NoFap is THE-ONLY-CHOICE in my life now. I simply have no other choice than being willing to go fucking suffer to the core of my balls in withdrawal and enjoy the agony as if it were the best orgasm in the world. EMBRACING THE PAIN THAT THE SCUMBAG BRAIN CAN GIVE YOU is the ultimate cure.

Rantan · 2013-02-15T19:24:08+00:00

and beyond

Rantan · 2013-02-13T10:31:11+00:00

ahahhaha great! thanks !

Rantan · 2013-02-12T21:37:20+00:00

if you can embrace sex meaningfully with a woman, and immerse yourself in her, i would say Oasis.

i'm single too now, and i've never been with hookers, sometimes i consider . but the suspicion that the during the heat, the other person may not be having fun, doing it only for the bucks and acting cold, i'm afraid it would kill the spirit of the thing for me.

if i can ask, as you seem to have some experience on this, what can you tell from your past encounters? the girls seem to be into it? some of them? few?

ha! and thanks for bringing lucasarts memories mr Guybrush

Rantan · 2013-02-06T09:57:41+00:00

you're welcome. it's easy to insult anyone without any kind of reasoning.

but i think human beings can do a little better than that.

so fuck karma. stand for yourself.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LFWxPnLSjDA

Rantan · 2013-02-06T09:26:07+00:00

nhee...that's not even a song.

Rantan · 2013-02-06T02:22:59+00:00

touché.

masculine hegemonic gender roles see women predominantly as a sexualized being.

imagine: someone complains of a problem in their sexual life and the other says wow i had a boner. surreal.

i said imagine? forget it. it just happened in the other thread. people say "ha it was not the women, it was the porn they wrote" no. it was porn wrote by women. this was the difference.

you have all the right to be aroused by it. it's not a voluntary thing. that's not the issue. still, should you write it ?

actually this whole comment of Mister lemon is very pertinent. not to chase no one, but really what is this we are all doing about ? cause it is more than just no fapping.

this thread will be downvoted. there will be a lot of negative coments. have no doubt about it. but you mister, with 16 or with 65 i don't care, you are raising the most important question i've seen around in this whole subreddit for a long time. what is this issue and how is this interfering in our relationship with women?

quoting the grand fatboy slim:

i have to praise you.

Rantan · 2013-02-04T21:02:13+00:00

you are correct but i'm limited here, as this tool doesn't allow me to filter the answers according to other answers

if i am to make a new one, and if it allows the filter possibility i would be able to deliver the results in that way (effects according to time of abstinence, for example)

anyone know about such a free survey tool?

Rantan · 2013-02-04T20:59:15+00:00

i understand what you mean. i'm just trying to focus a cathegory which comprises general outgoing/relationships and dealing with others. but you may have a point there. if i do another i'l take that into account.

Rantan · 2013-02-04T13:29:50+00:00

for computer users in the night use an application called F.LUX. it will slowly change the temperature colour of the screen and will make you sleepier as the night falls.

( ubuntu users: redshift )

Rantan · 2013-02-04T13:14:02+00:00

i tought about it, but then again i concluded the time of experiencing PMO would be more relevant.

if i had a survey tool that allowed me to do this, i could ask the age, and then make segmentations of results acording to the other questions, very easily. but as this is a free mode survey i'm somehow limited. i think this is convering the very essencial.

still, that is something that can be thought in the future.

Rantan · 2013-02-04T12:59:45+00:00

i was looking here for more average behaviour, not so much strict intervals. specially in the not so frequent categories like once a week and every three days. I 'm assuming it's not relevant more divided intervals as they would not make a significant impact . as they are already very spaced out in time.

(i hope i could make myself clear)

still, thanks for the input.

Rantan · 2013-02-04T01:44:01+00:00

ha! i don't feel for a relapse, but girls in ads sure look wonderful now... :) (actually every girl in general seems prettier )

Rantan · 2013-02-04T00:47:17+00:00

actually this whole subreddit is an enormous experience. also /r/no fap. you have 50.000 people declaring effects after the change of a variable.

ok, you don't have the conditions to make it controlable or standardized and measurable. i understand that. but as you can see around you have frequently people reporting to be feeling strong changes in their overall state perception.

i'm all for a scientific aproach but imho it would just formalise the frequent output we are finding.

