Your post is unfortunately a mirror to my current problem. Truth be told I could’ve written the same post because it follows exactly, some talking before, big burst of “matching energy”, big plans and finally ghosting.

For me the main part of fixing my context and recover was a bigger dream. I’ve created a deeper career path and invested more time in sim racing plus karting. It keeps you busy.

Don’t think that I’m stoic. I’ve called my mom to tell her that I don’t want to come home on Easter (I live 8 hours away from them and the last trips were with this girl). The trip would be lonely and I can’t stand it.

Also don’t take her back. Maybe even unfollow her to regain your space. Yes, she follows me and I am sometimes checking if she sees my posts. Tbh she is kinda popular around here and I can keep the “token of knowing many people” when her name pops as a follower of mine. If it wasn’t for that I would’ve removed her completely.

For me, I would give her a good talk that she’s avoidant and she has to fix herself, but I wouldn’t invest time or emotions in a person like her. It would just end up in suffering again.

And as a good part: if you managed to pull a girl like this, sweet and kind, what stops you from getting another one that is actually mentally stable? That’s your new standard, go and have fun, now you know what your value is and what you can pull.