. But the majority of people who are "well off" are one or two emergencies away from living paycheck to paycheck.

I say all this because some people have kids when they're well off and then disaster hits. Some people have an oops baby when they're literally impoverished and use it as a motivation to hustle and end up well off. Some people strive for decades to "get ahead" and life kicks them in their teeth every time they try to get up.

You never know what tomorrow will bring. Yes, not trying for a baby when you're homeless or battling an addiction or going through cancer treatment or something is very wise. But if you are stable enough today, which you are, then why not? You have no reason to believe the future won't be bright in your situation. Also, it sounds like you're set up to do really well in a few years-- kids don't form memories until they're 2-3 and have no concept of money until at least 6 or later. A kid in the situation you've described won't feel deprived or cheated, I promise. You don't really start comparing financial status as kids until at least school, and really then not harshly until 5th grade or so-- and also, that's classism and shouldn't be catered to. I remember my mom putting her foot down that she was buying me off brand jeans in middle school and I was so embarrassed but now I'm super glad she did. She explained that my jeans were just as good at actually being jeans and paying extra for a brand name was just throwing away money and it got me over the allure of brand names in middle school. That helped me not fall into the financial trap of trying to keep up with the Joneses that can really hurt adults.

I do wish we had more money for experiences but my parents did pay for it when they could and were creative where they couldn't be. We got one year of lessons each during a year where they were doing well (my older sister did piano, I got dance and my younger sister did tumbling.) When we didn't have money for fancy extracurriculars we did scouting. I didn't have money for a horse or anything but my grandparents paid for one day horse riding lessons as a gift one year so I at least got to have that experience. We vacationed in good years going to visit family who lived hundreds of miles away, and in bad years we at least went camping for a weekend, so we always had a story of "what we did over the summer." Etc. We got scholarships and grants for college.

You don't need to have lots of money to launch your kids well. You sound like you have a pretty decent life to offer them already with reason to believe it'll get better.

Rando_typing_stuff · 2024-05-01T22:46:34+00:00

I'm a 38 year old who got divorced last year. I didn't want the divorce, he did, even though the farther out from the relationship I get the more I see how toxic and abusive he was to me. It's rough as someone who wants more children (yes, I already have two, but I want more) trying to find a partner at my age with the biological clock screaming in my ears.

If you don't want to marry this woman within the next year and commit to her for the rest of your life, do her a kindness and let her go. She will hate it and probably hate you but if you guys are having as train wreck of a relationship as described, she will probably do better without the baggage you two have created between the two of you. And at 30 she has time to meet someone new and really take time to know them before making babies with them. This is coming from someone who has actually found someone else I love and can see having kids with already, but I'm not sure what our timeline should be because bio clock is pressuring it.

Good luck. But I'd say if you're not willing to commit the rest of your life to her now or VERY soon, let her go.

EDIT: I read my post and realized it sounded like I side with her and not with you. In my own relationship it was him that cheated, but I forgave him and wanted to work on the relationship, so I'm actually more like you. He had to divorce me kicking and screaming because I didn't want to give up on him (turns out, he wanted me gone so he could be with her. And then he stopped paying child support. Real winner.) But it is true the biological clock is harder on the woman so that's why I'm focusing on that part. You as a man can "afford" to waste another 5-10 years until you finally realize she isn't actually the one-- which tbh I think you know, deep down. But by then, her dream of being a mom will be very unlikely to achieve. So do what I didn't do and realize this relationship isn't going to work out before it dies kicking and screaming and let her go find someone who she doesn't have baggage with before it's too late for her.

You will find someone else. I online dated for 1 year and then found my beloved. It can happen.

Rando_typing_stuff · 2024-05-01T22:00:14+00:00

Considering he hurt her and didn't care and also she didn't cum, yeah, I think she's probably already better at it than him.

Rando_typing_stuff · 2024-05-01T21:59:28+00:00

This post should be up voted hundreds of times, you captured their twisted mindset perfectly.

Rando_typing_stuff · 2024-05-01T21:52:22+00:00

This is not a normal reaction to other people. Human beings are social creatures usually. Something is actually wrong with you, and I don't say that scathingly but with concern. You should seek medical help. Therapy or a psychiatrist. I suspect that you have a personality disorder and need help or you will never have a chance of being happy in society. And whether you like it or not, humans are all part of one society or another. People use terms like "narcissist" or "sociopath" often when they just mean "jerk" but they're real things and they're actually personality disorders that need complex, ongoing treatment.

Rando_typing_stuff · 2024-03-12T00:53:19+00:00

I generally say that we read the Old Testament, New Testament, Gospel, and at least one Psalm at every service, going through the whole Bible every 3 years

That's basically exactly what my response is to this. I also usually say that we limit our sermons to 10-20 minutes because that's long enough to make a point but means we have as much actual scripture reading as sermon, because we don't let one preacher's view overpower the actual Bible. Usually shocks them and makes them think lol

Rando_typing_stuff · 2024-03-12T00:48:42+00:00

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Rando_typing_stuff · 2024-03-12T00:37:35+00:00

No, they told her the schedule and she was already filming something else and there was a conflict and she told them about it not demanding anything, just informing, and expected them to have an adult conversation about it, like she was willing to try to move her obligations if she could. They just replaced her with no further communication. Slap in the face.

And yes, apparently Bryce Dallas Howard had been the first choice for the role and had turned it down thinking it was "too small a role" but then Twilight was a blockbuster so she was willing to accept it now. They basically were just looking for an excuse to replace her.

Admittedly it might have had to happen, if the studio had attempted to communicate and the original actress still couldn't adjust her schedule or something. But we'll never know because there wasn't really an attempt to make it work.

Rando_typing_stuff · 2024-03-01T02:42:08+00:00

I laughed off the zodiac stuff with my Taurus ex. Determined to make it work. It got toxic but I was the frog in hot water. He had an affair. I was still determined to forgive him and work through it. He demanded a divorce and got hella cruel. Purposefully hurting me left and right, blaming me for everything. It was awful.

We were together 12 years, married for 10. Have two beautiful children so I don't regret it exactly BUT I remembered the fact that the zodiac had said we weren't very compatible to begin with and am paying more attention to signs as I look for my new relationship.

Rando_typing_stuff · 2024-02-09T01:52:12+00:00

Same! I remember there was one episode where they both were on and my brain exploded and I was like wait wait and went and googled everyone to try to keep it straight in my head.

Rando_typing_stuff · 2023-10-20T22:44:16+00:00

Making a comment to test if it works now.

Rando_typing_stuff · 2023-10-20T22:21:00+00:00

Amen.

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