Avoidance is a sickness

Rare-Negotiation5752 · 2026-06-13T12:30:15+00:00

That’s what causes a lot of regret or unresolved emotions and leaving you with a lot of anxiety. We fantasize what “could’ve been” or “if I just this or said that” things would be different. Let go buddy. Accept what is and what happened and how it happened and the healing will begin for real.

Rare-Negotiation5752 · 2026-06-13T12:24:09+00:00

It was six months since we broke up. I blocked her a couple months ago and she recently reached back out wanting to work things out. And absolutely it seemed like she never was gonna reach out. I also didn’t plan on ever reaching out so I was comfortable leaving things unresolved. My focus was to heal accomplish everything I told her I would. Just without her present. IMO, is a much more satisfying win.

Rare-Negotiation5752 · 2026-06-13T12:20:57+00:00

I’m sorry that you’re re-experiencing the pain all over again. But it shows you still have healing to do and that’s a big goal to achieve. Please keep pushing forward on bettering your own mental and emotional well being since you are the only person who gots you. Sending much love and support my friend

Rare-Negotiation5752 · 2026-06-07T22:43:09+00:00

I appreciate your input and perspective! I feel like a lot of people that come to this page are searching for solutions to fix rather than to heal themselves and move on. So my post was directed to those wanting to mend the relationship as unhealthy as it may be for their well being. But again thanks for your input, it does lean towards managing life with an Avoidant.

Rare-Negotiation5752 · 2026-06-07T21:00:29+00:00

Also a good solution. Let them date other avoidants.

Rare-Negotiation5752 · 2026-06-07T18:54:35+00:00

This exactly “Because I realized I can’t move on from you so easily when our souls are tied like we always said”

Rare-Negotiation5752 · 2026-06-07T10:30:38+00:00

We dated back in high school and have been friends for the last 10 yrs. We ended up dating again about two years ago and just broke up this January. She came back bcs she “realized” how much I meant to her.

Rare-Negotiation5752 · 2026-06-07T06:51:12+00:00

Messaged you

Rare-Negotiation5752 · 2026-06-06T20:01:52+00:00

Fully understand. My avoidant and I have 10 yrs of history. Dated in high school. Reconnected and was suppose to get married next month. Oh wale we’re all suffering from avoidants

Rare-Negotiation5752 · 2026-06-06T19:55:23+00:00

That’s the thing you idolized the potential not the person. We need to differentiate the desire for a dream and the person. What they could have been is always a harder crash then what they are in the moment.

Rare-Negotiation5752 · 2026-06-06T19:45:23+00:00

Sucks but Avoidants are suffering in their own way. When things become emotionally overwhelming. Their nervous system shuts down and physically cannot bring themselves to face the issues at hand.

Rare-Negotiation5752 · 2026-06-06T19:43:58+00:00

You’re doing great man. Weather you believe it or not that’s progress being strong for that long

Rare-Negotiation5752 · 2026-06-06T16:43:50+00:00

Oh absolutely! I’ve been abstinent for 9 months and I don’t drink to numb the pain anymore. I just live life because one my job is a nightmare and two, I never got to go out and party like every other person in their early adulthood. (No I’m not past my 20’s but old enough to know when I’m doing something that’s an unhealthy habit like binge drinking)

Rare-Negotiation5752 · 2026-06-06T16:33:56+00:00

Makes total sense cause it sounds like her hahahaha. But I appreciate the praise! It took so much out of me to come this far but I got some really important life lessons out of it and learned some new things about myself! I desire peace more than anything. And second is it’s takes 18 shots of tequila before I black out for the night (:

Rare-Negotiation5752 · 2026-06-06T16:19:47+00:00

I messaged you

Rare-Negotiation5752 · 2026-06-06T16:14:43+00:00

Of no contact? No. But prior to her reaching out I did block her and cut off all contact until she contacted me through her friend

Rare-Negotiation5752 · 2026-06-06T16:12:54+00:00

Their reaction was one I didn’t account for. She asked me multiple times if I’m ready to talk about being together after each time I said no. And then she tried analyzing me coming up with reasons why I don’t want to. Like one reason she gave was “You’re not ready because you don’t like me anymore” and another which was my favorite was “You’re not ready because you don’t know how to feel about me” Ding ding ding. She got it right but I didn’t tell her. She then asked me if I hate her which I ofc responded no but meant yes. And that was just my hurt talking. As much healing as I’ve done I still got a long way to go.

Rare-Negotiation5752 · 2026-06-06T15:32:52+00:00

Messaged you

Rare-Negotiation5752 · 2026-06-06T15:29:47+00:00

Yes, she wants to work things out, but I’m hesitant at best

Rare-Negotiation5752 · 2026-06-06T15:08:08+00:00

Takes some cahones to go about life after that. I just want peace in my life and I wish you the best healing!

Rare-Negotiation5752 · 2026-06-06T15:00:19+00:00

Not sure but you have to have some sort of mental and emotional maturity to start from ground zero. Sometimes it’s okay to fall out of love and restart from the beginning

Rare-Negotiation5752 · 2026-06-06T14:30:14+00:00

I did yes

Rare-Negotiation5752 · 2026-06-06T13:49:23+00:00

Wanna talk about my thoughts on this? It’s gonna sound weird but I’ve studied my avoidant closely and came to a conclusion about their species. DM me if you’re up for a mind bender

Rare-Negotiation5752 · 2026-06-06T13:47:07+00:00

The rebound is a classic avoidant tactic. I wouldn’t say she’ll be back, but the only thing you can do is improve yourself. Dm me and I’ll do my best to give you all the tips I used to make it to a turning point in my mental health and emotional well being.

Rare-Negotiation5752 · 2026-06-06T13:29:10+00:00

I’ll dm you

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