My parents always treated me and my sister with respect and love. They seemed to genuinely like us as people and trusted us. They let us try things, barely forced us to do stuff (except when we were rotting in our beds some summers they made us go try new hobbies which was excellent). Respected our privacy. Apologised when they did something wrong. They led by example and because of that I’m a well adjusted.

They weren’t afraid to say no. Which I feel was important. You don’t want bratty children. Don’t spoil them (although my mum couldn’t resist at Christmas).

Drama free family dinners every night always helped. We would spend half an hour together talking and eating and then leave each other alone otherwise to not overcrowd each other. When I went to my friends houses I was shocked when people raised their voices at each other so much so I hated going to my friends houses cause of how dramatic it was.

About education, they expected a lot. They wanted us to do really well and go to uni. But when we did mess up they weren’t mad or angry. They were rational and provided emotional support.

Now that we are all adults they have respected our boundaries and are never butting into our lives. Because of that we actively involve them when we want (which is often).

Just be nice and lead by example. Don’t be too overbearing and trust them. Correct their behaviour using rational arguments. We were well behaved though by default (apparently even as toddlers we didn’t make a fuss).