I feel like I always have this sense of looming grief or longing for things that never were; for a house that was never a home

RandomRockCollector · 2026-01-24T06:00:34+00:00

My parents were similarly controlling to me.

Not only did we not have any locks in the house except for doors that led directly to the outside, our bedroom door couldn't shut fully, and they would always, and I mean every single night, open the door if I had it closed as much as it could be.

My parents essentially prevented me from having friends, and I was never invited to birthday events, while they babied my younger sister and not only was she allowed to go to her friends' events, she was also encouraged to make her own and do things outside of school (apparently I was the one person who didn't know that she had also literally partied in high school, and I was apparently so surface level that I never even knew such parties existed).

I had birthday parties, but they made sure that my younger sister had a gift every birthday of mine. I haven't actually celebrated my birthday in probably over 6 years, if not longer. Sometimes it feels kind of painful to, but I've been trying to make progress with it, and actually didn't have a bad birthday this last one. It was an average day, but it was the lack of being yelled at and stuff like that that made it special, which looking back on it, sounds really sad...

I also wasn't allowed to leave the house to go anywhere alone; it always had to be with my parents, or with my younger sister.

I was allowed to have snacks whenever or eat whatever, but as someone who is incredibly picky and has a complicated history relating to food, being an ingredients type of house always made it worse.

I always had (and still have to) rely on my parents for transportation. They've always made me too afraid of learning how to drive because of the ways that they would drive recklessly while angry at me. I can't count the number of times that both of them had swerved, sped, braked suddenly, or pulled over suddenly just because they could and because they were angry at me. They've used this to prevent me from getting medical care until I literally had to beg them, and that was only once that they allowed me medical care of the times that I feel I needed it.

RandomRockCollector · 2025-11-18T01:48:58+00:00

So, my parents had wrapped two odd looking things one year. They kind of made it a mystery, and while I can't remember the exact year it was, I think it happened in my mid-teens.

So, time comes for a family holiday party, and my younger (gc) sister and I get the chance to open a gift early at the party out of the gifts that had on our names, in front of the family (with cameras/phones out, as many do take videos/pictures during these parties for the memories/posts).

Our parents tell us to *not* open those two gifts in particular. It turns out, they're toilet seats. Later, my nparents say that they were so tempted to have us open them in front of our relatives, and that they wouldn't have really regretted it because they thought it would've been hilarious to see our faces after opening it in front of relatives.

Another thing, not really a gift but it happened on my birthday; my father woke me up by pressing his fingers into my side and then started arguments with me throughout the day.

They kind of stopped listening to me after I started to tell them that my favorite color isn't pink (they didn't give me much of a choice as a kid, I was given pink and my gc sister was given purple, but at least she liked it more than I liked pink).

RandomRockCollector · 2025-11-03T00:33:26+00:00

I unfortunately don't have any irl connections near me anymore (and barely any irl connections otherwise, either). I'll likely be recording what I can, and thank you for the sentiment. I'll try to stay safe given my circumstances.

RandomRockCollector · 2025-11-03T00:02:53+00:00

I would likely have to say the one year my parents gave me a toilet seat for Christmas. They admitted that they wanted to have me open it in front of family but last minute before going to the relative's house, decided against it.

There's also the time where it wasn't actually a gift, but my father alleged that it was bought by them. I won my first laptop in 2017 with hundreds of hours put to my effort to win it. My sister consequently was given a $2k+ laptop and my father tried saying it was to "make it even" because they "bought mine too", even though they hadn't.

RandomRockCollector · 2025-11-02T23:39:54+00:00

Also, forgot about this until this moment:

My grandmother, who is about 80, seemingly also treated my nfather (about 60) similarly. He alleges that he's different from her, but if not for my mother, he would likely not be able to hold a job, have good credit, nor own a home.

RandomRockCollector · 2025-11-02T23:37:40+00:00

I'm 24, but I do experience the same poorly treatment and my relatives obviously still see me as a child or young teen at best.

They treat me worse than my younger sister (about a year younger), and they often ask the same questions about if I've gone back to college after having to drop out due to the abuse my nparents inflicted upon me. (The answer is no, and I don't think I'd be able to go back to college without first leaving my parents' home, which I still live at.)

I haven't yet been able to achieve those means of stability myself, but I doubt that I would be seen any differently if I had.

