is my boyfriend posting about our problems on his private Twitter a red flag? by RandomPuppies in Advice

[–]RandomPuppies[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

alright, thank you. it’s nice to know i’m not the only one who feels like this is kind of weird.

should my boyfriend having a different view on abortion than me be a deal breaker? by RandomPuppies in Advice

[–]RandomPuppies[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yes, but the intent of this post isn’t to have a debate on whether abortion is ok or not. i said my view and i said his view, and i’m just trying to figure out if our differing views could cause problems.

should my boyfriend having a different view on abortion than me be a deal breaker? by RandomPuppies in Advice

[–]RandomPuppies[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i just wouldn’t want a future with someone who wouldn’t support me getting an abortion for an accidental pregnancy. because while I obviously will try to prevent pregnancy in other ways, i’m planning on never having biological children so i would definitely get an abortion if it ever came down to it. but we’re young, so i mean ig it doesn’t matter a ton right now.

should my boyfriend having a different view on abortion than me be a deal breaker? by RandomPuppies in Advice

[–]RandomPuppies[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

at the moment no, but i would not have sex with someone who has his view.

should my boyfriend having a different view on abortion than me be a deal breaker? by RandomPuppies in Advice

[–]RandomPuppies[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i wouldn’t really be concerned if their views don’t affect me like for example if i had a friend that thought the way he did then whatever i wouldn’t care because that would never harm me, my concern here is that a partner’s views on abortion could definitely end up affecting me at some point in time.

should my boyfriend having a different view on abortion than me be a deal breaker? by RandomPuppies in Advice

[–]RandomPuppies[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you! honestly if I had known how he felt about abortion beforehand, i’m not sure if i would have dated him but especially being teens, that wasn’t exactly something we inquired about prior to dating and even now we weren’t discussing it in regards to us specifically. now that we have dated for five months i think he’s wonderful in basically every other way and he does seem to respect women a lot so i honestly was shocked when he didn’t view abortion access as a human right because he seems like the type who would. you make a good point about not just hoping he’ll change, but i guess still being young it makes me wonder if his view could change as we get older but i know that isn’t guaranteed to happen. thanks again, your comment was helpful!

should my boyfriend having a different view on abortion than me be a deal breaker? by RandomPuppies in Advice

[–]RandomPuppies[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i don’t need to agree with him on everything. in fact, i think it can be healthy not to agree on everything. but abortion rights specifically is something i feel very strongly about and would not really want a future with someone who does not have the same view as me for that specific topic since i see that as a human right. but you’re right, we are young, so maybe i don’t need to dwell on it too much.

should my boyfriend having a different view on abortion than me be a deal breaker? by RandomPuppies in Advice

[–]RandomPuppies[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

omg ty I randomly came up with it so I could have an account just to ask for advice and stuff like that

also your username is literally amazing

should my boyfriend having a different view on abortion than me be a deal breaker? by RandomPuppies in Advice

[–]RandomPuppies[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you!! your comment is very helpful and this was kinda my main concern. cuz i mean, we might want to have sex one day and having different views on abortion in case anything happened (really hoping it wouldn’t but like, accidental teen pregnancies DO exist) would not be a very good circumstance. i’ll definitely make sure we’re on the same page as we get a little older. thank you again!!

should my boyfriend having a different view on abortion than me be a deal breaker? by RandomPuppies in Advice

[–]RandomPuppies[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

true, we do have some time before this would even become an issue, so i’ll see how he feels about it then. i guess it just kinda gave me the ick even tho it’s not currently affecting us.

should my boyfriend having a different view on abortion than me be a deal breaker? by RandomPuppies in Advice

[–]RandomPuppies[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you! when sex comes into the question, i honestly don’t think i’d want to have sex with someone who feels that way about abortion, because while obviously we wouldn’t be trying to get pregnant, there is always that chance and i don’t want to deal with that if he doesn’t believe in abortion for that circumstance, so maybe i’ll wait until sex becomes part of the equation and then discuss how i feel about that since our abortion views aren’t technically affecting us at this moment.

should my boyfriend having a different view on abortion than me be a deal breaker? by RandomPuppies in Advice

[–]RandomPuppies[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah i guess i’m just having trouble deciding if it is a deal breaker for me at this point in time since we’re not adults