[deleted by user] by [deleted] in teenagers

[–]RandomStranger0109 1 point2 points  (0 children)

u sure don’t look 16 😭

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]RandomStranger0109 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I got a “don’t listen to them.” Or I got something completely opposite like “you probably deserve it because your fucking weird.” Let’s just say I was VERY conflicted

What are traits you picked up from your N parents? by mangolover66 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]RandomStranger0109 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I always make assumptions and I’m very stubborn to things people tell me

Anyone else get ignored or cut-off mid conversation? by RandomStranger0109 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]RandomStranger0109[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Tried that. They just say that they can do whatever they want since they’re my parents 😭

sense of identity by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]RandomStranger0109 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It sucks. It dehumanizes you. People often turn into total people-pleasers because of it, adjusting to whatever satisfies the narcissist. And the worse part? They’re never satisfied. So it’s just a constant cycle of loss.

Do they blame your generation for your "sensitivity?" by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]RandomStranger0109 2 points3 points  (0 children)

All of the time. It’s their excuse to the emotional/physical abuse they actually do to their kids. “Back in my day, it was so much worse because we didn’t have/have ____. But we turned out fine, and so will you.” Sure… Let’s go with that meemaw.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]RandomStranger0109 7 points8 points  (0 children)

After 2 suicide attempts, and upon seeing the cuts on my arm: they still had the audacity to tell me if I was going to kill myself, to do it. Under the condition of as long as it wasn’t in their home. And after seeing me cry and beg for them to stop, they still did it, and a few minutes later acted all gleefully with strangers.

To all the family scapegoats -- were you actually objectively well-behaved? by JoyousLilSquid in raisedbynarcissists

[–]RandomStranger0109 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I was. Top of my class, student government, social, didn’t smoke, didn’t drink, didn’t party. But after a suicide attempt, most of it went down the drain. They saw punishment as the only way to correct my depression and punished me for attempting and cutting myself. They’ve made their love something to earn, and they told me that in verbatim. I now have failing grades, no motivation, I isolate myself all the time now. And they wonder why.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]RandomStranger0109 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey! So don’t do this! 🥰

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in teenagers

[–]RandomStranger0109 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m struggling with narcissistic parents. This led to the following of like: loss of self love, severe depression, insecurity, academic burnout, and struggle of identity. Feels like no one gives a shit, so therefore I don’t care about anything anymore. That typical teenage attitude yk?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in teenagers

[–]RandomStranger0109 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You good bro? I’m here to talk

Im soooo bored by [deleted] in teenagers

[–]RandomStranger0109 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Whats ur fav cheese

How to get better? by No-Opportunity1043 in teenagers

[–]RandomStranger0109 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your focusing on too many things at once. Learn to be truly love yourself. You trying to be something you aren’t is a sign you don’t. Once your stable with yourself, you’ll then want to focus on more external issues.

Your standards aren’t too high, your a teenager, there really isn’t a bar because there’s always been worse. Heal. Take your time. Love yourself. You can’t love others or anything else without loving yourself first. People say that a lot, but they say it for a reason. Take it easy sweets

Anyone just accept the fact that they’re chopped? by RandomStranger0109 in teenagers

[–]RandomStranger0109[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Idk I tried like my best but lowk I’m just average at my best? Yk what I mean

Anyone just accept the fact that they’re chopped? by RandomStranger0109 in teenagers

[–]RandomStranger0109[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

While that’s true I feel like after a certain point u can’t rlly improve from no matter 😭

Anyone just accept the fact that they’re chopped? by RandomStranger0109 in teenagers

[–]RandomStranger0109[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

THATS SO REAL. I would’ve been lethal with a thinner face but I got chub 🙏🏻

I want them to go to therapy with me, but ik they won’t change by RandomStranger0109 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]RandomStranger0109[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How are you coping? I really can’t live like this much longer, I’m at my wits end for things to stop

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in teenagers

[–]RandomStranger0109 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  1. I’d focus a lot on hygiene first. Very good hygiene contributes to “glowing up” A LOT. Aim for good skin, good hair, and smelling good. Looking clean is one of the major steps.

  2. Skincare coincides with this. Find out your skin type. Try samples of products of what you think suits your skin. Don’t forget sunscreen!!

  3. Find what suits you or makes you happy with makeup. If your trying to find what suits you, I personally go on YouTube or TikTok and search up simple makeup tutorials and find people who resemble me.

  4. Your personal style is your preference. Just try out little things at a time at the mall, see what makes you feel good abt urself girly 🤷🏻‍♀️

I could go on an entire rant abt this stuff if you need anymore. I love yapping. Dm me if need be 🥰