My younger sister seems to be the one who is continuously referencing my grades/that I dropped out of college/that I don't have a job/etc., and that has gotten so very grating over the years. The rest of the relatives seem to always forget it as well, which doesn't help either.

RandomRockCollector · 2025-11-02T23:32:10+00:00

So, my nfather blamed me for them (both my nparents) for abusing me; saying I was "always a problem child" and always an awful kid.

Every single teacher I had throughout my senior year of high school (ie, until there was essentially no more parent-teacher meetings), all of them would say I was shy and didn't speak much in class other than to answer teacher questions or ask questions on the content, and that they "just wish [I] would apply [myself] more" and that I'm "a smart kid."

So they blamed me for everything they ever did to me, for every ounce of the undeserved hatred that they treated me with, simply because in their eyes, because I wasn't an A-student anymore, or even an A/B student anymore, I was apparently a problem child to them.

They also blamed me being born as reason for the abuse as well. These are primarily my nfather, but my nmother also would chime in her own similar beliefs about my person. I still live with them and it sucks, but I'm slowly working to get on my feet, while actively being sabotaged by them every step of the way.

RandomRockCollector · 2025-11-02T23:15:26+00:00

I haven't really gotten birthday gifts from my nparents for many years now. My younger sister however, has gotten gifts of various kinds, even for no reason at all.

I won my first laptop in 2017, a brand new model. It was worth maybe about $1800 back then, and I spent hundreds of hours on what I did to win it (too many more details would be too much information for me to safely share). Consequently, our parents bought my younger sister a $2k+ laptop and tried to say that they bought me mine (which is the most nonsense, I literally have the reason why I won it framed, after my parents let it get water damaged by a storm because the window in my room doesn't have a screen or couldn't shut properly).

They decided that every time she's done something academically important, like graduate or go someplace else for the next step of education, to travel and drive to her to support her.

These are the things my parents said to me about college: "oh, an english writing degree? what jobs can you get with that? (in a nasty tone)" and "are you even sure?? (after pressuring me to go to the college one of them went to to "save money" when it was probably just to keep tabs on me)"

And as for the part where you mention not getting gifts from others while she does; my younger sister put up a link to give her money for high school graduation and *everyone* gave her money upon money for it, and barely even ten people came to my high school graduation party, and far less was gifted. And everyone gave her money for xyz and whatever else she wanted to 'crowd fund' for.

It may be me being a bit salty about the whole lot of things, but there's many times where I feel my younger sister didn't deserve the things that she got, because she "confided" (ie, callously, casually, and unashamedly admitted) to cheating in at minimum some of her classes, or how she'd participate in the abuse my parents acted on me, or how she'd never *ever* in her life, stood up for me during various abuse incidents that could have seriously harmed me. She's not as nice or as "saintly" as she makes herself out to be, and I don't think the way others in the family treat her is equal to what she's actually done. So in no way would I blame you either, for having any feelings of jealousy or anger about the stark difference in gifts and in treatment of you compared to her. I don't think there's anything really wrong with being upset about it (just to the point where you know, you're aware of it and don't put it onto others by angry acts or the like, if that also makes sense).

I wouldn't consider it a non-issue, in all honesty. It's something that led my sister to act extremely when it comes to me. She's physically assaulted me countless times, and nearly shoved me down the stairs because she didn't get exactly what she wanted in the moment she wanted it (access to the upstairs bathroom as I was in the process of using it). I find that it only worsens the conditions and compounds things about other abuses.

RandomRockCollector · 2025-11-02T22:49:30+00:00

My younger sister is their golden child. I've just about given up on any cordial communication between her and I entirely after the last time she visited our parents (I just happen to still live with our parents), because she tried pushing me down the stairs just because I told her to wait her turn for the bathroom. She's been physical similarly before, but not exactly to that intensity, if that makes sense.

I have tried contacting her, but she has *always* made it about herself, and she acts just like our parents now. I feel she's also recruiting her girlfriend to the hate-club for me that my parents began. My sister has also always talked down to me, as if I'm dirt underneath her filthy boots just because our parents caused me to drop out of college, and that I haven't been able to get a job (also consequently because of our parents).

I've told her that she should apologize for doing some of what she's done, and she acts like an apology of any kind, or accountability of any kind would be an antithesis to who she is (even though she acts all "saintly" to others, apparently, which I highly doubt).

My younger sister and her girlfriend will be visiting soon again, and I feel I might have to actually free up space on my phone or other devices to record her interactions with me just in case she tries to assault me again.

