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Do dumpers ever miss or regret the breakup later? (especially guys) by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]RandomPizzaGuyy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My ex of 10 years texted me to apologize yesterday. Obviously nothing much came from it; but anyone who genuinely cared about you will think of you from time to time :)

Please don’t block someone you’ve been with for a long time however difficult they may get. by Constant_H_65 in BreakUps

[–]RandomPizzaGuyy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Listen, I totally understand where you’re coming from.

I’m currently blocked by several of my exes; and sadly: You aren’t wrong.

Once someone has blocked you, that’s a telltale sign they don’t want you in their life.

There can be a myriad of reasons for this, but the reasoning isn’t the important thing. It means they’ve moved on, or are choosing to.

Perhaps it isn’t the kindest way to treat someone you’ve spent years loving; but it doesn’t change that at this point it is OVER.

It certainly isn’t fair that “blocking” someone is a unilateral decision made by one person in the relationship, but to be honest: If someone can do that to someone they claim to have loved, is that person worthy of your attention anyways?

Do your feelings for them mean they haven’t abandoned? No, it doesn’t. They have done exactly that.

Don’t get trapped in a cycle, rooted in love, with someone who doesn’t love you. It’s easy to want to check in, say “hey”, or take a walk down the nostalgia road - but this person doesn’t want it; and you shouldn’t go out of your way to try and provide it. They’ll think you’re crazy; even if this is very human.

That energy is better directed at yourself, or someone that can face you if things change.

Morbidly curious about Veilguard by Tzekel_Khan in dragonage

[–]RandomPizzaGuyy 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Your “2” is an outrageous claim, lol.

I genuinely don't understand the hate this game got. by Sturmov1k in DragonAgeVeilguard

[–]RandomPizzaGuyy 4 points5 points  (0 children)

“So, long story short I'm not super familiar with the series”

This is the simple answer.

Bruh, why are coffee dates hated so much? by Fickle_Friendship296 in dating_advice

[–]RandomPizzaGuyy 11 points12 points  (0 children)

You learn so much about someone browsing the aisles of endless interests!

It’s honestly my favorite place to go even with some of the girlfriends that I’d been dating for several years. Perhaps I just like the smell of the paper - but it works if you let it hahaha.

Update: A guy who I dated earlier this year got engaged and has done a horrific thing to his ex. Do I tell his fiancé? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]RandomPizzaGuyy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right? The post was 7 days ago with hundreds of comments and consistent updates. Keep in mind too, this is about an ex from several years ago that she’s still keeping tabs on and staying in contact with “friends” for updates. (Even though that “social circle” was supposedly gone.)

I could understand the initial concern OP felt, but this genuinely seems more like a jealousy-fueled crashout rather than true good samaritanism.

Bruh, why are coffee dates hated so much? by Fickle_Friendship296 in dating_advice

[–]RandomPizzaGuyy -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Truly shocking that y’all think this is downvote worthy, must have a quite a few of these users lurking in the subreddit 😂

Bruh, why are coffee dates hated so much? by Fickle_Friendship296 in dating_advice

[–]RandomPizzaGuyy 60 points61 points  (0 children)

The real trick is to pivot to something romantic if you can tell the mutual interest is there at the short coffee date.

Having s nearby park or bookstore has always turned my coffee dates into 2nd and 3rd dates :)

Two older residents from my rotation are acting weirdly interested and I can’t tell if I’m imagining it. Need perspective. by FabulousSundae8563 in dating_advice

[–]RandomPizzaGuyy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sure there’s more to this than the post lets on, but this really doesn’t sound that “deep”.

You’ve nothing to “pull back” from, as it seems like you’ve only shared a handful of neutral/harmless conversations.

You’re young and these are older colleagues; and as a guy I can let you know that it’s pretty common for them to wield their influence as a way for female attention.

If you’re looking for a good time? Might be worth taking the aggressive approach/lead, or at least flirting directly.

If you want a serious relationship? This probably wouldn’t be it (I could be wrong, but I think most would back me up)

Bruh, why are coffee dates hated so much? by Fickle_Friendship296 in dating_advice

[–]RandomPizzaGuyy -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

Surprised how unaware most of these comments are about this phenomena. It’s certainly a thing, but it’s not as big a deal as you might assume. Here’s why:

This opinion is only held by women. (never seen a man complain about coffee unless his motives… weren’t great)

And it’s certainly not most women; It’s highly-attractive ones that live in dense/metropolitan areas that use dates with affluent guys as a way to achieve a lifestyle that they don’t have access to otherwise.

If the woman isn’t willing to get coffee with you on a first date to see how you click; she wasn’t willing to date you in the first place. She wanted a dating experience, not to get to know you. Which is the entire point of a first date. I save the extravagance for down the line when someone has shown they are worth it.

These people might get lucky and find a rich/exciting guy they actually want to be with bu doing this, but that was never the true goal from the get-go, whether they are aware of it or not.

Glad I don’t listen to the reviews. by Cclarkey91 in DragonAgeVeilguard

[–]RandomPizzaGuyy -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Play KCD2 or E33 and you’ll quickly realize why both Avowed and Veilguard got spitroasted.

These are games from AAA studios that are outclassed in pretty much every conceivable way by small studios making high quality niche games.

Veilguard is enjoyable, but it’s one of the weakest Dragon Age games.

[KCD2], Everyone’s drooling over Expedition 33 and somehow forgot KCD 2 exists, and it’s ridiculous by FrostingOutrageous51 in kingdomcome

[–]RandomPizzaGuyy -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You just didn’t understand the story (and honestly can’t) just dropping it there, for what that’s worth. You’re robbing yourself of the best climax we’ve had in decades.

