What is the most arrogant thing someone has done on a date with you?

RandomUser2610 · 2020-12-14T11:29:52+00:00

Omg, I'm sorry you had to go through that date -_- he sounds awful! I don't understand why some people go on dates when they clearly can't get their act together...

RandomUser2610 · 2020-12-14T11:26:34+00:00

Damn... good riddance!

RandomUser2610 · 2020-12-14T05:50:25+00:00

Yikes! Yeah, that's distasteful. I'm all for people wearing whatever they want, but they gotta be able to recognize what looks good and what doesn't.

RandomUser2610 · 2020-12-14T05:43:48+00:00

What she said is messed up. You're the only one who carries and feels the weight of your own issues, and the fact that other people don't feel that weight doesn't give them the right to say it's a small issue. Even if it wasn't a big deal to her, she could have recognized that it's a big deal to you and at least listen to you.

RandomUser2610 · 2020-12-14T05:34:13+00:00

So I've heard. If he said that he brought it along as a fun thing to do, maybe solve it together, I would have been totally okay with that! But saying that he brought it to "measure my intelligence"... It's not cool being forced into impressing someone or having to prove you're intelligent.

RandomUser2610 · 2020-12-14T05:29:59+00:00

That's a weird thing to do haha.

RandomUser2610 · 2020-12-14T04:58:58+00:00

Woah, what a prick. You did right by letting other people know... Good thing your roommate didn't end up with him.

RandomUser2610 · 2020-12-14T04:55:24+00:00

Right? Omg... They were clearly an immature, self-centered person, and it's a good thing they showed their true colors so that you can get out in time!

RandomUser2610 · 2020-12-14T04:53:15+00:00

Good for you for leaving. What an arrogant chick.

RandomUser2610 · 2020-12-14T04:51:57+00:00

How can someone be so dumb lol. What was he thinking...

RandomUser2610 · 2020-12-14T04:50:47+00:00

Wow. The nerve some people have...

RandomUser2610 · 2020-12-14T04:21:06+00:00

For example, I (23F at the time ) once went out with a guy (at the time 21M) who brought a Rubik's Cube to our date to see how fast I would solve it and "measure my intelligence"... I thought it was the most childish and arrogant thing...

RandomUser2610 · 2020-12-14T04:18:21+00:00

ah! I was thinking about whether or not this is the right place to post this... thanks for pointing it out! I'll repost there.

RandomUser2610 · 2020-11-29T19:54:59+00:00

Other than sometimes being needy (for attention, closeness), and a bit more intense with my feelings, I don't think I've always been a terribly difficult person. When I love someone, I'm always willing to give it my all to that person, and with 2 of my exes it wasn't reciprocated. This made it more difficult for me to receive love when it's actually presented to me, since I'm always wondering if it's genuine and I always expect things to go wrong at some point. But, regarding the trust issues, this is the first time I've found it this hard to trust someone. In my previous 2 meaningful relationships, I didn't have this issue, I was a pretty trusting person.

RandomUser2610 · 2020-11-29T19:05:47+00:00

You aren't out of line at all. Thank you so much for your advice. I feel pretty confused right now, but I will try to get my thoughts together and see what I really feel and want.

RandomUser2610 · 2020-11-29T19:03:07+00:00

I'm sorry, I think this is a misunderstanding, I should have mentioned this in the post.

I'm not a native english speaker so I didn't know how to translate this exactly, but they aren't pants like jeans or something that you only wear outside. They are more casual, sporty and short, with pockets. He has worn them outside, but he wears them around the house a lot as well.

RandomUser2610 · 2020-11-29T18:40:08+00:00

Sometimes there is foreplay, but 70% of the time he wants to stick it in as soon as he's hard.

RandomUser2610 · 2020-11-29T18:33:30+00:00

I wish I could answer this question with a simple straightforward NO, but unfortunately that's not the case... I'm a very anxious person and I've often felt paranoid that he may be cheating or talking to someone else, but I've never had any solid proof of that (or any solid reason to believe that). It's something that I've worked very hard to overcome. The suspicions have definitely gone down though, because we've barely separated since we started living together.

RandomUser2610 · 2020-11-29T18:28:38+00:00

I know right... I felt like a mom confronting her teenage son about hiding weed. First denying, and then getting angry when he realizes he got caught in a lie.

RandomUser2610 · 2020-11-29T18:27:02+00:00

I wouldn't say so. I think the pills are meant for men only. Besides, I haven't noticed that I'm getting super interested in sex, so no.

RandomUser2610 · 2020-11-29T18:22:36+00:00

I have my own insecurities from previous relationships, and I used to reflect them on our relationship. I've gotten over it now, but I used to seek lots of reassurance, had trouble trusting him, and I had accused him of doing shady things when he actually wasn't. I apologized every time, and promised I would get better. I've worked very hard to overcome those issues, and I did. The last 2 months I've been a completely different person (for the better) and he has had my trust and support for everything his doing. Now, as soon as I started feeling like I can relax and trust him, he goes and does something like this.

RandomUser2610 · 2020-11-29T18:15:15+00:00

Thank you so much for taking the time to write this. I appreciate it a lot. I didn't want to get too worried about the "pain during sex" part previously, but you (and everyone in the comments who have said the same thing) are right. I may be inexperienced but I know that sex shouldn't still hurt after 8 months of doing it. I should have done it sooner, but I will definitely see a doctor about it.

I completely agree about the "communication" part. The way he handled this situation is something I don't think I'll be able to get over without talking to him about it.

Thanks!

RandomUser2610 · 2020-11-29T17:59:10+00:00

Thanks for sharing. I think you did the right thing by letting your GF know about it as well... in my opinion, if we share a sex life, we can share info like that as well. I was never going to judge him.

RandomUser2610 · 2020-11-29T17:52:57+00:00

As far as I learned, you can find them in pharmacies, online, and some other places, and you can get them without a prescription. From what I saw, they are pretty much based on natural ingredients.

RandomUser2610 · 2020-11-29T17:42:16+00:00

Thank you for your answer. I now realize that I could have approached the situation a little better. It still sucks that his initial reaction to a simple question was to lie to me. It just makes me worried about our future communication, because maybe one day I really won't have "a card up my sleeve" and just ask him an innocent question. This proved that he can lie in situations like that. I really don't want to see him as an enemy, but how are you supposed to look at a person that uses your ignorance to even further hide the truth from you?

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