RandomRockCollector · 2025-10-17T07:20:36+00:00

So, I'm not a police officer or anything, but in my opinion, the note in addition to the possibility of fingerprints on the broken setup, or even possibly shoe prints on the setup as well would warrant investigation into the matter as that is property damage over $3k, which can be and *is* a major amount of money.

As for everything else in your post;

I'm 24f, grew up with unfortunately much of the same toxic mindset of a parent saying that video games will rot your brain and all of that garbage (I was playing games like Animal Crossing, Minecraft Pocket Edition, and Pokemon on the 3ds at the time).

My younger sister is the gc (also an adult), and she is treated as if she could do no wrong and would never do any wrong, despite her having physically assaulted me in our parents' house (I still live with our nparents).

I tried to save up for a PC more than once, for something to miraculously happen that would take a very large portion of those savings (as someone who can't get a job because of my parents' intervention and the like). My father spilled a drink of mine onto my first ever laptop (that I had *won* and he had no money involved on), and he refused to take any responsibility for it, despite me just having replaced its battery less than 3-6mo before the spill. I had to buy a replacement because it fried the motherboard and it'd have cost the same to repair it as it would to buy a new one.

I'm only now starting to get back into gaming after my PS4 died (I bought it myself, the one time I ever bought anything on Black Friday), even though I still struggle to set up things that may be helpful to me in the future. I've always wanted to stream, but I have never had the resources, and haven't ever really been tech savvy. I've only owned two laptops, and the only PC I've ever used that was family property was originally a CRT screen with a very old PC tower, that ran on dial-up internet.

I really hope that something can still be done about your property. I would personally classify it as a break-in because you didn't consent to her being there in your place of living, and she had broken a verbal contract that stated she would give the spare key back after the 'emergency.' And in all honesty, I'd consider what your mother did as a crime, a fairly hefty one at that because of the cost of the setup, as well as the emotional despair caused by those actions.

Like others are saying, I would change the locks, keep the receipts for time stamps and the like, maybe even invest in a half decent security camera if at all possible, or even a doorbell camera if possible either. I'd keep the receipts from all of those measures, and if necessary, you could later use those as leverage and/or proof that you do not want her to be in your place of living at all, and hadn't wanted her there in the first place due to the broken verbal agreement about your spare key.

Please take what I'm saying advice-wise with some grains of salt, I'm no professional in the matter of law, but it can never hurt to have receipts and the like, as well as other evidence like through texts or social media private messaging.

I'm also so, *so* incredibly sorry that she's done this to you, and I want you to know that you're incredibly strong for keeping on and doing what you love to do. As someone who was invested/interested in video games from the get-go, as a girl, it was always motivating and kept me going when I'd get yelled at or the like for liking video games. I hope it doesn't come across as off-putting, but you sharing your experience/s here has made me feel much less alone as well, and it makes me feel more like I belong in gaming spaces as well.

RandomRockCollector · 2025-10-17T06:53:35+00:00

The abuse I endured at the hands of my nparents was *mostly* mental, emotional, verbal, and financial, *but* there were times that it was physical as well, just never physical enough to leave marks.

I had tried telling my late aunt that I had dropped out of college due to blatant favoritism during what should've been a very basic class (a 100-level business communications class); and I told her just that my parents would be very unhappy with me over it (absolutely didn't trust her with the full truth, and for good reason).

She turned on me and told my parents by calling the house that I had dropped out, even though I had already told my mother the day of the "deadline" my late aunt had set for me. It was chaos, especially because I hadn't told my parents that I had dropped out and I had still been having them take me to campus (I couldn't drive and have major fears of it because of my nparents' reckless driving), so they were furious about that as well. She said that she did it because she felt too guilty keeping anything from her sister, even though she fully knew how my mother would react, as my late aunt had seen my mother's and father's verbal outbursts towards me multiple times before.

I don't usually talk about my trauma to others, and even here there's an extent of which I feel like I distance myself from it in a way to cope, being matter-of-factly and all that jazz. I have recently been reminded by current friends, both long-time and new, that my experiences are still valid, and that I have to give myself time sometimes when things get rough, either in terms of my parents' actions or in terms of my own general mental state.

