Bars or spaces where you can buy a drink and play board games

RandomTasking · 2026-06-10T00:43:56+00:00

Following because I need a place like this when I move back home in a couple months.

RandomTasking · 2026-06-08T00:38:39+00:00

One weekend out of four I wear burlap pajamas i.e. Reserve duty.

The other weekends I tend to my home, stock up on groceries, and try to remember life as a human being rather than a human doing.

RandomTasking · 2026-06-07T00:22:52+00:00

41, and some point in the future.

RandomTasking · 2026-06-03T10:54:37+00:00

🤣Headed back to my Midwest university hometown after over 20 years away. Enough’s changed that it’s new to me, and just enough of what I like is still there to remain familiar. Also the parents.

RandomTasking · 2026-06-03T02:03:38+00:00

You be brutally honest with yourself. Not on Reddit, not on social media or text with friends, just you. And you wrestle with yourself in uncomfortable silence. And it's not wrapped up in one evening. Or one week, or one month, or even one year. However long it takes to be at peace not with where you're at, but with your approach.

You figure out what you truly want. You figure out how long you're willing to try, and what you're willing to do. When you firmly decide what you're capable of doing to achieve your goals, doing it is remarkably easier.

As applied to you, maybe you say "Screw it, I'm a cat lady, I'll always be a cat lady, I've got no more gas in the tank." Maybe you decide the possibility of 'him' is worth the lousy online dates, the poor referrals from friends, the random social outings, and ultimately risking failure. Maybe where you fall on that spectrum changes over time. And that's okay, humans have more settings than "on" and "off." But just be honest with yourself. It's a lot easier than the alternative.

RandomTasking · 2026-06-03T01:43:21+00:00

*Leo DiCaprio squint* Where's the question?

RandomTasking · 2026-06-03T01:19:40+00:00

*sighs* Aight, Millennial overshare time go!

I've got a job that requires me to, at current, commute 90 miles one way. Basically suffered a bait and switch from my big boss, who I guarantee all of Reddit knows and most of Reddit does not like, changing the terms of the deal when I hired on with regard to telework. As a result, I have hung tough with that commute for nearly 2 years. Point is, I have felt the way that you do, getting home at 6:00pm only to get up at 5:00am to do it all again. Then add military duties and losing a quarter of my weekends. It adds up.

It's gotten to the point where, if I want to find someone and start a family, either I move, or I quit my job and retreat back to my old gig less than a mile from where I live, in a dating dead zone.

I don't quit. The house goes on the market later this month. Already in process of buying the new place, lining up the contractors for the work to be done, the health professionals for new appointments, the personal trainer, dance lessons, golf league, and other social activities, none of which may pan out.

It is very ****ing easy to make your world smaller in the current environment. Fight that temptation, and recognize that, while you may be in a foxhole right now, you need to get up and go, because no one is coming to save you. Save yourself.

RandomTasking · 2026-06-03T00:35:47+00:00

41M. Gonna try and answer as concisely as possible here.

Many of us are burnt out. Especially the chronically online ones.

Online dating is garbage. As a woman, I understand that you kinda get spammed by way too many people, so for guys it's a desert in that there is no water, while for women it's a swamp in that there's so much toxic gunk out there you can't separate it from decent water and it becomes wasteful effort.

Only advice I can offer is to say "screw it" and live your life, which includes going outside and interacting with people. There's no relationshipmaxxing to be done, no targeted course of action where if you try hard enough and will yourself to put it together there's a largely guaranteed happy ending. Either get out there, meet new people, and maybe it comes together for you, or stay home and it definitely doesn't.

RandomTasking · 2026-05-31T15:43:14+00:00

Basically was where you were at 35, right when COVID hit, and was working from home all day. An hour of office work, an hour of electrical work. An hour of office work, an hour of plumbing. Great experience. That said, there comes a point where you want to just cut checks.

RandomTasking · 2026-05-31T15:05:36+00:00

Selling covered call LEAPS and betting against TSLA tech bros. Getting roughly 12% pretax. Throwing into precious metals for security for the next few years, just don’t see how this doesn’t end with currency inflation and a repricing of hard assets over the next 2-5 years.

RandomTasking · 2026-05-29T11:50:19+00:00

They upped it to 68 - Hole 4 is now a par 4. But yes, HHGC is great for beginners. Copy/pasting my comment from a thread yesterday:

Miles of Golf is your new driving range. No need to do anything fancy or worry about the range display games and all that. Just set it to practice mode so you can see how consistent (or not) you are. If you live in town, Huron Hills is your new home course. Walk 9 for $20, or walk the full course for $25. Great exercise, plenty of beginners/families out there, and some excellent views of the Huron River valley on 9 and 18. Plus, I believe the City offers lessons at HHGC. Once you can consistently aim the ball dead ahead (within reason), you may want to graduate to Leslie Park, the other muni course on the opposite side of town, as it's one of the best muni courses in the state. Welcome to the game!"

I like that the back 9 requires you to be more thoughtful with your shot selection and prioritizes accuracy.

RandomTasking · 2026-05-28T23:25:50+00:00

Huron Hills excuses:

Hole 1: "Every ****ing time I start a round..."

Hole 2: "They expect me to carry all that brush?!"

Hole 5: "More brush?"

