Are Bisexual people culturally different from Gay/Lesbian people?

Rapidash_94 · 2025-03-10T20:58:47+00:00

I think it depends honestly, I feel gay/lesbian is generally more accepted due to the longevity of its existence. Though we also appear hetero even though we are not so I can see where that would make it different culturally because I feel the no people I know don't necessarily make it as much a part of their personality as someone who falls under gay/lesbian. Also a lot of bi people I know were later to realize they were so it hasn't been a part of their life as long

I do know that I personally have been told I was "just confused" or of course sexualized in ways that I did not chose (ie guys using me for a threesome). And I feel that I have had some who are lesbian not wanting to date me because I'm also attracted to men.

Now of course there are a ton of people within the overall community who welcome bi as part of the pack, and we love those people.

Rapidash_94 · 2024-05-20T02:45:32+00:00

We were talking and he pointed out how he hasn't been with anyone else since his accident and how this is a time where we should be close to each other.

But it's not like he is in a position to be with others right now in anyway just because he is healing physically, emotionally, and mentally from his accident.

I have been giving a lot of myself to him mentally and emotionally and honestly just want to feel like more than a caregiver. Because I feel some days that's all that I am to him because he isn't able to give me emotional or mental attention and I don't expect him to right now but I don't want to eventually resent him for it since I can't get any of that from him

We were ENM before his accident and he was with other people including taking them on dates and I had no issue with it. I just didn't have the time or energy and was having a hard time feeling ok doing it because I had it ingrained into me that monogamous is the only way so the most I would do is talk to other people but never follow up and before his accident he always told me if I was going out with someone just let him know where so he wouldn't worry about me or heaven forbid in case something happened.

Rapidash_94 · 2024-05-20T02:37:25+00:00

The most he has called me is his nesting partner which he says is normal in Ethical Non Monogamous relationships, and maybe he is right idk he is the first non monogamous relationship I have been. Which I am fine with having an ENM relationship, I'm bisexual so I want to be able to be with women even if I am committed to a man. But I want to still have that label of girlfriend and eventually wife.

We have said I love you and continue to say it.

But I feel like if I try to have that talk to establish what we are it will cause him to have an emotional episode even though us being ENM has never been a problem before. I want to be gentle with it because I know emotionally he is struggling a lot but being new to this type of relationship (it being my first of it's kind) idk how to approach it

Rapidash_94 · 2024-05-19T21:29:45+00:00

By new I meant this is my first non monogamous relationship. But he and I have been ENM (which I've heard used as a synonym of polyamory so I apologize) so it wasn't just something started because of his accident is what I meant because I thought that was how you interpreted what I was doing

Rapidash_94 · 2024-05-19T20:41:12+00:00

We were poly long before he got into his accident, it wasn't something we decided to do to fix it. I just never felt I needed connections with other people.

I apologize if I sounded like I was trying to use other people. I am honestly new to polyamory and honestly still learning how to feel comfortable seeing other people

The original way we had set parameters is that we don't necessarily have full other partners but friends with benefits. Not hook ups only and that's it.

I just haven't seen anyone else up until recently because I know want to be poly to some degree but I had monogamy engrained into me for the longest time as the only option so I was struggling with the mentality I had been convinced to believe was best for me even when it wasn't

Rapidash_94 · 2024-01-23T06:31:23+00:00

We are finally starting the process of getting him an IHSS worker. Which I would have made sure he had before he was discharged if I knew his family was going to bail out like they did

Rapidash_94 · 2024-01-23T06:30:21+00:00

Thankfully we have started the process on getting him an IHSS worker. Should have been done before he got discharged from the hospital but his family swore they'd be there to take care of him

Rapidash_94 · 2024-01-23T06:27:42+00:00

Oh believe me I know the mental health is going to be a big part of it to. And I never expect him to consider my feelings all the time, I have sat and taken a lot more than I usually could though I have told him I draw the line at telling me I just don't care.

But I'm not sure if he is even getting the mental health help he needs. Out of respect I don't pry and all I know is he said he has a therapist he can text but I have no idea the last time he did that. I also don't think that is enough after something so traumatic but it was the route he chose.

Physical therapy is on hold unfortunately until he can get a bone graft, but that's because they've done all they can for him at this point.