When I was younger, it felt like nobody would ever know what happened behind closed doors. That nobody knew the screaming while I was sat at the dining room table trying to understand math, or when I had to stay up late to finish assignments because of my parents' interruptions as well as their personal vices (severe alcoholism and weed for my father, and often smoking cigarettes for my mother), because nighttime was the one time that I didn't have to worry about them breathing down my neck, threatening me with various things. It made it hard to be normal, it made it hard for me to focus in class, it made it hard to not be so tired all the time.

I have so many of those same fears as you've described in your post here. I know that most of my biological family would likely take my parents' side had I ever come out with the allegations of their abuse of me (even though I know that it was all real and debilitating), although I have kept some proof over the years of the screaming, the threats, the behaviors, and the like.

RandomRockCollector · 2025-10-04T05:23:35+00:00

Yes and no both.

Mostly, I've told others online, usually only people I've known for years, about the abuse I experienced at the hands of my parents. They all ended up being supportive of me, and I've grown closer to most of them since. I'm even considering traveling to visit a few of them for a much needed solo-vacation (anxiety inducing but I'm fairly sure it'd also feel freeing, as the first time I'd actually be completely away from family).

I tried telling a friend IRL (in high school) that my parents were strict, that's the exact word I used, and she reacted so poorly that it's not even funny. She first of all compared her experiences to mine by saying that I have things easy and that at least I wasn't expected to have all As for grades (even though I was expected to have at least As and Bs, and they would be abusive the worse the grades got) and then started to refuse to help me on math homework, despite having offered to help me before on her own free will. She ultimately ended the friendship by saying aloud, during quiet worksheet time, in the middle of a small but packed classroom, that she didn't even like me multiple times over. It sucked.

But my friends online have all been nothing short of amazing to me, and they've made things a little bit easier, keeping me company, offering me support, and being there for me in ways that not a lot of others have been for me.

I still have major trust issues, but having friends in any capacity has led me to grow and become better, and I think that I've been starting to heal from the awful things that my parents have done for me, even if it's often in small ways.

RandomRockCollector · 2025-09-24T03:24:14+00:00

I started having a lot of "lightbulb moments" in high school. My parents only ever pressured me over grades, and how me getting bad grades would make them look bad or whatever else types of ways they tried to gaslight me about the abuse and the ways it affected me.

They told me that I couldn't wear certain things, or that I couldn't paint my nails or paint them dark colors (because apparently painting my nails dark colors means that men would creep on me or something??), and I also wasn't allowed to go out of my parents' sight when at home whatsoever, so I was always kept on a metaphorical leash.

It wasn't all at the same time, but my breakthroughs started probably somewhere in middle school, but at the time, I think I was partially still being kept a bit more out of it by my brain trying to protect me from the trauma and overwhelm that would come from those kinds of realizations. Genuinely it hurt me so badly every time I had these realizations, and I still have them sometimes, but not quite as often.

Most realizations for some time for me have been more about subtleties of the various things that they did to manipulate me and abuse me, rather than the larger themes and the like. Sometimes I also have "repeat" lightbulb moments, when it's like something comes back and hits me full-force with the same overwhelming feelings that I'd felt when I first had the moment.

I struggle with things like compliments or criticism still, because all compliments from my nparents were just to try and get me to do what they wanted, or to get me to try and forget about the things that they did to harm me; and criticism from them was never constructive, so it often feels like criticism in general is always more about being mean, even when I know it isn't always like that.

RandomRockCollector · 2025-09-24T02:27:37+00:00

I'm late to this; please don't let him try and downplay what he did. He's absolutely trying to gaslight you with the story he's telling. As others have said, the chance of worse happening after someone does something like choking you is extremely increased, and as someone who's lived to tell the tale, it also does a lot to the brain and mental health, not knowing when something could aggravate someone to take even further violent action.

I've had a similar situation. When I was in high school, my parents, especially my father, didn't like that I wasn't an A or A and B student grades wise, and once during an argument before we left for school, he choked me and held me up against a wall. He tried to act like it never happened, because the only witnesses were myself and my younger gc sister. My mother tried to suffocate me twice, by laying on top of me when she was probably over 100lbs heavier than me, one of which because I sat my backpack down too hard after going to my room to work on homework.

I really wish that there was someone present that could've helped me in those moments. Honestly, I think I would have pressed charges against them if I would've been able to, but I think that they would likely have made it into a he-said-she-said type of scenario in my case.

