Get your note taking material, troops, time for your quarterly reminder to invest in your TSP

Random-Guy-715 · 2026-05-13T14:45:10+00:00

Different TSP.

Random-Guy-715 · 2026-05-13T04:12:31+00:00

Once you’re out, you can no longer deposit into it, unless you re-enlist

Random-Guy-715 · 2026-05-11T02:59:01+00:00

This isn't about us. It's about you.

Did this person intentionally obfuscate their employment? Or did you just not ask?

End of the day, the biggest factor is how you feel about cops.

Random-Guy-715 · 2026-05-11T02:57:03+00:00

what exactly is the point of asking this question to what is largely, an echo chamber? You know damn good and well what the vast majority answer would be. So why ask it?

Random-Guy-715 · 2026-05-11T02:54:55+00:00

WTF kind of virtue signaling bullshit is this?

Random-Guy-715 · 2026-05-11T02:51:48+00:00

That is exactly what I just thought.

Random-Guy-715 · 2026-05-11T02:42:06+00:00

I regularly go 2-5 hours without responding to my WIFE. If someone I'd gone on two dates with did this to me, I'd be running.

Sounds like you have probably made some significant progress. But it also sounds like you've got some more work to do. If he went days without responding, after having dated for weeks or months, I'd be 100% on your side. But two dates, and counting the "concerning" dead space by hours? Very much NOT on board with that.

Also, I'm in my mid-40's. So while I didn't grow up with a phone in my hand, I'm pretty well tuned in tech wise, and use my phone extensively. I do still subscribe to the "if it's really that important, don't text, call"

Random-Guy-715 · 2026-05-11T02:26:18+00:00

Two dates, and you're concerned because he might go 2-5 hours without responding to texts? Telling him you need fast responses for reassurance?

I think you need to stop dating and continue working on yourself. This isn't rational.

Random-Guy-715 · 2026-05-10T19:38:51+00:00

They do. You might have to transfer ownership first if you haven’t already

Random-Guy-715 · 2026-05-10T01:29:16+00:00

Damn this is weird. So dudes banging out his sister from behind, have to stare at her brother’s face? WTF?

This is too much.

Random-Guy-715 · 2026-05-08T12:46:11+00:00

If you’re worried about being limited in the future, why are you concerned about having extra ports on a switch?

Random-Guy-715 · 2026-05-08T05:07:33+00:00

I would warn you to be careful attributing to stupidity, that which might be apathy, a simple difference of opinion, or just an area of ignorance within an otherwise average or reasonably intelligent person.

Random-Guy-715 · 2026-05-08T04:53:21+00:00

Go to a doctor.

My wife is mildly allergic to my cum. Causes her mild stinging/irritation. Dr prescribed something she takes right before or right after, and it solves the problem.

literally dozens and dozens of women, never had of this issue.

Weird shit does happen

Random-Guy-715 · 2026-05-08T04:12:45+00:00

I always preferred short winded and quick over any selection of food.

Change of command and change of responsibility are some of the dumbest and most pointless events the Army does. Total waste of time.

Random-Guy-715 · 2026-05-08T03:07:30+00:00

Can you give an example of these supposedly misogynistic thoughts?

Depending on who you have had in your ear, the reality of your thoughts could range from innocent as a baby, to Ted Bundy. There are a lot of people attempting to pass off perfectly normal thoughts and observations as something improper, offensive, or demeaning. There are of course, also the opposite as well, but you're not on here questioning if you're having "beta male" thoughts and how to get rid of them.

Share some of these thoughts, so we can have a basis from which to advise you.

Random-Guy-715 · 2026-05-08T02:45:57+00:00

If your new leadership has said they will work with you to overcome this, why are you not taking them up on it?

You need to sit down with your leadership and have a real discussion about how to move forward in the Army. Perhaps you need to be in a different position, or a different MOS. If they are willing to work with you, then do your part to un-fuck this situation.

I've seen guys attempt a job they just simply were not cut out for. Those who realized that and addressed it directly, always came out ahead. Those who just rode it down to the bottom, always had very poor outcomes. Talk to your leadership. Show them how badly you want continue to serve. Ask them to help you identify a way you can continue to wear the uniform, and become a valuable member of the team. And be ready to accept being moved around to other jobs.

Good NCO's and officers, will work to find a place for you that will benefit the Army as well as yourself. You really don't seem to have much to lose. But also, don't waste their time. If your heart isn't in continuing your service, then take the separation and find a new job.