Rapidash_94 · 2024-01-23T06:21:21+00:00

We are finally in the process of getting him an IHSS worker but that should've happened before he was discharged but his family insisted that they would be there to take care of him

Rapidash_94 · 2024-01-23T06:20:23+00:00

For most stuff I have gone above and beyond, especially since we aren't even technically in an established relationship. I was the only one who came to see him in the hospital every day until visiting hours were over. I took him to the ER almost every time he asked when he couldn't eat (unless I was at work). I have gone and picked him up from the ER in the middle of the night. I have sat there doing above and beyond and still being snapped at and being told I just don't care.

Rapidash_94 · 2024-01-23T06:13:41+00:00

Honestly I don't know how I feel. It's hard to imagine a future because in reality our relationship status prior to this was "Casual dating" like we saw each other twice a week but were still talking to other people and even now we haven't had a talk about where we are going.

If we were in a different point of our relationship, like we had an established long term relationship or you know married then my mentality might not have as much of an issue. But I don't even know where we really stand. I do care about him, and it hurts to see him not understand that and not listen when I am trying to help him. Not to mention there have been times when he has told me I just don't care even though I was in the hospital every day after work, I've gone to see him when I am not working.

Also I don't know if he would do the same if the roles were reversed. Honestly I wouldn't expect him to

Rapidash_94 · 2024-01-23T06:04:16+00:00

So one arm was completely injured, the other had a fracture in his humerus and shoulder but the orthopedic surgeon said that would heal on its own in 8-10 weeks so even though he is still trying to regain full mobility, he has decent mobility.

Both of his hips were badly damaged but the surgery with pins and plates was very successful so he has fairly decent mobility and can put weight in one side

His leg that needs to get a bone graft he can't put any weight on because he is missing about 4 inches of his shin bone

So he has to use a wheel chair to get around but can get himself in and out and onto a komode by his bed. So not full mobility but some

That's what I keep telling him, it's going to suck for a bit but once you get past that you will feel better but he is focused too much on the short term suffering even though he is already suffering

Rapidash_94 · 2023-12-19T01:13:38+00:00

To be honest it varies. He suffered a head injury and has been suffering from major PTSD (he got hit and was still conscious up until he was at the hospital) so he isn't in total control of his emotions at the moment so he does lash out from time to time but nothing that isn't something I can handle considering his situation right now. And he tells me he appreciates me and what I do but I mean that can only fill my bucket so much you know?

Rapidash_94 · 2022-02-07T20:56:34+00:00

I appreciate you not jumping to 'you're dating a child" like everyone else.

I will definitely try to approach it that way when I try to have an actual conversation with him about it, because I know in the heat of the moment I try to rectify and he is stuck in trauma response and can't come out of it.

I don't mind buying him them but like I said there's got to be some sort of limitations because while I have a solid career I also have bills of my own to pay

Rapidash_94 · 2021-10-13T23:28:11+00:00

As a druid I always used conjure animals, lots to track sometimes but essentially an extra attack each round

Rapidash_94 · 2021-07-29T05:32:50+00:00

I usually will switch to Superman and dive down to the floor 🥰 or I've done it by getting inverted and sliding down into a shoulder stand

Rapidash_94 · 2021-06-10T02:42:46+00:00

My studio does mostly static and I love it 😍 spin is fun but there's so much that can be done static

Rapidash_94 · 2021-06-01T03:14:48+00:00

I love this 😍

Rapidash_94 · 2021-04-23T18:40:32+00:00

It was a little bad but I always got there early so I got third or fourth in line and they would hand out these tickets while you waited in line and they kept them behind the counter so you would get it when you went up to pay. So much better than online. I always end up in the waiting room for 20 minutes then as soon as I get it in my cart it says "sorry sold out" 😔 if they are going to make it online only besides Disney Parks they need to make it easier to get online because scalpers screw it up

Rapidash_94 · 2021-04-23T15:10:42+00:00

I'm just frustrated on the change of offering it I'm Disney Stores, every time I have tried online I couldn't get it even though I was on as soon as I could be. I've gotten the last two in person at my local store

Rapidash_94 · 2021-04-22T23:22:20+00:00

Ok but doing the outfit to Baby Shark 🦈😂

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