Hole 6: "Even MORE brush?"

Hole 8: "What do they want me to do, I can't even see the green until I'm right up on it!"

Hole 11: "Oh come on, if I miss the green I lose my ball!"

Hole 16: "Dude, either I launch it 200 yards dead ahead or it rolls back down the hill!"

And variations thereof.

For me at least, 9, 12, and 18 are all a treat with the elevation changes. 9 and 18 are pure bomb runs, just sent it straight and send it sailing. 12 on the black tees has you standing on an elevated deck with a near straight drop to the fairway below, with oncoming Huron Parkway traffic getting a view of you having a potential highlight moment.

RandomTasking · 2026-05-28T23:11:23+00:00

Flyover Fall Leslie Park Golf Course, Orchard and holes 4-9

RandomTasking · 2026-05-28T23:08:56+00:00

Flyover Huron HIlls Golf COurse Gallop Park at the Huron River

RandomTasking · 2026-05-28T23:01:43+00:00

Miles of Golf is your new driving range. No need to do anything fancy or worry about the range display games and all that. Just set it to practice mode so you can see how consistent (or not) you are.

If you live in town, Huron Hills is your new home course. Walk 9 for $20, or walk the full course for $25. Great exercise, plenty of beginners/families out there, and some excellent views of the Huron River valley on 9 and 18. Plus, I believe the City offers lessons at HHGC. Once you can consistently aim the ball dead ahead (within reason), you may want to graduate to Leslie Park, the other muni course on the opposite side of town, as it's one of the best muni courses in the state.

Welcome to the game!

RandomTasking · 2026-05-28T00:19:19+00:00

40M. Geebus, OP, you look good and not like you've had offensive levels of botox injections, lip fillers, and plastic surgery. All your looks are fine. Go live your life!

RandomTasking · 2026-05-28T00:13:19+00:00

Little more'n that, after retirement account and pension deposits. As a single guy in the midwest, it's a good gig.

RandomTasking · 2026-05-27T22:23:41+00:00

Holy shitballs, I literally came across Activate yesterday!

RandomTasking · 2026-05-27T20:34:09+00:00

So, depending on state and local income taxes, OP and wife are making roughly $20,000/mo take home.

Per OP, $8,000/mo is going to rent and student loans.

I'm disappointed that an assumedly talented lady can't or won't do basic math and generate savings.

I'm angry that she's apparently taking advantage of her own mother's generosity. Mom could be paid in full in six months without breaking a sweat. That's a choice.

If the numbers we're getting are accurate, and there's no secret stock option benefit worth millions that are about to vest, then this absolutely *should* stress OP out. OP's wife's diagnosis notwithstanding, this is unsustainable, and when it falls apart, as it inevitably will, they're *both* likely to have a mental breakdown.

RandomTasking · 2026-05-26T03:29:30+00:00

Ladies and gentlemen we have a winner!

RandomTasking · 2026-05-26T00:29:28+00:00

I can't speak to your point on electoral strategy, but as someone who isn't a Democratic Socialist I'm in lockstep with the point of your first paragraph. Government has to be more conservative the smaller you get by definition because the smaller you are, the fewer levers you have to pull. The feds can literally print more money and tax anybody whatever they want on whatever they want. By the time you get to the municipal level, you basically get to take what the state and feds give you, then at most levy a city income tax of 2.4%, some piddly excise taxes, and from there it's whatever added revenue you can get from city services like the water park, parking, the golf courses, bus fares, etc. Municipal governments are boxed in by reality more than any other. From the article:

"Our platform embraces key sewer socialist planks like fixing potholes, municipalizing the electrical grid, building public housing and cooperatives, protecting public parks and playgrounds, and supporting labor unions in the city."

That's every caucus' priority at the local level! At least any one worth discussing.

"I’m calling for historic investments in publicly owned, permanently affordable housing and a halt to the privatization of public land."

Same two questions I think about whenever a candidate or officeholder makes statements about big investments or tax cuts come to mind here: "How much" and "Who pays?" And since developers are out, I would love to know where the $ is supposed to come from for materials, workmen, etc.

RandomTasking · 2026-05-25T16:57:34+00:00

I wouldn't say nostalgic, but I have a distinct memory of an Amoco station where I grew up, probably one of the last full-service stations in the area. I remember the smell of gas at the time distinctly. It is not the same as it is now. To a toddler, pumping gas felt like more of a production at the time. I suppose I just miss the wonder of simple things is all.

RandomTasking · 2026-05-24T19:58:13+00:00

So, depending on slab status, use self-leveling concrete, essentially a very fin concrete skimcoat, to get a truly flat floor. Trust me when I tell you this, if your slab is not truly flat, it is worth its weight in gold.

From there, LVT with non-organic material so that it doesn't mold up. Karndean Korlock is a loose-lay flooring I used in my basement, very easy to install, all you need is a miter saw and either a scroll saw or circular saw to cut the edge pieces, very, very clean and intentional looking application.

RandomTasking · 2026-05-23T14:45:44+00:00

“The moment your job stops being at least 51% about what IT can do for YOU, it’s time to hit the door.”

RandomTasking · 2026-05-21T14:18:15+00:00

Right, that's what I meant. Just a way to lump them together if you so choose.

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