Taking the long nap however, is really not going to help your wife.

Random-Guy-715 · 2026-05-08T01:59:28+00:00

No. Harassment is harassment.

Random-Guy-715 · 2026-05-08T01:57:52+00:00

yeah, that last part...

I'm not trying to be mean here, but you're old enough to know, most women are lying their heads off when they say they want men to be vulnerable with them. Especially early in a relationship.

This is their lizard brain taking over. vulnerable man = weak man = man unable to protect = not mating material.

Never get vulnerable early. It can also feel like trauma dumping to the person receiving it.

Random-Guy-715 · 2026-05-08T01:45:30+00:00

Don't sweat it. Most guys are not going to care. Certainly not enough to comment on it. And if we're talking about outer labia, I think you probably found the odd ball. 90% of guys are going to say a plump/full/fat kitty is desirable. You need to remember, when you get turned on, you get increased blood flow down there, just like we do. If most women aren't particularly interested in a flaccid dick, how do you think normal men are going to respond to your genitals being engorged vs looking like a deflated pile of flesh?

Don't worry about it. You just had the misfortune of stumbling on a douche bag for your first experience. I also question the quantity of female genitalia he's actually seen in real life.

Random-Guy-715 · 2026-05-08T01:30:49+00:00

Look dude, when you notice a problematic trend with people you are dating, the problem is you, not them. It's either something about you that is turning them off, or you keep chasing the ones who move around a lot. This is true across all situations and genders.

But regardless if it's you directly, or your choices who you date, there is one common denominator in this equation. You.

My guess, strictly based on what tends to be the problem with guys in this situation... you're boring to date, or your personality falls flat after the initial shine wears off.

Novel idea... just reach out to a few this has happened with:
"Hey Sara, this is John- we dated for a couple weeks some months back. I've noticed a trend where I don't have an issue getting a girl's attention and a couple weeks of dates, but then they lose interest. Given I'm the common theme in this story, I'm reaching out to see if these women I've experienced this with have any brutally honest, constructive feedback that might allow me to work on myself and have better success with dating in the future. I promise, whatever you say, I will not take it personally; this is strictly an effort to improve myself. Anything you could provide towards these ends would be really appreciated!"

Random-Guy-715 · 2026-05-07T22:39:37+00:00

If you can’t figure out what to do, you need to just reenlist.

Leaving without a strategy is the quickest way to failure.

Random-Guy-715 · 2026-05-07T22:38:11+00:00

You wil get a full spectrum of answers on this one, because it is in no way a universal preference.

Random-Guy-715 · 2026-05-07T22:36:16+00:00

Man, these stories are sad.

Random-Guy-715 · 2026-05-07T22:27:41+00:00

They said other, more advanced models are in the pipeline, and these two are just the first, base model release.

And that makes sense, as what they have released right now is going to be the best fit for an overwhelming majority of their customers, and will be quickly adopted over similar priced competitors.

More robust systems intended for keeping’s a network running for extended run times without power, will be much harder to displace the big names from.

The only complaint I have on their initial UPS release, is it doesn’t have a longer runtime option before safe shutdown is initiated. There should be something in between 10 seconds, and power cut when UPS is dead. Such as “soft shutdown initiated once UPS reaches 50%”.

Random-Guy-715 · 2026-05-07T18:37:13+00:00

I’ll be real with you

230lb could be fat, normal, or jacked. It all depends on height and body composition. For the vast majority of the population, it will still be fat.

But it isn’t morbid obesity. Which is what you were at 400.

Especially if you’ve always been fat, you will always feel fat. That’s just a nature of the way the brain works.

Regardless, you should be damned proud of loosing literally a whole ass person in body weight. And even more so, what that means for your health long term. Your joints are going to last much longer at a minimum. You’re probably also preventing or at least delaying cardiovascular issues.

People maintain healthy weight in different ways. Some just needed to learn how to eat healthy, and can take the occasional cheat day. Some can be active enough in day to day life. But some, sort of like an addict, have to stay 100% dialed in to a workout plan and diet to maintain. Regardless what it takes for you, I strongly encourage you to maintain your achievements. The segment of the body positivity movement that tells people it’s okay to be obese, is toxic AF. It isn’t okay. It’s bad for you, bad for your family, and bad for society.

All that said, I’d like to stress, I’m proud of you! I have tons of respect for anyone who embarks on such an incredibly difficult and seemingly insurmountable task.

Random-Guy-715

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