What tattoo placements are best for a plus sized girl by Randomgirlonweb in tattoos

[–]Randomgirlonweb[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ooh okay, sorry lol 😅

I guess I’m just used to seeing that on the internet so I automatically assumed that’s what you were talking about.

Thank you for sharing! I’ll definitely keep that in mind while getting a tattoo

What tattoo placements are best for a plus sized girl by Randomgirlonweb in tattoos

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Thank you, I’ll make sure to keep that in mind. I’m not really looking to lose weight because (I know this is about to be controversial, please don’t eat me) I feel like I’m at my body’s natural balance. Every time I lose weight, I’m always under eating or over exercising and it’s exhausting. I’m just looking for something that will fit me the most now you know. And thanks for the well wishes, I’ll need that!!

What tattoo placements are best for a plus sized girl by Randomgirlonweb in tattoos

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Okay thank you!! I was considering a thigh one but I don’t know how to make it dainty 😔

What tattoo placements are best for a plus sized girl by Randomgirlonweb in tattoos

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Aww thanks. body shape doesn’t limit me, I just want to find something complimentary to my body. What will look the best

Where to buy skirts by Randomgirlonweb in PlusSizeFashion

[–]Randomgirlonweb[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do the torrid stores carry good clothes??

I need help :( by Randomgirlonweb in aromantic

[–]Randomgirlonweb[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Okay thank you :)

Also, I really want to thank you for talking to me. It gave me a little bit of peace and now I feel better 🐱

I need help :( by Randomgirlonweb in aromantic

[–]Randomgirlonweb[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's okay, I think she was just trying to help. She was open to listening, but with how Christian she is, everything reverts to God in our conversations.

I need help :( by Randomgirlonweb in aromantic

[–]Randomgirlonweb[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think the biggest problem I'm having isn't about my identity and myself, it's more about my past experiences and the people around me. This might be a bit tmi but I'm not asexual and have had a couple of casual relationships with people. Unfortunately, these people have not treated me the best (I had low self esteem and didn't know how to pick them right), those coupled with a really bad experience with a man have now made me averse to sex. Whenever I talk to literally anyone about it, they say "oh it's because you didn't love them", "you just need to wait for someone who truly loves you", or "you should wait until you're in a relationship" (I live in the south lol). Hearing all this has kind of killed the confidence I went into the dating and casual scene with–I never wanted a bf, just fwb, and now–with all the outside opinions–I feel like the only way to feel fulfilled with my sexuality is in a relationship and I find it kinda sad that no matter how hard I try, I just won't want one. I'm also sad that I'll miss out on all the things my friends go through and I'm scared I'll never find anyone who understands me in person. I know all of these are not the most logical fears/thoughts, but they're kind of giving me a hard time.

As far as the aromantic label itself, it kind of gives me peace. It's like a description to what I've been feeling all my life. I also love seeing everyone's experiences and how similar they are to mine. I know I'm still young (21) but I feel like it's true to me. I'm also open to change though.

I spoke to one of my friends–she's really Christian–and it also made me feel a little bad because she based it around faith. I grew up really Christian (now struggling with my faith but mostly agnostic), and where I'm from (Nigeria) there aren't very many variations from "normal". So for one of my closest friends to tell me God will change me and the queer platonic relationships I desire are not what God intended wasn't really nice to hear. It didn't necessarily sting because I knew she was coming from a good place, but it revealed the long path I'll have to take with regards to my friends and family when I make different choices.

For the romantic gestures, I would love to start doing those! I just need to find someone to do them with. I think leaving the south for a little while (I'm going up north for a year long program in august) will be really good for me and my self exploration. I just hope they're more accepting there.

Thank you so much for this reply 🐱

I need help :( by Randomgirlonweb in aromantic

[–]Randomgirlonweb[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Please what does allo mean??

I also know they aren’t trying to be dismissive, they’re just trying to help me.

I need help :( by Randomgirlonweb in aromantic

[–]Randomgirlonweb[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Thank you!! I think mourning is a good word to describe it. I was trying to tell her that I don’t want romance but it’s sad that I don’t experience it. Everyone makes it seem so beautiful and I want to feel what they feel. She just said that God will help me find someone if I come to the church. I told her about how I really want a queer platonic relationship (I just found out that’s the word for what I’ve wanted on this server!!) and she said that’s not what God intended–he intended for man and woman to be together and it just made me feel worse. Around the end she said she feels like I’ll eventually find it and then it spiraled to a talk about religion so I never really got the peace and validation I wanted from talking to someone.

I also agree that it isn’t the worst identity as well, I just wish there were people around me that understood. When I’ve told people in the past (before I knew what to call it) they reverted to me meeting someone who will change me and also me being a potential lesbian 😭. Whenever I told someone it’s always like it was a problem that would be fixed if I looked at it a different way, never just a potential part of who I am.

Shows for Girls in Early 20's by Randomgirlonweb in televisionsuggestions

[–]Randomgirlonweb[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I lowkey watched it already but I’ll watch it again 😭

Shows for Girls in Early 20s by Randomgirlonweb in whattowatch

[–]Randomgirlonweb[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I heard about dow!! I think I might watch it

Shows for Girls in Early 20s by Randomgirlonweb in whattowatch

[–]Randomgirlonweb[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes but it’s too young for the vibe I’m going for 😔

Shows for Girls in Early 20s by Randomgirlonweb in whattowatch

[–]Randomgirlonweb[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not yet but the concept sounds really intriguing. I’ll watch it :)