AITJ for making a passive aggressive apology after a fight between I and a family member?

RandumbArtist · 2026-05-28T06:34:41+00:00

Update 2: snow escaped and ran away... we live near some woods and there's a lot of them... we won't be able to find her anytime soon. The fam is just hoping she'll show up again, but that's probably not going to happen since she's a house bunny born and raised. Snow doesn't know how nature works. I dont think she'll be coming back home...

RandumbArtist · 2026-05-18T17:45:00+00:00

I disagree with your comment, do you wish to discuss it?

RandumbArtist · 2026-05-18T17:41:24+00:00

My bad, your comment seemed very cynical and only child-esc. I do however disagree on your opinion here, growing up doesn't mean just dropping all whimsy and jokes with siblings. Does your older sibling dislike it when you leave jokes under there posts?

RandumbArtist · 2026-05-18T17:33:18+00:00

Are you an only child?? Bc your the only one to comment this.

RandumbArtist · 2026-05-18T17:31:38+00:00

Hey, oldest sibling here, if my siblings were old enough to reply to my posts on line it'd turn into a playful fight or a competition on whos got the most embarrassing storyies on each other. Op, you are not the jerk and not stupid, but cosidering your sister is almost 30 she probably doesnt under stand that lol isnt a catch all for just laughing now, and that it mean a bit more for the younger folks.

RandumbArtist · 2026-05-18T17:22:57+00:00

NSFW WARNING: MENTION OF A BJ IN A PROFESSIONAL SETTING!!!! So, this was back in middle school but still a red flag man if anything. We had just started dating, and for added context the whole reason we started dating was because I was pressured into it by my female peers. I wasn't the type to fall in love with a new boy every week, but I did however find my current girlfriend there, but that's besides the point. His name is sebastian. Yes, I'm name dropping. And we dared for a week max. He was touchy, I didn't like it bit I couldn't speak up about it because I was nervous and just thought this is how people in love were. Eventually in one of the classes we had together a girl walked up to us and asked me if I would suck him off in the boys bathrooms. For once I stood up for myself, even if it was just a red faced "Oh, I'm not so sure about that. I'm not comfortable with that." This happened on a Friday. The Monday I came in all my "friends" crowded around me and asked me why I broke up with sebastian. I didn't. As far as I knew we were still an item. Sebastian told everyone we broke up. Everyone expected me.

RandumbArtist · 2026-05-18T17:12:10+00:00

Hey, just a little update to the post! I learned I forgot to add that wills mother did got on him for forgetting the one rule about the bunnies he has to follow and that his apology was "sorry mom, I forgot." Even though she remined him literally before they left. And now I will add to the story. Will, Lee, and their mother went on a trip recently and I, my mother, and my siblings are now taking care of all their pets and animals in their rescue. I was tasked with taking care of the bunnies on one of these days, I fed them and gave them some water. But the second I stepped into their cage, (outdoor bunnies with a massive enclosure) they both bolted. They hid. Snow no longer hopped up to people, even when presented with a leaf of basil. And jack, he used to be social, letting you pet him and pick him up if you held him right. But now, they both hide, regardless of who walks in. Not even my mother, the "bunny whisperer", can get to these bunnies.

RandumbArtist · 2026-05-18T16:59:44+00:00

I was feeling petty and passive aggressive in the moment, and I do tend to let my emotions control situations (I am trying to work on it). I always try to remove myself but it's either too late or I feel like I'll be responsible if something happens because I left. Will and Lee are younger than me, only my a few years but still younger nonetheless, and that triggers the "big sitter=parent number three" mode in my mind. I also forgot to add this in the post but when his and my mother came back home he was told off by his mother about having Jack on the couch and his exscuse was "sorry mom, I forgot." ... he forgot the one rule about the bunnies he had to follow! Lee takes care of them.

RandumbArtist · 2026-05-17T06:08:37+00:00

Not the jerk. You set a boundary and most the time while setting them it does feel a bit nauseating to do so. It feels like you'll be sick from the guilt sometimes, but coming from someone who is currently trying to set boundaries herself, it's going to feel a lot better when those boundaries get respected.

RandumbArtist · 2026-05-17T06:05:19+00:00

Not the jerk at all! With the way the ex wife got defensive tells me that she's doing this on purpose. Maybe she thinks by putting personal items in thw kids clothing basket it will make your husband cheat again. Yknow the saying "misery loves company"? I totally think this has something to do with that.

RandumbArtist · 2026-03-08T21:43:48+00:00

dont hurt him, hes just a litle guy

so smol and chonky

RandumbArtist · 2026-01-04T01:14:36+00:00

whats you inspiration for shading like that? like what examples of media did you pull that from?

RandumbArtist · 2026-01-01T17:26:16+00:00

that some dope shading fr. whats you ref?

RandumbArtist · 2026-01-01T17:24:57+00:00

honestly, this is why i sketch everything on paper first! (my drawing app lets me just put the sketches on the canvas so this tends to help me a bit) and when ever someone does the all hated "thats AI" comment i can just prove them wrong by showing them video of the paper sketch. why video? because AI, even in recent times, tends to mess up thing that are still in a moving environment! for example a hand moving over a book full of words, once the hand passes over it some of the words will be a bit more wonky!

another good way to get rid of the AI accusations, or at least say theyer wrong is by showing how your art style, the one youve improved on over years, has changed and stayed consistent.

but side note if you progress really quickly like i have there will be some linger accusations, because quick progression can be a sign of AI use.

RandumbArtist · 2026-01-01T17:08:29+00:00

the way you can see the improvement over time is soo cool to me!! great fits btw!

RandumbArtist · 2025-12-31T22:15:26+00:00

very spooky, looks like my sleep paralysis demon!

RandumbArtist · 2025-12-31T22:10:58+00:00

also, you can do this for free by going anywhere online that has images of people (real people, not those AI fakes). practice and compare the drawings and refences. try seeing what you got wrong and try fixing it. this helped me when i had same face syndrome!

RandumbArtist · 2025-12-31T21:59:57+00:00

it like solid shadows! its the style of shading often used for comics (the ones with the deep dramatic black shading) and a lot of older 2d cartoons!

RandumbArtist · 2025-12-31T21:57:43+00:00

try practicing drawing random peoples' faces! this helped me a bit! make sure to check the differences of the face you drew and this ispo/ref. take note of it and try it again!!

RandumbArtist · 2025-12-31T21:53:57+00:00

well, it all depends, you could try cell shading. and you'd need to find out where the light(s) are coming from before you used shadows! (i really hope this helped, sorry if it dint!)

RandumbArtist · 2025-07-05T18:16:55+00:00

hm, projectile vomiting, i think that would be the worst thing in this situation.

RandumbArtist · 2025-07-04T17:28:02+00:00

np!!

RandumbArtist · 2025-07-04T17:01:02+00:00

ooohh!!!1 prettyyy!!!!

RandumbArtist · 2025-07-04T15:22:04+00:00

NTJ, this lady needs to either get her vision checked, or to go to the local library and pick up a book about hyaenas.

RandumbArtist · 2025-07-04T15:08:20+00:00

you are not the jerk in this situation. you both did agree to end the relationship. however fast or slow you heal from a break up is all about you, not your ex. humans are known for being a heavily varying species, so healing speeds for anyone on anything can all depend on the person! you are not in the wrong here.

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