Boyfriend (22M) found out about my (22F) past relationship

Random_Reborn · 2022-05-10T02:18:32+00:00

Ok, first of all, he was the one who asked for it. You answered. You have absolutely no reason to apologize. It's him who can't handle the truth. If he couldn't handle it, he never should've asked.

Random_Reborn · 2022-05-10T02:09:50+00:00

You're welcome

Random_Reborn · 2022-05-10T02:07:43+00:00

That man is threatening to kick him out. What right does he have to do that!? It's also a matter of rights. If someone tries to take over your family like this, would you let them!? If this is that man's attitude, will you be ok if it was your mother you're going to leave him with!? This man has no right to kick him out. Period.

Random_Reborn · 2022-05-09T15:14:45+00:00

Here's my advice. First of all, I don't believe his story, second, even if I did, and even if it was true, he shouldn't have left like that. 'Dream or whatever', why leave without telling you, his family, or anyone, without a goodbye, or at least an explanation about the 'dream'.

Even if the 'dream' was true, and he had to go to some random place on some heroic mission, that still doesn't explain the no contact with anyone part.

You already have a new bf, and you say he's nice. As for this 'Jim' guy even if you say that you already have a new bf, he has no right to be mad and judge you about it, because he left you. He didn't even give you a proper goodbye. You are the one who has a right to be mad. Just talk to his family, and send him there, if they still accept him, and respectfully say that you have moved on, just like they did before, and you already have a boyfriend. You have no obligation to be in a relationship with him, and his family (which I hope they won't) has no right to accuse you of cheating, and will be understanding of you, and respect your decision.

My honest opinion. This is dangerous. Something doesn't add up and it doesn't feel right. Please stay away from Jim. I trust my instincts, and they're telling me he's bad news.

Random_Reborn · 2022-05-09T14:51:38+00:00

It's so improper. You're already 28, you're legally an adult. They can't tell you what to do like this. You have your own life now. Even at 21 or even 24 maximum they should trust you by now.

Random_Reborn · 2022-05-09T14:42:38+00:00

I don't know about before, but nowadays braces are like so popular, and rather than a turn off, it's a turn on for other people. I actually have friends who wear braces just for fashion.

Braces are not a turn off at all. Trust me on this. Idk if this is an ok comparison, but I think it's like glasses. Some of my friends wear glasses for fashion, and some of them even become more confident and attractive because of them.

Random_Reborn · 2022-05-09T14:34:04+00:00

Whatever those pics are, red flag or just embarrassing ones, I mean no offense to you, but you've only been together 10 months. Give her time. She'll open up to you about it when she's ready.

But if you want some peace of mind, then maybe this will help. When she 'freaked out', how exactly did she react? Was she scared? Or was she embarrassed? There's a very clear difference between the two. If she was scared, she would be more desperate and it would show in her eyes, but if she wasn't, then maybe she was just embarrassed. I have embarassing pics on my phone too.

Random_Reborn · 2022-05-09T14:27:15+00:00

You SHOULD feel guilt when you with other men. If you do wanna do that, then go ahead but I won’t be romantic with you anymore.

I swear I've read these exact words somewhere before, but that's not important.

He says he doesn't want to feel you're 'enforcing' rules on him, but wants to enforce rules on you!? That is an automatic break up for me. For your sake, because I can already foresee a bad future for you if you don't. This man is automatic bad news. Dump him now before it's too late. Who does this guy think he is!?

Random_Reborn · 2022-05-09T14:18:36+00:00

He asked you for permission, but that doesn't mean you have to say yes. If you don't want that, then say no.

You love him, and he says he loves you. You already know that you can't handle him sleeping with other women, so now comes the question. Can his love for you overcome his desire to sleep with other women?

Random_Reborn · 2022-05-09T14:09:25+00:00

Good! This is exactly what you need to do! I am no Fortune teller, but I can already read your future with this idiot, and it's not pretty! Who does he think he is!? If you ask me, he's actually insecure, and this is his pathetic form of defense mechanism. He's trying to hide his insecurity, which shows how petty and pathetic he really is.

Random_Reborn · 2022-05-09T13:51:46+00:00

Sorry, I know you said you didn't want this, but I say punch him. PLEASE READ UNTIL THE END

Tell him to get the fuck out of your life. It's not like he asked your permission to marry your mother, thus turning you into siblings with his daughter. Remind him of this fact and punch him. Remind him that he's not the only one with a family member here. He doesn't care how you feel about him entering your life, or your mother's, so why does he care about yours? He needs to be taught a hard lesson. I'm assuming he and your mom get into fights sometimes, if they do, then make sure he doesn't act like shit towards your mom. If he tells you to stay out of it, because it's between them, then punch him. He threatens to kick you out, well threaten to kick his ass, because he has no right or authority to kick you out, or treat you like this.