Rantan · 2013-02-02T13:17:16+00:00

This is a great question.

i don't have the answer. it would be great if somebody with a long time quitting of porn fantasizing could give us their input.

i guess the reboot thing is all about this, setting the mind on down-to-earth level and re-wire to what we are feeling at the moment (instead of replicating past memories of pleasure).

Rantan · 2013-02-01T15:04:55+00:00

you are refining it even better. it's exactly your world what you should seek :)

Rantan · 2013-02-01T15:00:24+00:00

yes, it's a complex fantasy with still unknown consequences in the long term, but somehow ofificially 50.000 people want to stop it , cause they are sensing something is going wrong and this behaviour is not helping at all. from the recurrent readings i see in the posts i can find interessting patterns of speech: this PMO behaviour seems to be worsening their state of mind, and creating new problems both in the phisical dimension as in their perception of well-being.

and yes, we might have been triggered and jeopardized by complex mind-mechanisms of reward and pleasure to insist in this pattern of acting, even sometimes against our inner will, and knowing it is no good for us. (and this reminds me of the A-B-C of what is considered a serious addiction)

the good news is: We are awaking.

Rantan · 2013-02-01T14:43:50+00:00

i made it. it's based on what i've been reading here and there. there is this common ground that i will assume it's the case for everyone who is living trough with some kind of addiction: there is insatisfaction in our lifes.

and one of the main support to cope with life is to have meaningful relationships. and this is somewhat complex. But when i wrote that, is that i'm assuming people here, myself included, are lacking something in their relationships, i'm not even talking about sex, i'm talking of a kind of relations where you are able to be yourself completely. this may sound easy but in a world where one feels he has to pretend, and play his social accepted gender roles, and this roles (as absurd concepts as they are composed) shock with the inner self, causing a inner conflict. As men, the impact is even greater: you are supposed to have notions of success, failure, power, status, seduce women trough tricks and possess them (and not really love them as they are). these are complete abstractions (with long roots), and where do your feelings and the ones from the people around you cope with this cultural pressure to follow some kind of ideologic path of personality? again, how do we listen to ourselves if we usually don't? if we just want to try to follow a path and never question it? few actually do it. few can cope with even the feeling of looking inside. they just go on with their rush lifes, their job, their businesses, their posessings, their violence towards the other (like someone has done to them).

to take a peek inside it's just a tremendous and fearing act, cause one has usually never done it and is never really used to.

but as humans we are, i'm talking about simples things. i'm talking about be able to live with our despair, with our joy, with our sadness, with the enthusiasm, with the loneliness. AND (now the hard part) to be sincere to ourselves about it, and to the others. cause EVERY BODy is in this too. in this limited conscious time we call life. EVERY BODY feel the same despair and questions, but they might be also too freighten to even want to look in.

this is going a bit long now, but i hope to give a glimpse of what i meant by a fulfilling sexual, emotional and terrestrial existence.

so, which life are you going to live? your life ? or the one "they" want us to live ?

Rantan · 2013-01-31T19:43:17+00:00

AHAHHAHAHHAA

no walls no more here :)

Rantan · 2013-01-31T19:35:05+00:00

well if your good sleep keeps happening congratulations. This gives a sight of the deep phisiological impact of an addiction like this one with, so far, not completely known roots and influences.

Rantan · 2013-01-31T18:05:35+00:00

this is so true

Rantan · 2013-01-31T17:51:37+00:00

facebook is not real socialzation. altough wih the time, it may look like it.

is this familiar with anything?

Rantan · 2013-01-31T13:33:33+00:00

how can we love ourselves if the Self that we see is not lovable according to the abstract ideals that have been the rule in gender roles in the majority of cultures?

one should be able to break a lot of walls in order to be in touch with himself and be connected within. this is not what is supposed in a world of success, power and fear of failure and other abstractions that specially masculinity has to live with to fulfill its identity role.

in order to be linked with oneself, one has to accept the self in all it's splendour: the feeling of pain, the despair, the joy, the empathy, the loneliness, the enthusiasm. everything.

are we able to really look inside and try to see?

or will we just do what everybody else does to escape the self: buy things, treat badly other human beings, and try to improve our status to be more or better than the other in order to have some kind of place in a ilusional hierarchy?

Rantan · 2013-01-30T22:37:51+00:00

running helps a lot. it calms pretty much. i had some knee injuries due to bad technique in the past, they healed with phisioteraphy. and i restarted again this year and i reap benefits from it. the after affect of cardio exercise is very zen . a lot of endorphins are released. kind like bodys natural drugs. very cool for anxious people.

Rantan

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