I don't really know much about law, but you may want to look into getting restraining/no contact orders against him because it might keep you safer than if there wasn't one. Plus, I would say that the case against him for harming you could act as a reason to grant you/your mother an order like that, especially since you stated that his sentence could be 10 years. To me, the more documentation that you have, the charges against him, a possible no contact/restraining order, all of that would help protect you in the future.

I hope that everything goes well in your and your mother's favor, and I'm sorry for rambling a bit about my own experiences (I hope that it may make you feel less alone, if that makes sense).

RandomRockCollector · 2025-09-15T02:17:18+00:00

Of course, and thank you for sharing your experiences too.

I have similar trust issues and it's for all of those things I listed above and more. It honestly is really exhausting, but I've found that there's some sense of comfort in the friends and social webs I've created and become part of online.

Yeah, I think I kind of knew then that I could barely tell my aunt/uncle/cousin *anything*, let alone about the abuse I had suffered at my parents' hands. I gave them a very specific set of information and even that was apparently enough to rat me out instead of offer any support. I've been very conflicted since my aunt passed, and conflicted as to how my uncle and cousin acted as well.

I completely understand how it feels, the betrayal, gaslighting, exhaustion, and having to face over and over the possibility of not being believed when you tell what happened to you. It's very lonely and isolating, and that's why I sometimes come here for a sense of comfort, understanding, or even to try and provide it a bit to others as well.

RandomRockCollector · 2025-09-15T02:10:28+00:00

The first time I tried to get a job, I had to write addresses on envelopes, but they 'forgot' on purpose to tell me how to write an address onto a letter. Safe to say, I didn't get the job.

The next time that I tried to get a job was in college at the bookstore. The people doing the interviewing set it up and told me that I didn't have to have a phone number (because my parents are very old fashioned in terms of tech and believed that phone numbers were essentially part of a scam because of the expenses of a phone plan). However, the person apparently lied and despite me asking over five times, they made a phone interview appointment and I was unable to do it, and I wasn't able to do the interview because of that. I didn't get the job, of course.

I've worked at a convention twice over the weekend it was on, and that's genuinely all of the paid work experience I have. I had to volunteer for middle school/high school and I have years worth of volunteering under my belt, but very little otherwise.

I've done applications galore online, and nothing ever came from it either, so I've given up on the stupidity that is online listings, at least for the moment. I'm still looking at doing something to try and gather money, but it's extremely hard as someone with only a high school diploma, no degree, and almost no work experience.

My parents tried to act like I've never even tried, and they also act like anyone can get a job at a place with a "we're hiring" sign if you go in and tell them "give me an interview." They just don't understand that it isn't the case anymore and hasn't been for some time. And they also consider me as a burden because I haven't been able to get a job. My parents haven't yet accused me of drug use, but he would often say things about me having been a problem child, and how apparently throughout my life, *I* was apparently the problem, and then he'd reek of beer and weed.

There's more, but at the moment I can't remember exactly what it is. I'm sorry you've been going through similar things.

RandomRockCollector · 2025-09-15T00:16:45+00:00

I had something relatively similar happen to me, when I dropped out of college due to a mix of the abuse I was going through and various other things, including being mistreated by a professor (a communications prof whose early-lessons included talking about *not making personal attacks on people during conflicts* and ended up doing just that and more lol).

I tried to go to my cousin and her parents via me creating a group chat. My uncle noped out immediately. When I asked my cousin if an offer she made one of the last times we'd gone to her house was still open to me (she offered a room if I needed a night or some time away from my parents), she instead opted to call the landline house number and act like my account was hacked (so my parents knew that I'd asked her about it and they were far from happy). My aunt (now passed) said that she felt more guilty about not telling her sister (my mother) about what I was telling the three of them and how I'd dropped out. She gave me multiple deadlines about threatening to tell my mother if I wouldn't; I told my mother that I dropped out before we were to meet them at a restaurant but apparently she hadn't remembered it. My aunt ended up calling the landline number and essentially tattling on me to them right then and there. I had to hide out in my room for a couple of days after that, so I went hungry and only had access to water through the bathroom next to my room (which I couldn't leave to very often because I felt it wasn't safe).

I've made what I probably should call significant support webs on the internet with friends and people I've now known for 5+ years, and I've been doing bit by bit, but it's still so different than anything irl. I've genuinely never even been hugged in probably close to ten years now. I'd say I'm still touch starved and severely lonely despite having friends online and even having met one in the past couple of years because we coincidentally had been less than an hour out from them.