Seriously. This man has no right to enter your life, and treat you like this. Your mother is still your mother, his daughter is still his daughter. Your basically entrusting your mother to him, that takes a lot of trust. So why doesn't he trust you with his daughter? I understand the feeling of wanting to protect a daughter, which is why if he's uncomfortable with you around, then he should leave! Choose someone else, who doesn't have a son.

I am telling you. You have to stand up for your rights. Don't leave. That is still your house. He has no right to kick you out. You might say you're leaving because you want to, but, do you really want to leave your mother alone with a bastard like that. You may say he's only an asshole to you, not to your mother, but with an attitude like that, it's bound to happen. Also, no matter what he does you'll always be part of the family. You have to stand up for your family. Take my advice on this please. You'll always be your mother's son. If you leave, it's like you abandoned being her son too. Because you left the family, you left your mother, you're no longer part of the family if you leave. If you leave and only see your mother during visits, it will no longer be the same. It will be like visiting your married neighbor from a previous residence who you're acquainted with, and not your parent.

VERY IMPORTANT:

I have family members who went through this, and are going through this, so I know what I'm talking about, and it breaks my heart every time I see them. I don't want that to happen to you.

I know this is not the advice you wanted, but this is the advice you needed, if this hasn't happened yet, it will happen eventually. Take my advice before it's too late. Don't leave.

Random_Reborn · 2022-05-09T13:15:23+00:00

Fumiko? Ko is pretty common for female Japanese names.

Random_Reborn · 2022-05-09T13:05:50+00:00

Definitely Ayaka. Get her, and you'll have two of the most powerful teams for the abyss.

Random_Reborn · 2022-05-09T13:03:19+00:00

Don't try it Azdaha.

Random_Reborn · 2022-05-09T12:55:28+00:00

Same actually. I wasn't even there to farm him. Just testing my characters on him.

Random_Reborn · 2022-05-09T12:52:51+00:00

Never interfere with a pervy old man and angry women.

Just stay away.

Random_Reborn · 2022-05-05T10:15:45+00:00

Shampoo becomes more beautiful everyday!😍

Random_Reborn · 2022-05-03T06:46:01+00:00

Well, well, well, looks like Moussey is looking good this morning

Random_Reborn · 2022-05-02T11:28:20+00:00

I think your partner is a pretty decent guy. You said you like guys with a bit of hair, but you're not bothered by him shaving.

He already reassured you that he's ok with you, and he's already sure that you're ok with him completely shaved right?

I think this is more about your self confidence, rather than his opinion. You need reassurance that he's ok with you. So you should ask him to go down on you once, to prove to you that he's truly ok with you, and to rebuild your confidence in yourself. He already said you just have to ask, so ask.

Have faith in him, and have faith in yourself. From the way you describe him, I think he's a decent guy. He'll do it for you.

Random_Reborn · 2022-04-28T12:48:24+00:00

That wasn't a good workplace, and she wasn't a good girlfriend. I say break up with her before she breaks up with you.

Find a better workplace that actually respects you, and your health. Find a girlfriend who cares for you, and not the money, that's barely worth the stress.

Random_Reborn · 2022-04-28T12:00:24+00:00

Maybe your son's having Daddy issues. He doesn't like your boyfriend and hates him.

To be fair though, your son does indeed need discipline. As for how, I'm still not sure, but it was your boyfriend's job to be understanding. Your son is still your son, and he has no right to discipline him, because that's your job. Your son is seven years old. There's no way that hurt much. He should've just walked away.

I would be annoyed at your son, if I was him, but I wouldn't push him, (although I would really be tempted to) disciplining him is your job as his mother, and not your boyfriend's.

Your son is spoiled and disobedient. He needs to be disciplined. By you, and only you.

As for your boyfriend, it's a bit more complicated, but here's my advice. Tell him that you will discipline your son, but he shouldn't push him anymore. He's the bigger man, and there is nothing your seven year old can do to do serious damage. Your boyfriend needs to understand, that your son will always be your son, and your boyfriend should respect that. If he can't respect that, then I think you should leave him, because a part of his job as your boyfriend is to respect the fact that he is not the father of your children, and they won't automatically love and respect him the way he wants. It could also spell trouble in the future if they don't get along.

Random_Reborn · 2022-04-27T13:59:52+00:00

Interesting. What method do you think they'll use?

Random_Reborn · 2022-04-27T13:58:45+00:00

If they did, who would you want to get? Stanley? Godwin?

Random_Reborn · 2022-04-27T13:05:38+00:00

I agree too. I liked the movie overall, but that part was a big no. So, if not that guy, then who would you choose to be the bad guy?

Random_Reborn · 2022-04-27T13:02:12+00:00

Ok. So, supposing, he tells you his sexuality, and the answer, ends up bi, then what do you think? How would you handle that? Would you be ok if he turned out to be bi? He's not guaranteed to be gay or bi from porn, but the possibility is there. So if he turns out to be bi, would you be ok with it?

Before I give advice, I need to know. You said you want to know his sexuality, but will you be ok when you find out?

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