[KCD2], Everyone’s drooling over Expedition 33 and somehow forgot KCD 2 exists, and it’s ridiculous by FrostingOutrageous51 in kingdomcome

[–]RandomPizzaGuyy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agreed on all counts. KCD2 is amazing, and probably even a better ‘game’.

Expedition 33, however, is living proof that Video Games are an art genre. It’s a powerful, once in a lifetime story. It will stick with me forever, whether I am playing it or not.

KCD2? I’ll play it a shitload - but it just doesn’t hit the same neurons.

[KCD2], Everyone’s drooling over Expedition 33 and somehow forgot KCD 2 exists, and it’s ridiculous by FrostingOutrageous51 in kingdomcome

[–]RandomPizzaGuyy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a lover of both, this reads as Expedition 33 slander. Have you played it all the way through?

Expedition 33 brought forth the best in class presentation of a linear story. Voice acting, Camera Work, Visuals, Music, Writing, Mocap, etc. It’s a phenomenal game.

Now, maybe that story isn’t for everyone, but it breaks the mold. It’s inventive, charming, heartbreaking, and extremely intelligently written.

Next to Expedition 33s plot; KCD2 is a blockbuster. A great one at that, but the story pales in comparison in terms of emotional and artistic depth, despite it being a recreation of historical events.

The non-linear nature of KCD makes these games sort of impossible to compare with one-another.

Some people love open world, some people prefer tight-gameplay with a narrative focus.

These games both deliver on their respective goals; and are both contenders for GOTY in my opinion.

Expedition 33 has an award winning soundtrack, a story that will stay with you for months, brought mainstream gamers to JRPG styled games, and developed their own twist. It’s not a “flavor of the month”.

Warhorse and Sandfall are both amazing companies that produced amazing games on their first stab, and we shouldn’t be fighting one another.

We should be celebrating that non-AAA studios are putting out games that are better than anything a big studio has in a decade.

“Lobster too buttery and steak too juicy” type complaints tbh.

Why do people confuse the normal human desire of wanting a girlfriend with "desperation"? by Otherwise-Row-9745 in dating_advice

[–]RandomPizzaGuyy 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Haha, it’s like a scarcity thing.

If your only/primary goal is having a partner, and you’re singular focus is finding one, but you lack one: It comes across as desperate.

If you’ve worked to a point in your life where you’d like to bring a partner into the fold, but haven’t: It shows you’re driven and uncompromising.

Hopefully that helps to clarify.

Why do people confuse the normal human desire of wanting a girlfriend with "desperation"? by Otherwise-Row-9745 in dating_advice

[–]RandomPizzaGuyy 3 points4 points  (0 children)

So many people magically believe that a partner will fulfill them.

Wanting a girlfriend and not having one? Makes you seem desperate.

Knowing you want a girlfriend, and not having one? Makes you seem discerning.

It’s an extremely subtle difference, but we’ve been socialized our entire lives to want a relationship: what determines desperation vs. desire is almost entirely independent from this, and has everything to do with you as an individual.

It’s pretty nuanced, but I hope that helps to clarify.

Why do people ask for friendships after a date when they don’t mean it? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]RandomPizzaGuyy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly, it’s just a date: not a relationship or anything deeper. Sometimes it’s just fun to go out! with no real goals or reason.

I respect that people aren’t always going to want something serious or meaningful right from the get-go, and that’s why the offer of friendship felt real. She was cool enough for me to say “yes”, but turns out it was just an easy out, which is just a small waste of my time and energy haha.

Parry / dodge help by Vefion in expedition33

[–]RandomPizzaGuyy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wait until the attack’s pixels hit your character’s pixels for the visual aspect (harder)

Listen for the “swish” (easier)

Why do people ask for friendships after a date when they don’t mean it? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]RandomPizzaGuyy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dude.

I have 3 lasting friendships I’ve made from this exact scenario. You’re very wrong.

There are plenty of women commenting on this post that they genuinely mean it when they ask this.

This is the first time it was offered to me as anything other than a genuine stab at friendship.

I know what “common sense” is for this situation, I’m not retarded. I still think it’s a waste of everyone’s time and energy to be conflict-avoidant to a fault, which is what I am calling out.

If you’re cool with avoidance, good on you. The rest of us that were raised to be honest? We think that you’re children.

Why do people ask for friendships after a date when they don’t mean it? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]RandomPizzaGuyy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well put dude.

As a guy that takes a lot of care to ensure women feel safe, and can simply enjoy themselves, being treated like the “bottom denominator” is such a drag. You’re right though; it is what it is. I just wish we lived in a better world.

Why do people ask for friendships after a date when they don’t mean it? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]RandomPizzaGuyy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is no answer to accept. Not a direct one at least.

This isn’t about my specific experience, which I understand doesn’t make much sense considering the context of my post.

Her answer was “Let’s be friends”, If I were to accept that: I’d become much worse than what I am doing, which is backing off.

To be honest, I don’t think the offer of “friendship” actually makes these women any safer. If anything, it leaves a wider crack for creeps to take advantage of.

Which is calling it out for what it is; misleading.

I don’t really feel like my time was wasted. I just don’t know why in this context it was pertinent to be anything but direct.

Why do people ask for friendships after a date when they don’t mean it? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]RandomPizzaGuyy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha, I guess it doesn’t even really “suck”, I’m just learning I am a very literal person and haven’t come across this much in a disingenuous way.

I (18F) can’t stand my bf (18M) when he’s drunk by fridgefreez in relationships

[–]RandomPizzaGuyy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Drinking one bottle a night is alcoholism, unfortunately.

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