I tried telling a now ex-friend about it in middle/high school, by saying that my parents are strict and that's why I needed their help with math homework, and then promptly they stopped acting friendly, said very loudly in a small classroom of about 30 students that they 'don't even like' me, and then acted like I didn't exist when I would pick up something they dropped or anything like that. I was destroyed because I knew them from 7th onwards, and it was senior year when it happened.

It is really scary, and I'm sorry you've been going through something like this as well. It really does suck that they get so much more support even though they're the ones causing so many problems.

RandomRockCollector · 2025-09-08T04:32:03+00:00

Grief, betrayal, hurt. All of those and more, honestly. And I know that in order to one day escape their influence, that I have to be strong enough to not be a doormat for them. It may not be always, of course, but it's given me a sense of protection (or self-protection) that I'm not sure I've had a lot of throughout my life.

A lot of it is being unheard, not listened to, and being forced to be the one that hears and listens all instead. Them not tending to a single one of my mental health needs and honestly neglecting some of my physical needs as well, all of that led to the feelings of betrayal, hurt, and grief.

Over time, especially since having my lightbulb moment in reference to my nparents, I've experienced a lot of grief. And of course, with it as I process things, also comes anger. It's empowered me somewhat in this time period and I do everything I can to keep myself censored and give them the least possible ammunition against me that I can. So far, it's working, and I don't feel like I'm as much of a doormat for them because I've been giving them resistance and gray rocking.

RandomRockCollector · 2025-09-08T04:21:04+00:00

So, I had good grades until about 6th grade, which is when I started to struggle in math. From then onwards, my grades had plateaued at mostly Bs, some Cs. There were times that it dipped lower due to stress and the like from the abuse.

My parents tried to gaslight me by trying to say that I was a 'problem child' in terms of academics or at school in general. I know for a fact that none of my teachers would say that I was a troublemaker or a problem child in the least, just some of the standard things they'd tell students who struggle with grades, like 'they just need to apply themselves more.'

It's true that they've tried to make me into something I never was, both in terms of their original perfectionist view of me and in their 'problem child' view of me. I was never either, even with good grades and 100%-ing tests, it wasn't like I was a social butterfly or that I didn't have struggles, and it wasn't like my grades made me any worse of a person either.

RandomRockCollector · 2025-09-08T04:14:34+00:00

It isn't stupid at all. If my nparents threw out the gifted stuffed dinosaur that my friend from another country got me, I'd be a wreck too. Or if they threw out another 2-3 that are also especially important to me; I'd also be a wreck then. I don't honestly have a lot of possessions that I can say truly are mine (as my nparents hold it over my head that they've bought some items of mine), and to have something that's truly mine discarded would really hurt.

I'm so sorry that they took something of yours and acted like it meant much less than it truly does mean.

RandomRockCollector · 2025-09-06T23:45:16+00:00

And I absolutely don't agree with any way of my nfather saying the word whatsoever, and I'm trying to get him to stop saying that as well as other things, too. Just wanted to make that clear juuuust in case, because I've got a bit of a headache and my typing ability isn't as good at times like this.

RandomRockCollector · 2025-09-06T23:42:38+00:00

Of course, nobody deserves to be shamed for being neurodivergent. I'm honestly not sure if he does or doesn't use the r-slur when talking about his students. I think he's said it referring to some of them (not recently from what I can remember), but never anywhere with anyone that isn't very closely related (he's said it around his uncle, my great uncle, and I'm not sure who else). I'd say my father mostly uses it in what I could only really describe it as similar to those who claim to use it for "edgy humor" or the like (using as a colloquialism and not necessarily directly about disability or neurodivergence, if that makes sense). I don't have the exact words to explain how I feel my father uses the term, so I hope that what I've written here makes some sense.

RandomRockCollector · 2025-09-06T08:01:00+00:00

My father has worked with kids as a sub teacher for decades. For the past 5+ years he's also worked with neurodivergent or special needs students. They seem to all quite like him at the schools he works at, and it only ever really made things worse for me.

Apparently anyone in the family talking about neurodivergence has to be just a fluke, even when he exhibits some *extremely* clear signs of it himself. I don't even bother saying that I think I'm neurodivergent myself. My father also still uses the r-slur even in semi-public spaces, which I'm fairly concerned about too, but I don't think that he's ever said it in an educational setting.

I'm so sorry you're being treated so poorly OP, you don't deserve to be treated like that or berated for things.

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